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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 4:58:08 PM   
thishereboi


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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 5:00:56 PM   
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So you would force someone to be seriously ill instead? You would face slap someone who gets PTSD from such things and then call an ambulance to have them brought to a hospital afterwards just to prove who is the boss?

No I would probably just walk away.


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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 5:03:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: agirl

I asked if you *set* limits .....or are limited by things you both understand. I only asked that question because you seem to infer that you have limits that you have *set*.


The poster's comment of *not being allowed to add a limit* seems as reasonable as can be. You seem to be lumping *being limited* with * I'm limiting you* in the same contaxt ....and they don't go together.



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Honestly I don't see the semantical difference you do here. It doesn't matter to me if I say I can't do this position today because my vertigo is acting up or if I tell him that my vertigo is acting up and then he rules out such a position. It's a limit being imposed upon both of us. Which we both understand. But since I am the one who is subject to the horrible thing, I'm the one who has to say I'm suffering with it today. And therefore, since I bring it up, I'm setting that as the limit that day.

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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 5:18:53 PM   
Icarys


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Status: offline 		As I was saying in the post before last I think...People are usually gonna post the same way they do any other time..I expect certain comments from certain people..They are who they are and so am I.

I lay everything out on the table prior to any relationships beginning..These are your only limits..She then has the choice to accept it or leave..I'm pro-choice in my relationships..What can I say.....Ya just get one choice.


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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 5:41:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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Well these limits are set up before a power exchange. So I think she can dictate what her limits are. You can just walk away and vice versa. SO I am not dictating if I say face slapping is a hard limit as it sends me to a bad place and a one of reliving past abuse. Thats not dictating my will. Thats protecting myself emotionally so I can be a well adjusted person.


Whatever it is you want to call it but I wouldn't allow anyone to set anything up prior to or after the relationship has been established as such.

Setting limits is setting limitations and I won't allow it.



So, that whole, becoming a hermit in Alaska is becoming more and more a reality for you, you say?

i think i understand the bravado there, but honestly, i dont see how you can maintain a long term, live in relationship with that sort of rigidity....(ba dum dum...)

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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 5:48:33 PM   
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So, that whole, becoming a hermit in Alaska is becoming more and more a reality for you, you say?

i think i understand the bravado there, but honestly, i dont see how you can maintain a long term, live in relationship with that sort of rigidity....(ba dum dum...)


Yes since it's already in the plans for the future..Alaska that is..I know you don't understand how it could possibly work since you are about as far from what I seek as can be..How could you..

Actually when it comes along it feels pretty good.  There's no bravado hun..I've had it before and I will again..When your looking for the extreme..it takes a little more time...I'm okay with it.

When contemplating being with some of the females that post here regularly..It's worth the wait. (Based on their perspectives about the lifestyle)

Edited because I realized some of what I said might possibly be construed as a slight. Not my intention.


< Message edited by Icarys -- 12/4/2009 5:55:57 PM >

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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 5:55:00 PM   
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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 5:58:11 PM   
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Generally, when one uses the term...."hun"....its condescending....and yet, all i can feel are the waves of pure unadulterated dominance coming from the box above me.....


Not here to impress you nor do I care if you dislike what I say.


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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 6:00:02 PM   
persephonee


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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 6:02:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: persephonee

Generally, when one uses the term...."hun"....its condescending....and yet, all i can feel are the waves of pure unadulterated dominance coming from the box above me.....






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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 6:08:29 PM   
persephonee


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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 6:10:24 PM   
lronitulstahp


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Status: offline 		OOOOOHHHHH....then we could call you perse bin laden.....and hunt you!!!! How kinky would THAT be????????

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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 6:14:27 PM   
persephonee


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Status: offline 		omg....and the WMD's could be WimminsMenDominate!!! Its like a bambi hunt for fat asses!!!! im so there!

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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 6:16:02 PM   
Icarys


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Yeah, youre right, i suppose, tulip....it was all just a pipedream.....ive always wanted to go to Alaska and live in a cave.....sniffle.


Aww that is too bad..It's a really nice cave but I'm sure you have a hard limit on housework also...I guess I'll have to sweep the dirt floor myself.


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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 6:16:35 PM   
thishereboi


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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Well these limits are set up before a power exchange. So I think she can dictate what her limits are. You can just walk away and vice versa. SO I am not dictating if I say face slapping is a hard limit as it sends me to a bad place and a one of reliving past abuse. Thats not dictating my will. Thats protecting myself emotionally so I can be a well adjusted person.


Some people don't want a well adjusted person, or should it be some well adjusted people don't fit with some people? Either way, it doesn't surprise me that he has only found 3 people who got it right. I think with that track record, I would probably move to Alaska too.


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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 6:18:21 PM   
lronitulstahp


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Status: offline 		Are stalagmites and stalactites limits for you???? What about bat guano? We may have to negotiate your cave dynamic....oh wait, that's how we got into this mess in the first place!!!!!!

Life is such a vicious circle........

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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 6:20:45 PM   
Icarys


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Some people don't want a well adjusted person, or should it be some well adjusted people don't fit with some people? Either way, it doesn't surprise me that he has only found 3 people who got it right. I think with that track record, I would probably move to Alaska too.


Lol you guys are a trip..Waiting in the bushes to pounce. Yes in 10 years I've only found 3 I've been compatible with..Something seems to be wrong with that as well? I suppose you've found tons of people you were compatible with?


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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 6:21:27 PM   
persephonee


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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Well these limits are set up before a power exchange. So I think she can dictate what her limits are. You can just walk away and vice versa. SO I am not dictating if I say face slapping is a hard limit as it sends me to a bad place and a one of reliving past abuse. Thats not dictating my will. Thats protecting myself emotionally so I can be a well adjusted person.


Some people don't want a well adjusted person, or should it be some well adjusted people don't fit with some people? Either way, it doesn't surprise me that he has only found 3 people who got it right. I think with that track record, I would probably move to Alaska too.



Wanna hear sumpthin funny?....Master is considering a job up there...Wouldnt that be just the shizzle if Icarys was the only other Dom in town????

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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 6:23:12 PM   
Icarys


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Wanna hear sumpthin funny?....Master is considering a job up there...Wouldnt that be just the shizzle if Icarys was the only other Dom in town????

Not likely since Alaska is 10 to 1 women I think..Who says I'll be living in town?


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RE: Limits - 12/4/2009 6:24:19 PM   
persephonee


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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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Some people don't want a well adjusted person, or should it be some well adjusted people don't fit with some people? Either way, it doesn't surprise me that he has only found 3 people who got it right. I think with that track record, I would probably move to Alaska too.


Lol you guys are a trip..Waiting in the bushes to pounce. Yes in 10 years I've only found 3 I've been compatible with..Something seems to be wrong with that as well? I suppose you've found tons of people you were compatible with?



i can safely say that the Dom/mes we are compatible with dont feel the need to posture.

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