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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss




Ok,
Now i'm pissed.
Will you shut up already?
YESSSSSSSSSSSSs i lied about my age being ONE YEAR DIFFERENT. so i could use this damn site before i was 'allowed'
i could of easily just deleted this and made a different one.. but no i decided to be truthfull. YESSSSSSSSSSS i am the most untruthful person on this fucking site because i lied about my age once SO YOU GUYS KNOW ME SOOOOO WELL. Shut up already. I get it, I'm the most horrible person who lies lies lies because i lied about my age.



Anyways, back to the subject.
- They will buy me a ticket back home. I'd be coming up friday after classes and come back monday for the first visit. I'd only miss monday which is dueable.
- Jumping at my feet was a term...that he shows he is interested. Just because he is a dom doesn't mean he shouldn't show how interested he is. When I first started talking to them I sensed they were a lot more interested.. that's all i'm saying. And with not talking to her since the revnovation of the house..it's a bit sketchy to me. But, whenever I ask him...I get a " Sweetie don't worry we want to come up you will come up we are just really busy" ...it's like saying, but not doing in the sense... you think he'd talk to me a bit more somehow make some time... well he does a BIT but she doesn't. That has me a little...weary.
- They barely have time to talk to me but he/she has time to check collarme?
Seems to me they are REALLY keeping their basket open, if you know what I mean.
I just have no idea what to do at this point.

I'm thinking with text - let him start the convos. because i am done with getting maybe 1 2 (3 if i'm lucky) replies inbetween i'd say ...6 hours. that doesn't cut it with keeping in touch with me.

PLUS i plainly state in my profile..." if you are too busy to have a relationship it won't work"

because somehow someway when i get bsuy and YES i get BUSYYYYYYY esp being in college and the classes i am taking i somehow , SOMEWAY find the time i need to if something is important to me.

Ummmmm...... No.

I honestly don't care if you're pissed because the type of person that you are was splattered all over a message board for the world to see.  There really are people on this planet who have every right to tell you what they think about that, rather than the cute little picture.

Let's get another thing straight.  It's not Me that's pissing you off.  You pissed you off.  Those are your actions.  You own them.  It's part of growing up.  Frankly, it doesn't have a thing to do with Me.

The people that you are going to meet, do they care more about who you are or just that you come in a pretty package?  What about the other way around?  If they were known to lie about things that could potentially harm you, would you care?

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss


Ok,
Now i'm pissed.
Will you shut up already?
YESSSSSSSSSSSSs i lied about my age being ONE YEAR DIFFERENT. so i could use this damn site before i was 'allowed'
i could of easily just deleted this and made a different one.. but no i decided to be truthfull. YESSSSSSSSSSS i am the most untruthful person on this fucking site because i lied about my age once SO YOU GUYS KNOW ME SOOOOO WELL. Shut up already. I get it, I'm the most horrible person who lies lies lies because i lied about my age.

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Original: ishyB

Her action was certainly illegal, against the TOS, deceptive, immature and morally questionable.
However, in my oppinion, the response she got from some members was also against the TOS, immature and morally questionable.
I've never know two wrongs to make a right, and I am merely suggesting that if this whole thing is of such importance to some people, they should take the appropriate actions, instead of the inappropriate ones.

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

Anyways, back to the subject.
- They will buy me a ticket back home. I'd be coming up friday after classes and come back monday for the first visit. I'd only miss monday which is dueable.
- Jumping at my feet was a term...that he shows he is interested. Just because he is a dom doesn't mean he shouldn't show how interested he is. When I first started talking to them I sensed they were a lot more interested.. that's all i'm saying. And with not talking to her since the revnovation of the house..it's a bit sketchy to me. But, whenever I ask him...I get a " Sweetie don't worry we want to come up you will come up we are just really busy" ...it's like saying, but not doing in the sense... you think he'd talk to me a bit more somehow make some time... well he does a BIT but she doesn't. That has me a little...weary.
- They barely have time to talk to me but he/she has time to check collarme?
Seems to me they are REALLY keeping their basket open, if you know what I mean.
I just have no idea what to do at this point.

I'm thinking with text - let him start the convos. because i am done with getting maybe 1 2 (3 if i'm lucky) replies inbetween i'd say ...6 hours. that doesn't cut it with keeping in touch with me.

PLUS i plainly state in my profile..." if you are too busy to have a relationship it won't work"

because somehow someway when i get bsuy and YES i get BUSYYYYYYY esp being in college and the classes i am taking i somehow , SOMEWAY find the time i need to if something is important to me.

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

Anyways, back to the subject.
- They will buy me a ticket back home. I'd be coming up friday after classes and come back monday for the first visit. I'd only miss monday which is dueable.
- Jumping at my feet was a term...that he shows he is interested. Just because he is a dom doesn't mean he shouldn't show how interested he is. When I first started talking to them I sensed they were a lot more interested.. that's all i'm saying. And with not talking to her since the revnovation of the house..it's a bit sketchy to me. But, whenever I ask him...I get a " Sweetie don't worry we want to come up you will come up we are just really busy" ...it's like saying, but not doing in the sense... you think he'd talk to me a bit more somehow make some time... well he does a BIT but she doesn't. That has me a little...weary.
- They barely have time to talk to me but he/she has time to check collarme?
Seems to me they are REALLY keeping their basket open, if you know what I mean.
I just have no idea what to do at this point.

