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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:04:57 AM   
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but that would be a strange thing to do without trying anything sexual if he didnt liked me


How old are you again, monaslave? Seriously, you seem very naive about men.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:07:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		old enough to hear I should know, but I do think its weird, I know most men would try be sexual,but that wasnt.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:08:21 AM   
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what is married in his visit and his last behavior from yesterday to today?? that he left so soon? that he didnt dare touch me much/didnt lay up?
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today he hurried early home


cancelled 8 times, didn't have time to pack any toys (takes all of 45 seconds) and hauls it on home in a hurry. Married.


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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:09:07 AM   
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Why don't you just call him and ask him why he didn't fuck you?


Because mona prefers talking with us.


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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:12:04 AM   
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Why don't you just call him and ask him why he didn't fuck you?


Because mona prefers talking with us.


She must be a masochist then.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:16:40 AM   
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well he didnt try get in bed with me,and thats strange because who wouldnt.


of course, maybe is really isn't married. Perhaps he doesn't find you attractive in the least and was too much of a gentleman to tell you. Sooo...he thought if he canceled out on you enough times you would certainly have the self esteem to stop chasing him.

Finally though, he rolls his eyes and sucks it up. He goes to see you but since he finds you totally unattractive he doesn't bring any toys and certainly no condoms as he does not want to encourage you and has no desire to see you without your clothing.

He spent the night watching the clock and hauled ass as soon as the sun rose.

There....happy now?

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:18:26 AM   
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well he didnt try get in bed with me,and thats strange because who wouldnt.


of course, maybe is really isn't married. Perhaps he doesn't find you attractive in the least and was too much of a gentleman to tell you. Sooo...he thought if he canceled out on you enough times you would certainly have the self esteem to stop chasing him.

Finally though, he rolls his eyes and sucks it up. He goes to see you but since he finds you totally unattractive he doesn't bring any toys and certainly no condoms as he does not want to encourage you and has no desire to see you without your clothing.

He spent the night watching the clock and hauled ass as soon as the sun rose.

There....happy now?


But but but...he touched her booby.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:22:08 AM   
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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:23:13 AM   
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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:23:17 AM   
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Fascinating concept.  Can a D/s relationship work between a completely frenzied sub and a clueless dolt who calls himself Lord UberDom?

This reminds me of the concept of an infinite number of monkeys on an infinite number of typewriters who over time will recreate all the great works of literature... If a clueless Dom wannabe is give an infinite number of chances, will he eventually randomly do enough Domlike activities to satisfy the sub if her standards are low enough?

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:31:06 AM   
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Can a D/s relationship work between a completely frenzied sub and a clueless dolt who calls himself Lord UberDom?


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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:33:56 AM   
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But but but...he touched her booby.
oh well in that case..........

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:44:07 AM   
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Can a D/s relationship work between a completely frenzied sub and a clueless dolt who calls himself Lord UberDom?


Lord UberDom? Sounds familiar. Is he 6ft0, dark hair, 85 lbs? I think he sent me a "Kneel, bitch!" email. We're having lunch, I just love a strong men who knows what he wants

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:44:46 AM   
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I am only going to respond the the question of why he didn't fuck you.

I personally do not think it strange that he didn't.

It makes sense to me that a reasonable person would want to wait and take their time.

I am wondering, why did you expect that he would?

What is your relationship history like?

We are talking about someone who says (we will leave his ambiguous actions aside for now) he wants a serious D/s relationship with you and you complain that he didn't treat you like a one night stand?

Maybe the reason why he has put off meeting you, does in fact have more to do with you than him... maybe you are a bit all over the place and it has made him unsure about what you want.
You did say he put off meeting you because of stuff that was going on between you, but discounted it as not being a legitimate reason.
Perhaps he didn't want to walk into the home of someone who seems less than stable.
Are you a very emotional person?
Are you very insecure?

I am not saying this to be mean.
I am saying that from your posts, you seem rather unclear about what you want and maybe that has made him skittish.

There are always 2 sides to everything.
We have only heard yours.
You do a good job portraying yourself as someone who is always victimized by your own naive nature...and in turn by the men you meet.
(That may not be how you are in real life but it is how you come across here.)
These are men you choose to pursue relationships with.

While I do not think you are trying to be deceptive, I think it is possible that your perceptions may not allow you to see things as they are.

But if it is 100% them and not you, then I think your "people picker" isn't functioning very well.

It has been said before: you need to take responsibility for your choices and for your life.
Otherwise in 5, 10, 20 years, you will still be posting about the same stuff.
The names will change, the problems will remain the same.

Best wishes.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 6:55:08 AM   
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There are always 2 sides to everything.
We have only heard yours.


How great would it be for us to hear the other side?

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 7:09:24 AM   
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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 7:25:31 AM   
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Why don't you just call him and ask him why he didn't fuck you?


Because mona prefers talking with us.



<Nods>  That's understandable.  At least we show up regularly.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 8:12:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: monaslave

Im honestly very hurt by this guy.   You should have had a clue the second time he stood you up.  He has NO genuine interest in you. 



I honestly thought he wanted something with me,was interested,   If he was, he would have met you eagerly the first time.




I cant cut out in paper how many times he made it clear he wants me, He wants you as an internet screen slut to perform all acts for him.  He is a fucking coward in person.




and how many times we had it exellent together. same wawelengths.   How do you  REALLY know that.  People can say every and anything YOU want to hear.  So of course you think you are a perfect match.  That is what they want you to think. 



His cancelations came as a surprise, but he talked so well each time, and two times I know are legitimate.
You tell yourself they are legitimate because he made you believe they were legitimate excuses.  You wanted legitimate excuses so you believed him. 



anyway,he had me believe him or,give him the bennefit of doubt,which he asked for. so you can say hes used that.

hes used my goodness.Do NOT blame him, YOU allowed him to use your "goodness."




and I dont know him that well to judge weither he spoke the truth,or not.You  were SO POSITIVE the eight excuses were totally believable, esp 2 were totally legitimate and you still refused to see the light of day...why?
He controlled your mind.  You submitted your mind to him and he took every bit and turned you into believing tramp.





I cant believe he put the blame on me for expressing my doubts.   You were easy to blame because you believed in him, so he blamed him.  You were a good doormat to blame.




he obviously couldnt handle it,but why. thats the big question. and its really hard to tell.    Because he was a liar from the start.  He deceived you, manipulated you and you fell for it. 



If nothing else...LEARN A LESSON FROM THIS.  Read everyone's response again and they are correct NOT that HNG. 

I do not apologize for being blunt.  You might be the nicest sweetest most genuine woman around, but you are gullable and naive.  Learn the lesson and move on.  If you repeat this mistake again, you have not learned your lesson, at all. 


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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 8:48:35 AM   
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There are always 2 sides to everything.
We have only heard yours.
Yes.

Mona:
For me, there have been way too many unknowns in this whole thing from the very beginning to be willing to get my pitchfork and torch out. Go talk to this Dom. Listen to what he says. If you believe him, then all is fine. If not, then no relationship is possible. But seriously, you need to stop asking unanswerable questions here. In the presence of such ambiguity, you're only going to get negative spins on it.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 9:43:47 AM   
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nope he spent the night clinging to me
you have a twin bed?


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