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RE: Why do you enjoy seeing him/her cry? - 10/19/2009 10:02:15 PM

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Well, first off....there's just something about it thats....attractive to me....either as a sub/slave who's being made to cry by my Master...or when I have the opportunity to dominate and/or train subs/slaves myself. I guess it really depends on the person and what you like. For me, being the "rip your throat out" kinda girl that I am, there's few things that I find as hot as a person who is weeping from pain, weeping from frustration, weeping from fear, weeping from love. And I know that when my Master and I interact and he brings me to that point..I love him even more...because he is the ONLY person who can. The level of intimacy that is experienced when the person you are controlling is earnestly crying...bareing their soul to you...is uncomparable..and reached by no other means. It stands alone in its own category. And for those of you who don't understand, I truly feel sorry that you won't ever experience it like we do.

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RE: Why do you enjoy seeing him/her cry? - 10/20/2009 12:27:07 AM

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It's an interesting situation this isn't it? If someone is crying because I've been hurt of they think I have been hurt or worse, I get annoyed at myself that my actions, even when they were part and parcel of the job (Very High Risk), has caused this distress and yet there is a perverse pleasure with the thought that this person does actually care and love me (Something I still have not come to terms with). Generally, I I get no pleasure or satisfaction in making someone cry. Quite the reverse in fact Tears tend to bring out the caring and nurturing side of me and yet the tears leave me with a deep sense of sadness even though what I was doing was something that person may have begged for. The sadist side of me finds sexual turn ons when administering pain but, I still have to look at myself in the mirror hopefully with pride and too much pain play makes this very hard indeed. perhaps I am one of the armchair sadist brigade.

Ahh well enough introspection and self psychoanalysis. My comments pertain to me and have nothing to do with how anyone else feels about this question.

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RE: Why do you enjoy seeing him/her cry? - 10/20/2009 3:20:25 AM

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Another attraction to seeing my slave take pain for me is it is a phenomenal touching thing to see how much they care for me to take it. That certainly tugs at the heart strings and goes to part of the arousal.

Yes absolutely! The fact that worthlesstrash has stated she is not a Masochist also adds to the dynamic. He knows this so it makes the exchange even greater.

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RE: Why do you enjoy seeing him/her cry? - 11/3/2009 10:15:21 PM

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As a sadist, being aroused by tears appears to come with the territory. My lover crying in response to my touch is one of the most beautiful things she can do for me. Kissing and licking the tears trickling down her face—tears that belong to me—is such an intimate act of connection, of communion.

I grew up pretty sheltered and even though I read The Joy of Sex cover-to-cover many times, it still baffled me that I would get a raging hard-on every time my second girlfriend cried. I had never seen anything more beautiful and more feminine.

I felt like a monster every time I would “accidentally” hurt her or make her cry from frustration. It was a relief for me when I discovered that she would cry from coming too hard too; that was something I went for with gusto because it was something positive I could do to get what I craved.

Tears are drops of liquid emotion and my lover’s emotional response is all that I am after. Prying open my lover’s heart and soul, to make her spread her emotional wings around me and warm me with the radiance of her response, is what I crave. It is what I need.

Maybe being a sadist means that I am emotionally disfigured, I’ll leave that for others to decide. But I consider myself blessed. I get to experience something beautiful, a connection so profound that it is almost spiritual; the intimacy between the torturer and the tortured.

Am I abusive? Narcissistic? Truth be told; I don’t know. I don’t think I am, but if I was, I would deny it. Some say that denying that you are a narcissist in fact proves that you are. However, I while ago I made a comment elsewhere that may say what I think of my species in a nutshell:

I like to say that what we sadists lack in sympathy, we make up for in empathy. I would go so far as to say that a sadist could be the most attentive and sensitive lover, should he venture into the taboo areas of romance and tenderness. Few will have better insight into your emotions and what makes you tick because that simply comes with the territory.

