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sunshinemiss -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/19/2009 11:59:31 AM)
I've met this guy, and he makes me swoon!

Mercnbeth -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/19/2009 12:05:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss I've met this guy, and he makes me swoon! mmmmmmmwhen He pulls that adding machine out of the toybag.....le sigh. [:)]

sunshinemiss -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/19/2009 12:07:33 PM)
Beth, you are one twisted wench... I just love that about you!

porcelaine -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/19/2009 12:26:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: breatheasone See....i NEVER said ANYthing about a "list"..... This was the 1st sentence in your reply "I don't have any must haves." Really not one? I find it really hard to believe that there isn't just 1 thing that you need from a person you are to be in an intimate relationship with, but i digress. breatheasone, What I find most interesting is how you're attempting to apply your reality to me. Just because it is difficult for you to embrace the concept doesn't make it unrealistic or false. Perhaps that line of thinking isn't suitable for you and your circumstances. But I assure you it works quite fine for me. Nor did I suggest you mentioned a list at all. I provided my comments in response to the question posed. I don't need to defend or explain why they differ from your interpretations or someone else's. They're inherently mine and accurately represent the one who authored them. Your profession of "knowledge" is only representative of what you know of yourself. You cannot speak for other parties, particularly yours truly. ~porcelaine

Llyren -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/19/2009 12:54:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss I've met this guy, and he makes me swoon! mmmmmmmwhen He pulls that adding machine out of the toybag.....le sigh. [:)] Or that slide rule. Mrowr!

fadedshadow -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/19/2009 1:11:23 PM)
kindness and honesty, enjoying impact play is nice too =D

breatheasone -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/19/2009 1:54:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: porcelaine quote: ORIGINAL: breatheasone See....i NEVER said ANYthing about a "list"..... This was the 1st sentence in your reply "I don't have any must haves." Really not one? I find it really hard to believe that there isn't just 1 thing that you need from a person you are to be in an intimate relationship with, but i digress. breatheasone, What I find most interesting is how you're attempting to apply your reality to me. Just because it is difficult for you to embrace the concept doesn't make it unrealistic or false. Perhaps that line of thinking isn't suitable for you and your circumstances. But I assure you it works quite fine for me. Nor did I suggest you mentioned a list at all. I provided my comments in response to the question posed. I don't need to defend or explain why they differ from your interpretations or someone else's. They're inherently mine and accurately represent the one who authored them. Your profession of "knowledge" is only representative of what you know of yourself. You cannot speak for other parties, particularly yours truly. ~porcelaine i wasn't speaking for you at all. And yes, i still do and continue to find it hard to believe that you have ZERO "must haves" Of course this is just my mind, as how i think.

SilverMark -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/19/2009 2:05:58 PM)
If one couldn't manage His own affairs how could he possibly manage the affairs of another?

porcelaine -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/19/2009 2:19:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: breatheasone i wasn't speaking for you at all. And yes, i still do and continue to find it hard to believe that you have ZERO "must haves" Of course this is just my mind, as how i think. breatheasone, If you've read my comments here and elsewhere it would be fairly obvious where my philosophies stem from and the ideologies I've embraced that have altered my outlook on relationships and other matters as well. We each have various influences and paths we must trod in life. The one I walk has had a positive effect on how I relate, why I relate, and what I seek or actively elect not to seek as well. You have a declaration of faith in your signature tag. Yet one of the common precepts found in the teachings you espouse relate to this very thing. Cease striving (Psalms 46:10). I sincerely believe that which is meant for me shall come in its rightful season. I'm focused on preparing the vessel in the meantime, which I find great pleasure in doing. So yes, I embrace the zero with joyful exuberance and delight in the freedom the shedding of those things has brought. ~porcelaine

RCdc -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/19/2009 2:22:10 PM)
quote: i know we may have more than 1.... but what is one of your "must have's" for a "D" type? For me being a Christian is paramount. It would even be cool to hear, and talk about why something is your "must have" When I think about it, I never had any 'must haves'. Must haves allow for unrealistic expectations, create struggle and form a false sense of what you would be missing and with that, I see so many people struggling or finding difficulty in their lives who search extenally for some sort of reason or support instead of internally of themselves and their relationship. So count me in with porcelaine... [:)] the.dark.

