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LafayetteLady -> RE: training (12/23/2009 9:37:55 AM)
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
Just as an aside, the sub training/teaching the dom has been mentioned in some threads in Ask a Sub/Slave and there are plenty who feel that they couldn't do it because it would be topping from the bottom. Obviously, we don't agree. [:)]
I admit that I haven't search for it. I used to search threads for topics, but found that often I would read and then want to add something and ressurecting ancient posts is not something I like to do.
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
I don't think it is but I guess that goes without saying! [;)]
We agree on that point.
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
I honestly think that Valyraen wouldn't have tried this sort of thing without a partner in his life who was an influencing factor, simply because (as he said) he's not the sort of person to randomly try things. Despite my adversion to food I think I dislike, I am. So I tend to be the one who goes "Let's give this shot, we won't know till we try!".
Now he explores more on his own, the how and when he controls me and excerising his sadism where I definately don't want him to. Like over my cookies damn it... [:'(]
My point, using the two of you as an example (which I hope you didn't mind) was that for a relationship to be successful, everyone involved needs to learn what makes the other happy. Obviously, you and Valyraen have managed to do that very well. As you said, many subs might think that it is "topping from the bottom," but I think if someone wants to they can make just about anything seem to be topping from the bottom. It seems that even though that learning curve is on both sides, the more popular view is that the bottom should never be "teaching" the top. Doesn't matter that it has to happen for the relationship to work in some shape or form, we have to call it something different.
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