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lovingpet -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 11:13:42 AM)
Agreed. I won't even gamble who it will be getting arrested either.

Aylee -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 11:24:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovingpet I am aware. Just the more times it is restated the better. I don't know exactly what it is going to take for a wake up call. lovingpet Sometimes you have to hit rock bottom and spend some time with the pick-ax BEFORE it sinks in. I know that is not a very optimistic view of humanity but that is the way it has looked to me at times. And yes, I have spent some time with that pick-ax myself.

BoiJen -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 11:30:30 AM)
Co-dependent abusive relationships that escalate into physical violence with apparently tons of other problems that are not really being treated is what the readers here are being presented with. This is a situation where attention feeds poor behavior and continues the cycle. To those reading and responding to the OP and stating "go get help", the best, the very best thing you can do is to stop responding to the OP. Put her on block. CM is being used excessively and in an unhealthy manner of copping. STOP RESPONDING. The attention feeds the psychosis. If you want to help this person, simply stop. boi

sirsholly -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 11:38:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aylee quote: ORIGINAL: lovingpet I am aware. Just the more times it is restated the better. I don't know exactly what it is going to take for a wake up call. lovingpet Sometimes you have to hit rock bottom and spend some time with the pick-ax BEFORE it sinks in. I know that is not a very optimistic view of humanity but that is the way it has looked to me at times. perhaps not optimistic, but certainly realistic.

sirsholly -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 11:57:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovingpet I am aware. Just the more times it is restated the better. I don't know exactly what it is going to take for a wake up call. lovingpet LovingPet...it is totally evident she is an abuser...yet in her opening post when talking about her MD reporting her domestic situation to the police, she states quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom But thank god I was gone and so was DAddy and my dad, my real one not ageplay talked to them and told them it was a huge misunderstanding I was not a victom of abuse, because we don't want him arrested my guess is the wake up call will be the police arresting both of them...

devilishpixie -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 12:16:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: lovingpet I am aware. Just the more times it is restated the better. I don't know exactly what it is going to take for a wake up call. lovingpet LovingPet...it is totally evident she is an abuser...yet in her opening post when talking about her MD reporting her domestic situation to the police, she states quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom But thank god I was gone and so was DAddy and my dad, my real one not ageplay talked to them and told them it was a huge misunderstanding I was not a victom of abuse, because we don't want him arrested my guess is the wake up call will be the police arresting both of them... My worse fear is that something worse than being arrested will happen. Like one of them or someone else (innocent bistandard) being hurt or killed.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 12:28:55 PM)
I do listen, and I do what I need to do, but you all say I need to leave james to be a healthy individual and I am co dependant, and I am not listening to that. and do not tell me people didn't, there's been hundreds of people saying I do, And I tell you all we're working on getting help we're walking that path and you all say you're not listening you never will. I am calling bullshit. Think what you will but listening to some of you guys is what got me to almost get my bf arrested and could of gotten me arrested too because I told the dr what was going on in my house, that we rage at each other and hit each other, and sometimes he hits me and I do not like it. I trusted you all to go tell my dr right away honey they won't arrest him or call the cops and damned diddly they did, and my dr was mad at me for reporting abusive situations I don't want the cops meddling in. I went out right away and got myself a program with the dr and got on a pych med, I it made me really sick medically , and quickly too. If I wasn't listening to advice on how I need medication and how I need pych help and I need I need I need, I wouldn't be pounding that health road day after day after day doing things people said I should do that tore the shit out of my home life and made my dr mad at me. See this as blame if you want, see this as not listening see this as wah wah wah poor me, but I am done sitting here and having you guys tell me I am not listening unless you want to let me cry, BECAUSE I DID LISTEN AND I DID WHAT I NEEDED TO, AND IT FUCKED MY HEALTH UP AND IT GOT ME IN TROUBLE WITH MY DR, SINCE SHE'S MAD I REPORTED ABUSE AND DIDNT WANT HIM GOING TO JAIL quote: ORIGINAL: devilishpixie You don't listen to people period unless they are simply patting you on your head and listening incoherently to you venting. I tried to do that then I realized that wasn't showing you love or true friendship. Plus in all honesty it is toxic to the person being vented on after awhile. I want to help you b/c I have been where you are. I loved someone so much I didn't see how unhealthy our relationship was for me, for him, for everyone around us. It nearly killed me. I don't want anyone, especially you to have to walk down that path. I am not talking about him nearly killing me but the reality was he triggered my sysmptoms ALOT more than he helped them. I wont lie, I don't think your relationship is healthy for either of you. I think you both feed of each other and that you both are violent and angry and very emotional people. I know you are going to hate me for saying this but damn it... You need to take some perosnal responsibility and if he was worth his grain of salt as a dominant / daddy he would take responsibility as well. - sighs - I'm not saying you have to leave each other, but I do think things seriously need to change within each of you and as a couple.

purepleasure -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 12:33:32 PM)
Well, apparently your life was a bed of roses before you involved us. Enjoy your bed.

