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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 12/21/2009 7:43:42 PM

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Edited to add that this is one of my fetishes, the spanking and I like it for the reasons she said she likes it..hence my husband saying is this hereditary?

this slave doesn't equate receiving pleasurable sensations from something that for most others is painful as submission. masochism, perhaps, but submission, not so much.
it can be extremely confusing and difficult to rationalize one's masochism at an early age.

This has nothing to do with masochism or anything like that actually. This is more to do with biology, just had no idea it translates to literally in some senses. Instead of feeling pain when spanked I feel pleasure, just simple biology. There are some people who's erogenous zones are not in the perceived normal places, I'm one of those such people. Some women go nuts when their nipples are touched, I feel nothing. Literally. Biology, just the way I made. And now how she's made too apparently.

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 12/21/2009 10:50:17 PM

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Every day, I pick up my 5-year-old son from school, and we talk about his day. He has two friends, I'll call the first one "Orange" and the other one "Greek". He tells me repeatedly that they are in charge of him, that he does whatever they say. "Greek is my boss", he'd say, "and Orange is my Master."

Now, I never use the word "Master" in front of my child. So I thought this was curious but kinda dismissed it. I did ask his teacher about it at conferences though, to make sure they weren't bullying him. His teacher hung her head when I brought it up, clearly embarassed,. She just smiled and told me they were all great friends, inseparable.

Then, grinning, the devil got the better of me, and I couldn't resist saying, "Aren't they a bit young for that sort of play?" The TA choked on her coffee and we laughed for the rest of the session.

Point is, kids are who and what they are, as parents we must accept that they belong to a time and place we cannot reach, though we can give them our love all the way. Yet our own insecurities can lead us to question the thngs they say and do unecessarily. I am diligent, but I don't make it more than it is, lest I give him a complex.

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 12/22/2009 5:56:24 AM

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This has nothing to do with masochism or anything like that actually.

Instead of feeling pain when spanked I feel pleasure,

Doesn't this define 'masochism'?

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 12/22/2009 6:42:30 AM

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This has nothing to do with masochism or anything like that actually.

Instead of feeling pain when spanked I feel pleasure,
Doesn't this define 'masochism'?

That's how I've always defined it.

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 12/24/2009 6:29:48 AM

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As a young child, while it was anything particularly that I'd do which would show me as in being submissive,it was more how I reacted to situations being I was always the shy quiet type who looked over a situation before reacting. I also remember in playing games, I'd always have the Damsel Type Role when I was young who would be into situations through the game where I'd be controlled. Also as a child, instead of playing house, both my best friend and I were animal lovers, she would want me to pretend to be the pet dog...she would try to make a chain...like used on a dog...it would be very innocent, but I started to love how the collar felt on me and getting into the role. In the future when I decided that BDSM was right for me, I immediately went into the role of the pet quite easily through my submission but I think those few experiences when I was very little influenced some of those decisions. As a little girl, I was often soft spoken, the one who would stand in the back keeping an eye on the more agressive children play, which would often get me to be the one caught somehow....so I must say my submissive tendencies certainly were there even then.

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 2/24/2010 7:00:22 PM

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When I was a kid I used to have a collar and leash and have the other kids walk me around on all fours in the playground. I wore the collar constantly and even had a collaection of them. I played "Dogs" with my friends and barked and acted like a dog alot. I loved being tied up. i Loved playing cops and robbers. There was even one incident where the majority of my class, at the age of 10, tied ourselves to the railings in protest because the boy school got a sports day and we didn't.

Amazingly, I enjoy petplay very much.... o.O
Maybe thats what started my kink? I dunno, just thought I'd put it out there

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 2/24/2010 8:28:39 PM

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FR Just from the original post...I feel very uncomfortable discussing this subject on an adult message board. I understand the question and can relate...but some things are perhaps best left alone in a place such as this, imo.

(still luvs the op though!)

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 2/24/2010 8:38:18 PM

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thinking back on it i always wanted to find a way to be tied up, use to love to roll myself up in the blanket till i couldnt really move.. but i got in to my folks penthouse forums when i was like 12 so i dont know if that was the influence or not. now i love to be spanked and flogged and damn it hurts but i love it and i was never spanked as a kid.

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 2/25/2010 7:52:16 PM

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I personally wouldn't think there's anything submissive about this. Just seems like a kid playing.

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 2/27/2010 10:16:10 AM

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Ah memories. i remember when i was about 10 or so and my parents would have card games here. So there always ended up being a bunch of kids my age, some boys and some girls. Well we always decided to play a game called "war" where the boys were on one team and my room as the base and the girls were the other team with my sisters room as their base. I think the point of the game was to try and essentially capture a flag somewhere off base, but you your self could be captured from the enemy to have oneless person trying to find and capture the flag. Well lets just say i never tried to hard to get away from the girls and would almost always end up tied up and gagged and under heavy guard from one of the girls who would be a guard to me

. Good times!

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 2/27/2010 11:56:13 AM

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Nancy Drew generally got kidnapped once every couple of books, and whenever I got a new one, I'd devour the book in eager anticipation of it. My whole childhood I must have been radiating some sort of major submissive energy, because I was always the one who got tied up, handcuffed, fake-threatened and "imprisoned" in games. As I got older, I never had a crush on the popular boys, but I always had a crush on the bully

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 2/27/2010 12:47:08 PM

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My sister always played my little puppy or my pony in a made up bridle. She was very quiet, very helpful like a little earth mother.
My sister knows about what I am into and it amuses her. She is not submissive at all even though she is still fairly shy and still very helpful.
Children experiment and play games but we shouldn't relate it to what vanillas would call 'adult sex games'

I hate it when someone says 'my son is so Dominant and my 5 year old daughter is so submissive' They are the same sort of people that wrongly believe that everyone is either submissive or dominant but just not found themselves yet!!

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 3/1/2010 7:16:43 PM

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I used to like to pretend that I was being disciplined; made to stand in the corner or write out sentences about my "bad" behavior.

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 3/2/2010 6:08:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: lucylucy

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I was also one of the people trying to figure out how "handcuffs" = "submissive".

Cali

Yeah, I'm the OP, and now, a few days later, I'm not sure how/why I made that connection. Hmmm.

OK, I got my original train of thought back and can explain the connection. For me, handcuffs represent giving up control completely and letting someone else have it . . . which to me, is what submissive behavior is all about. So there's the connection. Does that make sense?

Yes.

The only thing I can remember from childhood is having a ferocious attraction to the female gam and foot. Still do.

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 8/9/2010 6:52:14 AM

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Had a fetish for handcuffs and bondage since as long as I can remember. There are vivid memories from around five/six years old, where I wanted girls to tie me up.

Definitely hard-wired that way!

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 8/9/2010 11:29:40 AM

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yup i did and got caught one day and was told of and watched and checked up on left me feeling like i was some really bad person took me till now to find out i was normal. my daughter at the moment doesnt show signs if she does i will be like you were

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RE: "submissive" behavior in children - 8/9/2010 4:44:25 PM

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I recall when i was in grade school, the playground often became 'battlegrounds' for whatever fights the boys were performing, and the 'monkey bars' became cages for captured girls. "Prisoners' "princesses in towers' it changed from one game to another, but the whole 'evil villain cages/restrains damsel' is pretty common in media, stories, books and thus with kids.

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