LafayetteLady
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Joined: 5/2/2007 From: Northern New Jersey Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: breatheasone Another thread got me wondering about this. Limits... Who sets them? You, or your "D" type? i'm talking limits not preferences. It all depends on where in the relationship the people are, and what they want. After all, when you are in the seeking, getting to know you stage, it only makes sense that each is setting their own limits. It would seem quite odd (to me) for a sub/slave when seeking and just starting out talking with someone to say "ok, you tell me what limits I have." After all, if there isn't compatibility, there can't be a successful relationship. We all have our likes, dislikes, wants, needs, etc. and when sifting through potential partners, we need to find someone who will meet those "requirements." After a relationship is established, whether or not the person deciding those limits changes all depends on the people involved. In an ideal situation, it is something that is discussed before entering the relationship as well as during the relationship.
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