Icarys -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 12:41:00 PM)
quote: Think what you will but listening to some of you guys is what got me to almost get my bf arrested and could of gotten me arrested too because I told the dr what was going on in my house, that we rage at each other and hit each other, and sometimes he hits me and I do not like it. I trusted you all to go tell my dr right away honey they won't arrest him or call the cops and damned diddly they did, and my dr was mad at me for reporting abusive situations I don't want the cops meddling in. That's what happens when you take advice from people who love trainwrecks..Ya can't trust they wouldn't push you in front of the train just so they can watch you hop along the tracks in fear for your life. Hell female..some people are trainwrecks themseleves. (Trainwrecks helping trainwrecks)Take everything you hear with a grain of salt. It's good you went to get help but you knew already that you needed it. Why come to a board to strangers that don't really know you for advice. I'm sure you can both figure out what's best for the two of you. Good Luck

devilishpixie -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 12:42:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom I am calling bullshit. Think what you will but listening to some of you guys is what got me to almost get my bf arrested and could of gotten me arrested too because I told the dr what was going on in my house, that we rage at each other and hit each other, and sometimes he hits me and I do not like it. I trusted you all to go tell my dr right away honey they won't arrest him or call the cops and damned diddly they did, and my dr was mad at me for reporting abusive situations I don't want the cops meddling in. Wait so its my fault and the fault of other people on CM that you and your "daddy" are violent against one another?

VirginPotty -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 12:45:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: devilishpixie quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom I am calling bullshit. Think what you will but listening to some of you guys is what got me to almost get my bf arrested and could of gotten me arrested too because I told the dr what was going on in my house, that we rage at each other and hit each other, and sometimes he hits me and I do not like it. I trusted you all to go tell my dr right away honey they won't arrest him or call the cops and damned diddly they did, and my dr was mad at me for reporting abusive situations I don't want the cops meddling in. Wait so its my fault and the fault of other people on CM that you and your "daddy" are violent against one another? Pixie, don't feed into this. Just ignore & move on.

lovingpet -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 12:48:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys quote: Think what you will but listening to some of you guys is what got me to almost get my bf arrested and could of gotten me arrested too because I told the dr what was going on in my house, that we rage at each other and hit each other, and sometimes he hits me and I do not like it. I trusted you all to go tell my dr right away honey they won't arrest him or call the cops and damned diddly they did, and my dr was mad at me for reporting abusive situations I don't want the cops meddling in. That's what happens when you take advice from people who love trainwrecks..Ya can't trust they wouldn't push you in front of the train just so they can watch you hop along the tracks in fear for your life. Hell female..some people are trainwrecks themseleves. (Trainwrecks helping trainwrecks)Take everything you hear with a grain of salt. It's good you went to get help but you knew already that you needed it. Why come to a board to strangers that don't really know you for advice. I'm sure you can both figure out what's best for the two of you. Good Luck While it may be true some were in it for some sadistic kick, it is far from true that everyone was conspiring to hurt OP. Please, by everything good under the sun, do NOT encourage her paranoia. I have nothing further to say as far as the thread itself goes, but I did simply have to address this. People have been patiently trying to help this woman. She has been actively blaming everyone for her problems except the exact source and now she has further ammunition. I know you meant well, but it truly is far from helpful here. It is anyone's guess if the police were going to wind up involved or not. I certainly would have never given her that false hope. Once again her doctor and the police attempted to act in her best interest and their assistance is being spurned. It is a neverending cycle. What will finally break the cycle, if anything, no one knows, but this certainly wasn't it. lovingpet

Jill805 -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 12:48:37 PM)
Is anyone else fed up with this thread. She has no intention of taking any of the advice offered - time to move on........

