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cherrytvsissy -> RE: Feminism (10/13/2009 10:20:38 AM)
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As a sissy I have a slightly unique view on this subject. Yes, I like football, but I also like watching things like Project Runway (even through I find the people on it mostly annoying and insipid). But, my main view of Feminism is different than just football vs. frou-frou.
Feminism has been my liberation and the thing that has given breath and fullness to my being. Growing up in a world that always said I should think, feel and like a predetermined list of things based on my genitalia, when so much in my heart, my mind, my soul and my guts constantly told me I loved and even needed, (sometimes desperately), things from "opposite" list, (separated and condemned from me) was emotional and mental torture. Self doubt and loathing, guilt and shame from every social, religious, family, legal and intimate source, made me feel like a planet spinning uncontrollably in the wrong direction. Nothing made sense, nothing fit, yet the desire, the necessity, to cross gender lines was undeniable.
There is a book, "Girlfriend: Men. Women and Drag," (I think I have it right) by a woman, Holly Burbach (I hope I have that right, too), that finally made sense of everything for me. The author is a Feminist and the book is less about transgenderism than sexism. Simply put, she concludes, and illustrates, that the sin of being transgendered (in any and all of its manifestations), is no more than being an auxiliary to the sin of being female. Somehow, worldwide, there is a notion that being female is inferior to being male. It is not even so much a concept that males are superior as the idea, and sadly the practice, that females are somehow lesser humans. Given this often unspoken, all be it universal notion; the one thing that would immediately call it a lie would be the admission by some penile privileged persons that being feminized is somehow, not only more attractive, but unquestionably desirable. Heresy! Insanity! Blasphemy! Perversion!
I finally realized my conflict was not in being a male while wanting to be feminized, but rather in being a category of female and being diminished and degraded for that offense. I rejected terms like crossdresser and transvestite as moons in the orbits of a male planet and identified simply as a sissy, a moon in orbit of a female planet. As the cliché goes, "it’s better to hated for who you are, than loved for who you aren’t."
Feminism has freed me to accept myself. Freed me to say I’d rather you hate me for being female, than love me for being male. I accept myself, I rejoice in who I am and I thank the Almighty for this gift She has given me. I thank Feminist and Feminism for freeing me, and giving me the truth to live fully, and to finally be happy.
And, as for football, it really has nothing to with Feminism either way.
" How brave men have been in destruction. How brave women have been in survival." ~ Pamela Dugdale ~
"A man's got to do what a man's got to do. A woman must do what he can't." ~ Rhonda Hansome ~
"Whatever women must do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good. Luckily, this is not difficult." ~ Charlotte Whitton ~
"Women know that the best things in life are free. Caring, loving, understanding, supporting and comforting. All the things they give daily, continually, without asking for anything in return." ~ Linda Macfarlane ~
" No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." ~ Eleanor Roosevelt ~
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