LinnaeaBorealis
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Joined: 10/5/2008 From: Insanity & beyond Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: sophiesback I admit 8 years of loving someone so deeply is hard to give up. I admit finally admitting to that love and having it evolve to something so wonderful, and then destroyed by his failing to realize and follow through with the commitment he made, is devastating. I admit he's had many many many opportunities to walk away and I can't figure out WHY he hasn't. I admit 90% of everything I can come up with says he doesn't want to be with me, so why does he stay? I admit THAT question seriously haunts me. WHY? aw sophie, after 20 yrs of marriage i went through a spookily similar situation. not as unique as we think we are, are we? like you're forecasting, his response was to take door #1. devastated me. in the end, i had to repeat over and over and over to myself that if i couldn't trust him, if i didn't like him, if i didn't respect him, then there was no possible way that i honestly loved him, that what i felt was emotional habit. took me about 2 yrs before i could accept it really and truly and 5 yrs on i've finally gotten back some of the confidence and self respect i allowed him to shred. time heals all wounds, and wounds all heels {hugs} I admit it the bolded part is quoted for truth!!
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Ring the bells that still can ring Forget your perfect offering There is a crack in everything That's how the light gets in ~~L. Cohen Just one of the yahoo's
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