impishlilhellcat -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 12:48:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom I do listen, and I do what I need to do, but you all say I need to leave james to be a healthy individual and I am co dependant, and I am not listening to that. and do not tell me people didn't, there's been hundreds of people saying I do, And I tell you all we're working on getting help we're walking that path and you all say you're not listening you never will. I am calling bullshit. Think what you will but listening to some of you guys is what got me to almost get my bf arrested and could of gotten me arrested too because I told the dr what was going on in my house, that we rage at each other and hit each other, and sometimes he hits me and I do not like it. I trusted you all to go tell my dr right away honey they won't arrest him or call the cops and damned diddly they did, and my dr was mad at me for reporting abusive situations I don't want the cops meddling in. I went out right away and got myself a program with the dr and got on a pych med, I it made me really sick medically , and quickly too. If I wasn't listening to advice on how I need medication and how I need pych help and I need I need I need, I wouldn't be pounding that health road day after day after day doing things people said I should do that tore the shit out of my home life and made my dr mad at me. See this as blame if you want, see this as not listening see this as wah wah wah poor me, but I am done sitting here and having you guys tell me I am not listening unless you want to let me cry, BECAUSE I DID LISTEN AND I DID WHAT I NEEDED TO, AND IT FUCKED MY HEALTH UP AND IT GOT ME IN TROUBLE WITH MY DR, SINCE SHE'S MAD I REPORTED ABUSE AND DIDNT WANT HIM GOING TO JAIL Okay let's simply break it down like this and then I'm leaving this thread completely alone. First you say you and James are getting help. YET every time you get help you state he's set you off. Not only in the past few days have you been to a psych ward, but you have also employed a help hotline. Red always says progress not perfection, but really any progress you make on your own you go back home and into that situation and you get set off all over again. Now it's time to get tough... You don't want our advice, you think we steered you wrong, you are sooo wronged. Let's make things simple STOP ASKING FOR HELP. I've watched a lot of people offer you support and someone to talk to and I've watched you get increasingly more snipyier and snarky and put down large masses of people you know nothing about. BOTTOM LINE: Either you can get help or you can't. Part of getting help isn't picking and choosing what you want.. I.E a personal vacation at a spa. Recovery is a fucking bitch. It hurts like hell. You face every demon you have ever had in your life that's preventing you from getting better and you will fight them weekly, daily, sometimes hourly. You will cry and you will be scared, but when all is said and done you will feel like a million bucks compared to what you are feeling right now. SOOOO either put your big girl panties on, arm yourself emotionally and physically for war, and get that I can beat this bullshit attitude or don't even waste your time. Because you will never fully heal if you continue to make excuses and continue to shirk your responsibility and you will feel like you are constantly losing your mind as long as you continue to do those things. That is all.

Icarys -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 12:57:43 PM)
quote: While it may be true some were in it for some sadistic kick, it is far from true that everyone was conspiring to hurt OP. Please, by everything good under the sun, do NOT encourage her paranoia. I have nothing further to say as far as the thread itself goes, but I did simply have to address this. People have been patiently trying to help this woman. She has been actively blaming everyone for her problems except the exact source and now she has further ammunition. I know you meant well, but it truly is far from helpful here. It is anyone's guess if the police were going to wind up involved or not. I certainly would have never given her that false hope. Once again her doctor and the police attempted to act in her best interest and their assistance is being spurned. It is a neverending cycle. What will finally break the cycle, if anything, no one knows, but this certainly wasn't it. lovingpet I said what I said because I meant every line of it and my words stand. I don't believe posting personal problems on a forum and asking for help is a good idea. Better to ask for advice if you have to at all from trusted friends in private. For the exact reasons becoming apparent as we go further with the thread.

lovingpet -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 1:04:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys quote: While it may be true some were in it for some sadistic kick, it is far from true that everyone was conspiring to hurt OP. Please, by everything good under the sun, do NOT encourage her paranoia. I have nothing further to say as far as the thread itself goes, but I did simply have to address this. People have been patiently trying to help this woman. She has been actively blaming everyone for her problems except the exact source and now she has further ammunition. I know you meant well, but it truly is far from helpful here. It is anyone's guess if the police were going to wind up involved or not. I certainly would have never given her that false hope. Once again her doctor and the police attempted to act in her best interest and their assistance is being spurned. It is a neverending cycle. What will finally break the cycle, if anything, no one knows, but this certainly wasn't it. lovingpet I said what I said because I meant every line of it and my words stand. I don't believe posting personal problems on a forum and asking for help is a good idea. Better to ask for advice if you have to at all from trusted friends in private. For the exact reasons becoming apparent as we go further with the thread. That I can agree with and is totally different from the message I took away from your previous post. There are some things better handled 1. In private and 2. Face to face or at least with someone the person has known for a long time. OP lacks judgement and that is painfully clear by the mess that is now all over these boards. Of course, had she had better judgement she could have discussed her issues at home with her doctor without it raising the flags and sounding the sirens like it did. Once again, OP has to take responsibility for how she has chosen to handle this. I can only take responsibility trying to do my best by a perfect stranger. Others will have to live with their own conscience. lovingpet

