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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth Many (most?) don't know and don't post about "what a dom is", or from the other side, "what a sub is". They are however, VERY, precise, clear, and have a concept of what a dom, or 'their' dom/sub is not. Usually they get those concepts from observing posts and perceive behavior, personality, and ability from the words the dom/sub write. Worse case, they see behavior conveyed in such a way that they forget about pursuing any relationship not wanting any part of the person behind the persona; deciding they are better off without dominance or submission in their life if the image being conveyed is typical of a 'lifestyle' participant. Unfortunately many think and say "all" making universal assumptions and projecting, if not actually believing, in a 'one true way'. Some come here and, through their posts, convey a pyramid hierarchy of needs so pointed that a pin is at it's peak; then wonder why a submissive (or dom) isn't dancing on the point; when they believed, and expected since this 'lifestyle' they 'discovered' was full of 'submissives', all that was necessary was to label yourself a 'dom' and he would be able to count and choose from the many dancing on the point. all have their ideas of what they want and if they state as well as they can understand what they are that's fine and i cheer them on but they have to understand that based on how wide or narrow those wants are ,are the chances of fulfilling them, for my part my wants are very narrowly focused, but then i understand and accept that it lowers my pool of available partners it's my choice and i have to live with the consequences of that choice maybe a unintended consequence of this question will be to bring that fact home to some that may not have considered it
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all around nice guy and creative misogynist i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder i want a woman to make into the woman she never wanted to become
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