WinsomeDefiance
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I admit I have a bit of a problem, I'm not sure how to resolve. I admit that 11 years ago, a 17 year old homeless boy came into my life and I've loved him as a son since. I admit that he loves a 3 year old girl he considers a daughter, that after falling in love with her was later told he's not the biological father. I admit I love this adorable and brilliant 3 year old that I consider a grand daughter. I admit the 3 year old's mother is a long-time meth addict and has for the last 2 1/2 years neglected and abandoned her. I admit the following is my problem: The young man I consider a son, but have no blood ties to, is now in jail. The 3 year old daughter he loves but has no blood or legal ties to is in my home. The mother of the girl, wants nothing, or so little to do with her daughter as to be the same as nothing. The fiance' of the young man I love like a son wants the 3 year old, but she lives in Chicago. I want the 3 year old but I'm ill and caring for my ill mother and without the energy to actively care for a 3 year old on a long-term basis. The mother has given verbal permission for me to take the 3 year old to Chicago to stay with the fiance of her daddy who wants her. I admit that I'm not comfortable trusting the verbal agreement of a meth addict, and uncomfortable driving a child over state lines on just her word that its OK to do so. I admit that I'm MORE uncomfortable with sending this sweet, loving child to her mother who is going to pawn her off on anyone and everyone to avoid the responsibility of caring for her. I have no clothes here for the child, no diapers and very limited funds to go out and acquire them (but I'll work that out, it isn't that big of an issue.) I admit that I want to take the baby girl in and smother her with love and affection, but she deserves more than a sick grandmother who can't care for her properly. I admit that I'm so very tempted to call child protective services, but I know that this could take away any hope her father (not by blood but he's raised her as his daughter for 2 1/2 years) has of acquiring custody of her if the child is put into the foster system. I admit that I'm already physically exhausted, and I've only had the child for 2 days. I admit that is all....and appreciate having a place to rant a little.
< Message edited by WinsomeDefiance -- 6/10/2013 1:01:15 PM >
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