Who, after all, has greater motivation to dive into your heart and soul and solve the puzzle of what makes you tick but your torturer?

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RE: Why do you enjoy seeing him/her cry? - 11/4/2009 6:16:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: kettil

As a sadist, being aroused by tears appears to come with the territory. My lover crying in response to my touch is one of the most beautiful things she can do for me. Kissing and licking the tears trickling down her face—tears that belong to me—is such an intimate act of connection, of communion.

I grew up pretty sheltered and even though I read The Joy of Sex cover-to-cover many times, it still baffled me that I would get a raging hard-on every time my second girlfriend cried. I had never seen anything more beautiful and more feminine.

I felt like a monster every time I would “accidentally” hurt her or make her cry from frustration. It was a relief for me when I discovered that she would cry from coming too hard too; that was something I went for with gusto because it was something positive I could do to get what I craved.

So, do you think your love for tears led you to be a sadist? Or do you think they are just two seperate aspects of yourself?

I ask because my s.o. has not shown much potential in my opinion for ever being a sadist, but I do remember him saying once that he likes it when girls cry. Then he got embarrased and would not explain further.

I have given up on the idea that I might be able to lead him into bdsm. I don't want to force it... but if I overlooked some potential for him to really like this... well then I will try one more time...

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RE: Why do you enjoy seeing him/her cry? - 11/6/2009 1:02:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: PainfullyCurious

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ORIGINAL: kettil

As a sadist, being aroused by tears appears to come with the territory. My lover crying in response to my touch is one of the most beautiful things she can do for me. Kissing and licking the tears trickling down her face—tears that belong to me—is such an intimate act of connection, of communion.

I grew up pretty sheltered and even though I read The Joy of Sex cover-to-cover many times, it still baffled me that I would get a raging hard-on every time my second girlfriend cried. I had never seen anything more beautiful and more feminine.

I felt like a monster every time I would “accidentally” hurt her or make her cry from frustration. It was a relief for me when I discovered that she would cry from coming too hard too; that was something I went for with gusto because it was something positive I could do to get what I craved.

So, do you think your love for tears led you to be a sadist? Or do you think they are just two seperate aspects of yourself?

I ask because my s.o. has not shown much potential in my opinion for ever being a sadist, but I do remember him saying once that he likes it when girls cry. Then he got embarrased and would not explain further.

I have given up on the idea that I might be able to lead him into bdsm. I don't want to force it... but if I overlooked some potential for him to really like this... well then I will try one more time...

I think my dacryphilia is an expression of my sadistic bent. They are linked in that I am primarily aroused by tears that are of my making. Crying is an emotional reaction, it is only indirectly caused by pain. It is an outward manifestation of her emotional state and she has to feel safe enough to open up that much, to allow herself to be vulnerable enough to cry. Her tears are the ripples in the pond of her emotions.

Even admitting to yourself that you get aroused by tears is hard in the beginning. It is taboo to take pleasure in something that is viewed as a negative response. I understand only too well your partner’s reaction; I have been there myself. Admitting to myself what I was and what made me tick was one of the hardest emotional journeys of my life. I could just not reconcile being a good and honorable man while at the same time acknowledging getting aroused by experiencing my lover’s response to me in the ways I needed.

I understand that you don’t want to force it with your partner, but sometimes, a woman hitting you over the head with her intuition and insight into the depths of your inner darkness can be the best thing that ever happened to you. It was for me, at least. Take a look at my own coming of age story, as it were. I call it “A Female of My Own Species” and you will find it on my blog at http://dreamwalker.com/a-female-of-my-species I will never forget the day I emerged from my chrysalis. I will forever be grateful to the woman whose strength and conviction and suffering finally set me free.

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RE: Why do you enjoy seeing him/her cry? - 11/6/2009 6:01:00 AM

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Hmm... Good Story.
I'll have to wait until I see him in person to bring it up. If you don't mind, I might let him read that story if it seems at all like he's into it.

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