DemonKia -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 1:31:44 PM)
Okay, after having participated in these threads in all seriousness, I've come to the conclusion that any attempts to help the OP have a very high probability of being thrown back at those attempting to help as having been bad things & part of the responsibility-dodging issues the OP relies upon . . . . . . The question in my head becomes, why bother interacting with this person in any way, shape, or manner? My time & energy is far too valuable to waste on the ungrateful, unreceptive, & incalcitrant .. . . . . OP, you're on your own as far as I'm concerned. Turning around & blaming us & our advice that you asked for is a quick route to getting no attention from me from now on . . . . . Best of luck with your choices. quote: ORIGINAL: BoiJen Co-dependent abusive relationships that escalate into physical violence with apparently tons of other problems that are not really being treated is what the readers here are being presented with. This is a situation where attention feeds poor behavior and continues the cycle. To those reading and responding to the OP and stating "go get help", the best, the very best thing you can do is to stop responding to the OP. Put her on block. CM is being used excessively and in an unhealthy manner of copping. STOP RESPONDING. The attention feeds the psychosis. If you want to help this person, simply stop. boi ^ \|\| \|\| Quoted fer emphasis, spot on . ... .

Wolf2Bear -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 1:40:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom I do listen, and I do what I need to do, but you all say I need to leave james to be a healthy individual and I am co dependant, and I am not listening to that. and do not tell me people didn't, there's been hundreds of people saying I do, And I tell you all we're working on getting help we're walking that path and you all say you're not listening you never will. I am calling bullshit. Think what you will but listening to some of you guys is what got me to almost get my bf arrested and could of gotten me arrested too because I told the dr what was going on in my house, that we rage at each other and hit each other, and sometimes he hits me and I do not like it. I trusted you all to go tell my dr right away honey they won't arrest him or call the cops and damned diddly they did, and my dr was mad at me for reporting abusive situations I don't want the cops meddling in. I went out right away and got myself a program with the dr and got on a pych med, I it made me really sick medically , and quickly too. If I wasn't listening to advice on how I need medication and how I need pych help and I need I need I need, I wouldn't be pounding that health road day after day after day doing things people said I should do that tore the shit out of my home life and made my dr mad at me. See this as blame if you want, see this as not listening see this as wah wah wah poor me, but I am done sitting here and having you guys tell me I am not listening unless you want to let me cry, BECAUSE I DID LISTEN AND I DID WHAT I NEEDED TO, AND IT FUCKED MY HEALTH UP AND IT GOT ME IN TROUBLE WITH MY DR, SINCE SHE'S MAD I REPORTED ABUSE AND DIDNT WANT HIM GOING TO JAIL Topping....the point many are trying to get across is YOU have to take personal responsibility and accountability to work on your temper and remove yourself from a potential explosive situation with your spouse. It's all fine and dandy to tell him to leave you alone and not aggravate the situation yet YOU still need to do the work to control your temper and avoid becoming violent to another. Meds and therapy can only do so much...YOU have to put in effort to work on yourself.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 1:56:19 PM)
pure actually no my dr wanted me off them since they were making me so sick. Side affect wise and health wise my liver function tests are all messed up. I think I feel so much better because I don't have a med pumpking nasty side affects into my body. I'm also not going to blame someone any more for my inability to control myself, HE may have STARTED IT, but I should FINISH IT by walking away. Say no refuse to be baited, refuse to give in to yourimpulse control issues. quote: ORIGINAL: purepleasure The progress you've seem to have made in the past 2 days is unbelievably amazing. Are the meds helping?

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: The dr reported my problems with DAddy and the cops were called. (11/10/2009 2:01:10 PM)
quote: That's true, but he's supporting me in getting help, he spent all day yesterday with me doing dr appointments Really? Because you said you spent the day at a friends house yesterday, that James dropped you off and you just spent the day lying around and chatting. You said that friend told you that you could do it any time. So which is it? Topping I'm getting really sick and tired of the bullshit. Every time you tell a story you change it completely. How's about you try the truth for once?

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