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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 10:36:21 AM

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One of the best predictors of future behavior is past behaviors.

If you are happy and fulfilled with his past behavior, then by all means continue chatting with him. If not, then maybe trying to do something different.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 10:44:42 AM

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I meant: move ON. Not in.

~facepalm~

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 11:08:42 AM

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LMAO.. that is priceless..

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 1:44:57 PM

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I know it is stupid,right, but two out of six times I know it was legitimate reasons, he has an ability to be very convincing. you have no idea. So it leaves me not knowing what to believe. Really.
I mentioned my worries to him thinking I wanted to see his reaction, I told him I was afraid he wouldnt come,since he didnt show up so many times, I also said I didnt know,if he was ´dangerous´or so,since we havent met,and that I was nervous because we havent met,and what did I know,maybe he only want one night or sort of. I said something like that. His reply? He told me he was stunned,that he was speachless and didnt know what to say, and said things like but I could say the same about you.
First he didnt understood,at all, then when I tried to call he told me he couldnt talk in phone because his nephews were on visit,and they shouldnt be involved, then he said "you need to stop.. that Im might be dangerous.." .. then he wanted to drop it, then he told me we already talked about it, and I said you refused to talk last time, then he said "now youve made me nervous for who you really are",and then he pull it could be said the same about you possibly, then he was speachless, and I asked him about one nighter and if he really meant he liked me,like hes said so many times, then he said he couldnt say anything about the future,but if I continue doubt he will come he lose the feeling for coming, I asked do you really want one night and he said it is not his intention at all. that was the last,for now,at least.
what has he going on here? is this manipulation?
is he consiously trying to hurt me? is this some game?
or is he just emotionally not that smart?
I tried to explain my fear and talk to him about all this, and this was his reactions. Right now Im just like..

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 1:51:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: monaslave

what has he going on here? is this manipulation?
is he consiously trying to hurt me? is this some game?
or is he just emotionally not that smart?

1. He's fucking with your head.
2. Yes.
3. He's trying to control you and he doesn't care if he hurts you.
4. Yes.
5. He is not emotionally that smart. ("I could say the same thing about you" is totally from the amateur kit!) But he is apparently smarter than you.

I'm just going to assume from here on out that you are actually trolling, because no one could be this clueless.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 1:56:28 PM

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God... lady what do you think? What other experiences have you had that might point you in a direction or do you like being eternally lost? From all your post and such, you seem to e\njoy being lost and scared and played with as everyone you talk about does it to you. So... you are doing it to you.

This guy belittles your fears or concerns and points right back at you. That is a huge red flag! Then he blames you taking the focus off himself or trying to... it wouldn't fly with someone with half the common sense one needs to be an adult.

Why don't you grow up and stop playing lil games with anyone who says he really, really likes you. Anyone can talk pretty. As you should well know by now.

I really think you like drama.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 2:01:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: monaslave

I know it is stupid,right, but two out of six times I know it was legitimate reasons, he has an ability to be very convincing. you have no idea. So it leaves me not knowing what to believe. Really.
I mentioned my worries to him thinking I wanted to see his reaction, I told him I was afraid he wouldnt come,since he didnt show up so many times, I also said I didnt know,if he was ´dangerous´or so,since we havent met,and that I was nervous because we havent met,and what did I know,maybe he only want one night or sort of. I said something like that. His reply? He told me he was stunned,that he was speachless and didnt know what to say, and said things like but I could say the same about you.
First he didnt understood,at all, then when I tried to call he told me he couldnt talk in phone because his nephews were on visit,and they shouldnt be involved, then he said "you need to stop.. that Im might be dangerous.." .. then he wanted to drop it, then he told me we already talked about it, and I said you refused to talk last time, then he said "now youve made me nervous for who you really are",and then he pull it could be said the same about you possibly, then he was speachless, and I asked him about one nighter and if he really meant he liked me,like hes said so many times, then he said he couldnt say anything about the future,but if I continue doubt he will come he lose the feeling for coming, I asked do you really want one night and he said it is not his intention at all. that was the last,for now,at least.
what has he going on here? is this manipulation?
is he consiously trying to hurt me? is this some game?
or is he just emotionally not that smart?
I tried to explain my fear and talk to him about all this, and this was his reactions. Right now Im just like..

What is the purpose of this post? What do you not get from all the replies you have read on this thread? How are we supposed to take you seriously?

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 2:22:27 PM

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just had to get that out of my system

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 2:53:19 PM

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If, at 35, you can't figure this one out by yourself, then you need to check into the asylum for chronically clueless subs.

If you were vanilla would you let someone cancel on you 8 times, and accept a ninth date?

I hope not!

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 4:15:04 PM

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He's married, and you are a fantasy he is never going to act on.

That should have been obvious to you.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 6:28:02 PM

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what makes you think hes married?

He even said to me that I was making HIM worried with the things I said!!
He had an ability to make ppl believe him. really. and to let the good talk to his advantage.
any normal person wouldve could handle expression of worries,I dont get why he cant do that.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 6:33:40 PM

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This has to be a joke. No one can be this naive.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 6:45:03 PM

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It sounds like he's either bi-polar, scared or just enjoying the thought of being a Dom, but isn't ready for real-life. I wouldn't waste anymore time with him.....just saying.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 6:54:18 PM

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Time to restart the old profile. Move on, this one is not serious

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 6:56:58 PM

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This has to be a joke. No one can be this naive.

Little off topic here, but damn Aileen, do you ever take a bad picture???? geez...always with the perfect looks.....stop it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 7:21:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: monaslave

what makes you think hes married?

He even said to me that I was making HIM worried with the things I said!!
He had an ability to make ppl believe him. really. and to let the good talk to his advantage.
any normal person wouldve could handle expression of worries,I dont get why he cant do that.

Are you even listening to us?

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 7:30:54 PM

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This has to be a joke. No one can be this naive.

I'm willing to cut people a fair amount of slack for different levels of experience, but even my cat is more relationship-savvy than the OP.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 7:37:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

This has to be a joke. No one can be this naive.

I'm willing to cut people a fair amount of slack for different levels of experience, but even my cat is more relationship-savvy than the OP.

I raised my cat right, she would've closed the deal or moved on months ahead of the OP.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 7:42:07 PM

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Yes, I think he's serious.

That is what you want to hear, right? Now you've heard it.

If you aren't ready to give up yet, stick it out another 48 hours and see what happens on Saturday. In the meantime, I'd pick up a few magazines and/or a book in case you end up sitting alone again.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/29/2009 7:46:45 PM

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I raised my cat right, she would've closed the deal or moved on months ahead of the OP.

Seriously. "Dude, you show up with three freshly killed mice at 7:30 p.m. on Saturday night, or I'll use your leg for a scratching post."

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