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What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 5:38:03 AM

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in what ways do you own her?

this is for the owner property crowd, you freedom loving women stand over there and giggle--------->

also what does it mean to you (submissives) to be owned?

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 5:39:57 AM

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It's pretty fiction.

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 5:45:12 AM

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It's pretty fiction.

money is a fiction but everybody wants some and some more

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 5:49:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: osf

in what ways do you own her?

this is for the owner property crowd, you freedom loving women stand over there and giggle--------->

also what does it mean to you (submissives) to be owned?

He owns me. It means he controls me. Some things he delagates back to me cause he doesn't feel like deciding what pair of panties I should wear - athough he does insist that I wear them. There isn't a great mystical answer that we can provide.

For me, it means I obey him. I seek his permission. I strive to please him. In many ways he is the focus of my world even as I maintain other interests and I have an active life outside of him.

Being owned and owning me is the way we best express our love for each other. It's the dynamic that suits our personalities and how we interact. It's comfortable, it feels right, even when things are tough.

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 6:04:32 AM

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don't forget he has to understand you

i think understanding her is the key to ownership

and real ownership doesn't start the moment the relationship begins

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 6:06:53 AM

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don't forget he has to understand you

i think understanding her is the key to ownership

and real ownership doesn't start the moment the relationship begins

Do you understand your goose?

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 6:09:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: osf

don't forget he has to understand you

i think understanding her is the key to ownership

and real ownership doesn't start the moment the relationship begins

Are you giving me advice on my relationship?

He does understand me. In fact he understands me better than anyone else. And I understand him better than anyone else. But that doesn't relate to the question of "what does it mean to own someone". The act of owning someone, being in a power dynamic with them, doesn't grant someone the power of understanding their partner. There are plenty of power dynamics where the people don't have a clue about the others involved.

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 6:10:05 AM

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For me, being owned means that I'm in a state of arousal all day, everyday, for starters.

My boyfriend doesn't micromanage me, but what AquaSub said about her relationship fits for mine as well:

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For me, it means I obey him. I seek his permission. I strive to please him. In many ways he is the focus of my world even as I maintain other interests and I have an active life outside of him.

It means that I am ultimately responsible to him for everything I do and think. If he asks me a question, I answer it fully and honestly. I don't hold anything back. Yes, I was honest in vanilla relationships, but not in the way I am with my boyfriend. I am completely open and accessible to him in every way. I have never said "no" to him (one of the first things he told me when we decided to pursue a relationship was, "The word 'no' is no longer part of your vocabulary").

It also means that he will protect me and take care of me no matter what. I don't ever wonder if he will take care of me, I just know he will. Yeah, sounds like a vanilla romance, but take that and multiply it by a billion and it's that much more intense and profound.

I am completely devoted to him, like a dog to a master. One "good girl" can make me float on air for a full day.

I'm looking forward to reading the responses from owners.

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 6:11:46 AM

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I'm curious to know, if the discussion is about ownership, why the gender of the owner or the owned is of consequence.

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 6:17:24 AM

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For me Ownership has always been akin to being kept. In other words, i exist for him, and my place in his household, and that's pretty much it.

i'm much more like a "pet." Not that typically my Owner has engaged in puppy play, rather that i am a girl Owned for his fun and amusement, and for his pleasure. One of my mantras is "my purpose is his pleasure" - because it's true. i firmly believe i was created for that very reason.

i tend to resonate with Owners that want everything that is "me" - they want to know everything about me, and Own every inch of me, nothing held back - typically this means controlling how i dress, what i eat, where i go, etc., every decision for me, which is what i need too - yes, i am a capable, intelligent woman, and yet this type of Ownership is what i need, very much, and it is something i do happily and with peaceful bliss in my heart.

It is a very intense sort of emotion in this type of relationship - you have to be able to not feel "smothered" by it. Independence goes out the window. You have to find mental balance in other ways, within the context of this type of all-encompassing love and the cocoon of safety that he creates for you. This can be a Daddy/babygirl dynamic, but it isn't necessarily - even though it does contain that sort of context.

This is why i don't really resonate as much with "Master and slave" - it really is "Owner and property (slave)." A subtle shift in the dynamic, but it is what works for us.

And to me, my Owner is just the most amazing and wonderful man, loved, adored, cherished, cared for, and very happy, satisfied, comfy, and pleased - and that's the best. That is my ultimate goal and purpose in life. My existence and happiness really can be summed up in those two little words: "Good girl."