I'm thinking with text - let him start the convos. because i am done with getting maybe 1 2 (3 if i'm lucky) replies inbetween i'd say ...6 hours. that doesn't cut it with keeping in touch with me.

PLUS i plainly state in my profile..." if you are too busy to have a relationship it won't work"

because somehow someway when i get bsuy and YES i get BUSYYYYYYY esp being in college and the classes i am taking i somehow , SOMEWAY find the time i need to if something is important to me.

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ORIGINAL: ishyB
. Only people who sometime indulge in lying assume that everybody sometimes lies and that lying is therefore excusable. The problem with the fact that you lied once is NOT that you lied, but that you now cannot be trusted to never lie again... IOW you cannot be trusted period.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
The house project is a very viable reason for their time to be taken up.  If it's something as extensive for them to go through needing an appraiser (that is the right word, btw, so you were correct) it may be a major renovation.  That's going to take time away from you.

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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

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ORIGINAL: ishyB
. Only people who sometime indulge in lying assume that everybody sometimes lies and that lying is therefore excusable. The problem with the fact that you lied once is NOT that you lied, but that you now cannot be trusted to never lie again... IOW you cannot be trusted period.

In my experience, people who claim they don't lie tend to be lying to themselves. The circumstances under which lying is excusable is a big ol messy subject. But absolutist statements such as yours, think about what you are saying - all teenagers who lie about their age to gain premature access to the privileges of adulthood cannot be trusted, period - just aren't helpful guides for dealing with the world.

OP, relax, and stop fussing over this. Don't over-think yourself into misery. IF the couple is lying about the house, you're probably never going to meet them. If they're telling the truth about the house, but they don't consider meeting you a high priority, you're probably never going to meet them. If you can't deal with that possibility, save yourself the trouble and call the whole thing off.

It's far easier to assess your own tolerance for ambiguity (am I being strung along?) than it is to assess the true intentions of others. You're young and attractive. You'll have numerous opportunities. Don't develop a false sense of scarcity that motivates you to wait around longer than you are comfortable with.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I honestly don't care that you're annoyed.  If you would have read your own thread, you'd have seen the answers were in there.

The house project is a very viable reason for their time to be taken up.  If it's something as extensive for them to go through needing an appraiser (that is the right word, btw, so you were correct) it may be a major renovation.  That's going to take time away from you. 

Is it possible that the wife is at the project and not able to talk to you by cell phone?  Yes.  Since you looked at My profile, you know that I live in a small town in CA and I can tell you that I don't get cell reception here.  That's also very plausible. 

How do you know if someone is stringing you along?  You don't.  Until their words and their actions meet up, they are just words.  You have no idea if they are telling the truth or not.  (See how that works?) 

Here's what I'd be doing if I were you.  Talk to both of them.  Confirm an actual visit.  Unless that's going to happen, you are wasting your time and theirs.  At eighteen, you should be living your life (college, friends, etc) not waiting for it.  That's My opinion.  If you don't like it as you have the rest of My opinions, too bad.

All of that aside, you do have some other things to look at in your life. 

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ORIGINAL: agirl
I don't really care what's *right or wrong* in terms of meeting up with people for the first time on the D/s front. I was speaking from a purely practical sense as a Mum of young people that age, with some younger and some older as well.

She's got a sense, as dark said, of her worth ....it's not a crime to recognise that you are an attractive prospect..Dom in the offing or not.

He's not HER her dom, unless I'm missing something ....he's a prospective one......and she's a prospective *whatever* to him and his wife. I haven't read one thing in the thread that's led me to think this is anything beyond being interested in the *prospect of*. .......and that's where MY advice has sprung from.

agirl

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I will point out that nearly everything you found helpful I have said in my first post or two to you (even though you thought I was an unmitigated ASSHOLE) in a way you found offensive, and now you see that in this world, to others someone finds you and me and him and them offensive.......

Generally to the group, since the only authority we know of on this site (on this forum) is ModeratorEleven and since the girl is still posting the position of the site has been made clear and they have resolved it in their own way. So, lillmiss, quit referring to it and everyone else should too. It is resolved.

Ron the Reasonable Asshole

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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex

I like this-

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ORIGINAL: agirl
I don't really care what's *right or wrong* in terms of meeting up with people for the first time on the D/s front. I was speaking from a purely practical sense as a Mum of young people that age, with some younger and some older as well.

She's got a sense, as dark said, of her worth ....it's not a crime to recognise that you are an attractive prospect..Dom in the offing or not.

He's not HER her dom, unless I'm missing something ....he's a prospective one......and she's a prospective *whatever* to him and his wife. I haven't read one thing in the thread that's led me to think this is anything beyond being interested in the *prospect of*. .......and that's where MY advice has sprung from.

agirl

This is one rare case where her comment about the Dom "jumping at her feet" is exactly what I would advise her if she were my own daughter, being pursued by some guy.

In this instance, I would suggest that she aggressively demand a lot of trust-building from the couple; real names, addresses, phone numbers. She should give this info to a trusted friend before the visit, have a "safe call" to speak to when she is there, etc. Let him earn her trust.

She may be willful, disobedient, and self-centered, but as the parent of a 19 yo boy, I see that as pretty much par for the course. Scold away if it makes you feel better, but only time and the wisdom of experience really changes an adolescent.

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

uhhhhhhhhhhhhhh no, I am not, in the light of day, calmly re-read them.......

Ron

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ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

shit..I'm falling in love with a DOM..

GM