WinsomeDefiance
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder WinD, what about the girl's real father? Where is he? Does he even know about this child? I would be extremely careful about this. It could be that the real father will come back on you for interfering and for no one ever telling him about this situation. I think you really should find this out before anything else happens. Good luck. I have no clue and have wondered that exact same thing. From what I can gather, no one knows who the girl's father is. I doubt even the mother does. As a meth addict, she made her money as a stripper and let's be realistic, probably prostitution, there's no telling. But my foster son was led to believe he was the father, and fell in love with the child. After finding out he wasn't her biological father, he refused to walk away. He and his fiance have raised the girl for the last 2 years together. His fiance is, in my opinion, the best thing that ever happened to the child. I'm not worried about myself. While there's always some concern when you know that someone's addictions and life choices are unavoidably associated with you even indirectly through a child, to distance myself from it all would make me yet another adult abandoning a child who needs all the love and stability she can get in her life. Can't do that. I believe the child is worth the risk in that regard. Although, I kind of feel as if I did abandon her, now that she's in Chicago and so far away; but its the best place for her. She needs a mom to raise her. Not a sick grandma who can't provide for her properly. The fiance is the one opening herself up to the risks. The mother had no identification and the lawyer refused to notarize the paperwork so she basically took a child across state lines with nothing more than a signed form saying it was ok to do so. I wouldn't have done it.
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