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 6:18:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'm curious to know, if the discussion is about ownership, why the gender of the owner or the owned is of consequence.

funny thing that, i'm a heterosexual male pervert so i speak from that perspective

i have no objections if you speak from your perspective and please use any gender you wish to express yourself

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 6:35:14 AM

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I was thinking you would have gotten a broader base of answers had you not only asked people who identify as you do, but also those who identify differently due to gender or sexual orientation.

In My opinion, ownership boils down to a combination of components of authority, power, and control. These have been given to Me freely by him and he continues to do so every day that he does not reach around his neck and remove My collar from it's place. The structure that I have laid down for him is a part of his existence. The areas of compatibility of what I provide in regards to his strongest wants, combined with his personality type, have always made him feel the sense of belonging to Me.

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 7:02:15 AM

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For me Ownership has always been akin to being kept. In other words, i exist for him, and my place in his household, and that's pretty much it.

i'm much more like a "pet." Not that typically my Owner has engaged in puppy play, rather that i am a girl Owned for his fun and amusement, and for his pleasure. One of my mantras is "my purpose is his pleasure" - because it's true. i firmly believe i was created for that very reason.

i tend to resonate with Owners that want everything that is "me" - they want to know everything about me, and Own every inch of me, nothing held back - typically this means controlling how i dress, what i eat, where i go, etc., every decision for me, which is what i need too - yes, i am a capable, intelligent woman, and yet this type of Ownership is what i need, very much, and it is something i do happily and with peaceful bliss in my heart.

It is a very intense sort of emotion in this type of relationship - you have to be able to not feel "smothered" by it. Independence goes out the window. You have to find mental balance in other ways, within the context of this type of all-encompassing love and the cocoon of safety that he creates for you. This can be a Daddy/babygirl dynamic, but it isn't necessarily - even though it does contain that sort of context.

This is why i don't really resonate as much with "Master and slave" - it really is "Owner and property (slave)." A subtle shift in the dynamic, but it is what works for us.

And to me, my Owner is just the most amazing and wonderful man, loved, adored, cherished, cared for, and very happy, satisfied, comfy, and pleased - and that's the best. That is my ultimate goal and purpose in life. My existence and happiness really can be summed up in those two little words: "Good girl."

I like it

To me ownership and control are unbounded

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 7:10:48 AM

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 7:28:26 PM

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It means I am his property and like any other property you can do whatever you want with it because well...it's yours to do with as you wish.

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 7:37:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: osf
also what does it mean to you (submissives) to be owned?

Hello,

"Owned" is shorthand for mastered or enslaved. My strongest desire--to be in this situation, with this man--supercedes any other desire or preference i might have. My only choice, if i want to be here, is to be his slave. He says, i do. He wants, he gets. He's fond of me and i, quite literally, adore him. That's what he wanted, so that's what he made happen. Most of our day to day life looks, and is, quite ordinary, but the foundation of our relationship is not love, it's not partnership or companionship (though sincere affection and companionship are certainly present), it is mastery and obedience/service.

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 8:30:55 PM

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I know I fully own a women... when I can leash her up naked, walk outside and have her howl at the moon regardless of what she thinks the neighbors will think. :-P

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 8:55:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
For me, it means I obey him. I seek his permission. I strive to please him. In many ways he is the focus of my world even as I maintain other interests and I have an active life outside of him.

Being owned and owning me is the way we best express our love for each other. It's the dynamic that suits our personalities and how we interact. It's comfortable, it feels right, even when things are tough.

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
It means I am his property and like any other property you can do whatever you want with it because well...it's yours to do with as you wish.

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ORIGINAL: alittleevil
"Owned" is shorthand for mastered or enslaved. My strongest desire--to be in this situation, with this man--supercedes any other desire or preference i might have. My only choice, if i want to be here, is to be his slave. He says, i do. He wants, he gets.

All of the above. When I was with Sir, it meant I totally belonged to, and was possessed by, Him.....anything and everything I said or did was a reflection on Him. I would first stop and think "Would this be pleasing to Him?" before I said or did anything. It meant I was loved and protected by the One I loved, served, and adored. Whatever He wanted He got, and I was always so very pleased to provide it. I was always trying to find ways to make Him pleased and happier than He'd ever been. When He was happy, I was happy. When He was hurting, I would hurt for Him. Nothing had ever felt more right in my life than that.

Now I am writing to Someone Else, and His idea of owned is a little different than Sir's was. Being owned by Him, if it happens, would be different too. It's still in the exploration stage......

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 9:03:00 PM

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I see it as more mutual than one side enslavement.

I see "ownership" as a concept of mutual passion, a reciprocation of being totally in sync with someone.

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RE: What does it mean to you to own a woman? - 1/20/2010 11:47:58 PM

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Dependence its where all true power originates she needs what I can provide and I can make use of her so I keep her

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