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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 10:17:28 AM

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I'm 40, and prefer older men... i've dated up to age 56, and would consider even older men, depending on the man himself.
i find some men my age can't keep up with me, lol.. but some older ones who can wear me out!
Age is all relative.

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 10:37:49 AM

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My max age limit is 40.
I prefer younger than me and I'm with one now who is 32.
Just personal preference.

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 11:03:15 AM

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Speaking strictly for myself, it's not so much a maxium age limit, but more often a minimum age. While i enjoy being with a man who is my age, give or take 10-15 years or so, i really don't want to be with a man who isn't as old as my unmentionables (who are all grown men now), or someone who didn't have to learn about my current events in his history book. <g>

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 1:28:42 PM

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I do have what I'd call a preliminary cutoff at 40. I like older men, but I'm only 23 years old. I'm looking for a LTR and given that a woman will outlive a man anyway, I'm not exactly interested in a man who's going to die on me before I'm old enough to retire. It's morbid, I know, but it's facts of life. Also, as krikket pointed out, men over 40 have had a significantly different set of life experiences than I have... they remember the Vietnam war... I can take a History class at school that focuses on it. I was 8 when Operation Desert Storm began and don't remember anything of Ronald Regan's administration. I was excited to vote for the first time in the most contested election ever. I do read the e-mails I recieve from men over 40 and if they can convince me that we could make conversation that isn't like talking to my father, I'll be happy to speak with them. I just haven't met anyone like that yet.

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 1:36:03 PM

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i can certainly understand one's concerns when the age difference comes close to the age of one's parent, or child for that matter. In Master's quest for a playmate for me he will typically stay clear of girls his daughter's age (in her 20s),

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 1:48:10 PM

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Perhaps a better question is how much older than yourself, would you accept a Master.

Here is my experience:

A fem sub in her 20's or early 30's will almost never accept a Master older by more than 7 yrs of herself.

My own experience hasnt worked that way, as i have experienced a 20+ year difference.

But then I am olddddddddd.

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 1:54:56 PM

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I've played with dominants up to 45 years my senior and had wonderful times and fond memories of them. My first Master was 32 years older than myself.

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 1:56:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: Fightdirecto

Is this just something limited to the submissive women of eastern New England? Or should all Doms who are over 50 just stop looking?

I agree with a lot of the posts I've seen. I think you are just taking it way to personally. I don't date smokers, but I know plenty of women who do. Its all a function of personal preferences. And I bet you have some also.

Because I'm 28, if I were unowned this time around I would have age restrictions and probably wouldn't consider anyone over 35, and 40 absolutley the maximum age.

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 1:56:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

i can certainly understand one's concerns when the age difference comes close to the age of one's parent, or child for that matter. In Master's quest for a playmate for me he will typically stay clear of girls his daughter's age (in her 20s),

I guess Lady Neets and I are the odd couple here. As stated earlier I'm 61 and she has just turned 31. her father is five years older than I am yet I am older than her mother.... Both are two of my best friends and Neets and I have a fabulous marriage and relationship....

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 2:23:48 PM

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IronBear, i didn't realize the age difference until today. my post was merely reflecting my Master's preference. i know everyone has different views on age. i also know there are exceptions, too. Master was quite intrigued by a 30 year old friend of mine....~ grins ~

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 2:28:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: wetrope
Here is my experience:

A fem sub in her 20's or early 30's will almost never accept a Master older by more than 7 yrs of herself.

Well that certainly hasn't been my experience to date. I've found quite a number who are specificaly looking for an older Dom. Unless they have mentioned a max age in their profile I have stopped assuming that it will be much of a problem at all.

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 3:09:28 PM

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This is a really tough question ... and very complicated.

I prefer to date older men. They have more to talk about, and they usually actually want to talk. Older men can afford to take me to fun places. I like to bar hop, and can almost always get in clubs when with an older man. A man in his late 30's to early 40's that keeps himself in really good shape, is totally hot.

All that said, I'm with HentaiGamerKitty on this one. My foster parents are 43 and 39, and would not look favorably on my dating someone their age. I live in their house and drive the car they pay for. They are paying for half of my education. We have talked this over and they have made it quite clear that they prefer I stay in the 25 to 30 age range.

Sometimes you have to trust those that are older and wiser. Also, at some point, respecting their wishes becomes the right thing to do.

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 3:16:13 PM

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Caitlyn... you have wisdom well beyond your years.

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 3:20:07 PM

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Around 52 or so, my age......
See, tho, even those with a little modicum of sense flip out about this shit. Aileen68 knows that well aged cheese that is of proud heritage is something to die for, yet she finds me Kraftwerk; ultimately.

There you go, LOL.

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 4:07:48 PM

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believe me you'll get imune to the hurt of rejection due to age.... I'm 61 this year with a Wife/FC who has just turned 31. I've been given reasons for some not being interested as: My age, My married, We are Poly, I'm Gorean, I'm to scary, I have disabilities and a few other things. There is oly one reason I have an empty collar and that is due to a smallish, severly cliquised and fractured scene here. If I lived where the scene is large I have no doubt my collar/s would be filled.

Yea, Yea, Yea and yet you fill my dreams bear...guess there is no accounting for taste...<weg>

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 4:11:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

quote:

ORIGINAL: wetrope
Here is my experience:

A fem sub in her 20's or early 30's will almost never accept a Master older by more than 7 yrs of herself.

Well that certainly hasn't been my experience to date. I've found quite a number who are specificaly looking for an older Dom. Unless they have mentioned a max age in their profile I have stopped assuming that it will be much of a problem at all.

I hope she doesn't meet Princess; she was 19 when I met her. She's 22 now. Of course there's also Smiler (Iron Bear, remember her?) and Susan and ...

Well you get the idea

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 5:52:51 PM

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I am 42 and my little one is 28, the age was never an issue or thought for us, but then again she likes older men. On line I think pewople need a starting point and a common one they use is age. I can understand why you would be confused that people your own age or older would say your too old.

I think age becomes less of an issue when you are talkiong to people in person at which point it becomes more of the vitality than simply age.

good luck

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 7:20:28 PM

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I am 42 and my little one is 28, the age was never an issue or thought for us, but then again she likes older men. On line I think pewople need a starting point and a common one they use is age. I can understand why you would be confused that people your own age or older would say your too old.

I think age becomes less of an issue when you are talkiong to people in person at which point it becomes more of the vitality than simply age.

good luck

K

Actually I take the opposite stance. In real life offline, ones age is more apparent, disparity in age more apparent. In offline stuff, you have to deal with family and friends actually questioning you, your choices. You actually have to deal with differences in health care and life choices.

Age DOES matter. WHether it means you will or won't be together is a personal preference, but the fact that we DO age in a particular culture, we face different issues depending on our generation, different music, politics, and more. Younger people face FAR different choices and stages than a person who is much older. As an older partner, one must have more patience and ok to watch and step with someone going through issues they likely dealt with years ago.

My two older partners are 42 and my boyfriend is 22. I am 26. We have wonderful lives together. Yet our ages ARE part of who we are and how we interact. This isn't a bad thing, any more than our religious background, educational background or family structure.

BUt age does matter and it does need to be considered.

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 7:41:38 PM

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you fuckin assholes are talking about sex here aren't you...........god you fuckin people, you are sick, it is like you have sex, it is like no matter what the government says you cannot control yourselves, for shame I am so happy to be a pervert while all you motherfuckers stand by

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RE: What is the oldest Dom you would consider? - 3/12/2006 7:43:13 PM

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You know I sure missed you ron....

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