breatheasone -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/19/2009 2:37:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: porcelaine quote: ORIGINAL: breatheasone i wasn't speaking for you at all. And yes, i still do and continue to find it hard to believe that you have ZERO "must haves" Of course this is just my mind, as how i think. breatheasone, If you've read my comments here and elsewhere it would be fairly obvious where my philosophies stem from and the ideologies I've embraced that have altered my outlook on relationships and other matters as well. We each have various influences and paths we must trod in life. The one I walk has had a positive effect on how I relate, why I relate, and what I seek or actively elect not to seek as well. You have a declaration of faith in your signature tag. Yet one of the common precepts found in the teachings you espouse relate to this very thing. Cease striving (Psalms 46:10). I sincerely believe that which is meant for me shall come in its rightful season. I'm focused on preparing the vessel in the meantime, which I find great pleasure in doing. So yes, I embrace the zero with joyful exuberance and delight in the freedom the shedding of those things has brought. ~porcelaine And its cool that, thats how your mind thinks. i am glad it brings peace to you.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/19/2009 3:56:02 PM)
Hello folks, My must have... He must inspire me. And that, my friends, includes a myriad of things... But in the end that is it. He must inspire me to be my very best self, he must be inspirational as the man he is, his reactions to me must inspire me. And I must inspire him - to be his best self, to embody the strength that is him, to protect me and respect my abilities. It is symbiotic.

hardbodysub -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/20/2009 6:31:10 PM)
One "must have" is a lack of religious fanaticism.

kiwisub12 -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/20/2009 8:22:47 PM)
One must have for me - is that he must love the way i look. One of the reasons i love my Sir so, is that he loves my body - pudgy bits and all. He doesn't want me to change anything for him. One thing this love of my body gives me is confidence in myself. Its a heck of a lot easier to prance around the house naked with someone admiring the way my butt swishes from room to room. [:D] A happy outlook on life is really nice, as is a great sense of humour. Intelligence and a love of reading are important ( a house without visible books is an obscenity). A responsible attitude towards daily living is nice. Having enough money to pay the bills with a bit left over is a good thing. And yes, he has to have a dominant attitude that meshes with my submissive attitude. Meshing is good.[sm=evil.gif]

breatheasone -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/20/2009 10:13:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hardbodysub One "must have" is a lack of religious fanaticism. i would have to second this....If i could take it just a little further, i would have to shy away from someone that was fanatical about anything....Lets face it, thats just not healthy! *Edited for spelling

kasumi -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/20/2009 10:57:50 PM)
I find the "no must-haves" concept difficult to wrap my head around, too. then again, I'm probably taking it wrong. Perhaps it doesn't imply "I'll take anything" then. Even still... I doubt those who say they have no requirements would bend over and let anyone and everyone paddle them or what-not. I don't see how saying something as simple as "I must have an intelligent partner." or "There must be chemistry between us" is setting up unrealistic expectations. If there are no intelligent Doms on the market that I would be attracted to (and they to me) then I... would rather go without, thanks. *Reads porcelaine's original post again... Strange how our past experiences have led us in different directions. porcelaine used to have something like a "must haves" list but discarded it after a while. I was more open minded in the beginning and my must-haves have developed as results to failed relationships so that I know what doesn't work. I think porcelaine is saying that I shouldn't hold those specific things against future persons and she wants to remain open and unbiased. I just can't do that, personally. I was in a relationship with someone who was unfaithful and dishonest and I put up with it for a while in the hopes that the second or third or whatever-numbered chance was all he needed. That experience has made me more wary and once I see a tendency to be dishonest now, I have to end it. If I'm not 'getting' you yet porcelaine, please set me straight?

eihwaz -> RE: Your Must Have... (11/22/2009 8:27:48 PM)
Some of the basics: accountability emotional honesty belief in partnership commitment to personal spiritual path like cats

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