Domin8tingUrDrmz
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Etiquette
Forum Etiquette
Please remain respectful of others points of view and ask questions that are pertinent. Please refrain from posting inflammatory or accusatory remarks about FemDoms as a group. We are unique and sweeping generalizations will only result in a very negative thread. Trolling posts are strongly discouraged. No one is here to cater to your fantasies and fetishes. We are here to have intelligent discussions regarding a variety of interests. While we dislike those who post questions like “how many Dommes like face sitting,” we do encourage questions like “are there any known hazards involved in face sitting?” The first example sounds like you’re more interested in objectifying us and using us to fuel your masturbation fantasies. This approach will offend many of the regular posters. On the other hand, the second example sounds like you’re interested in learning more about your desired kink and will encourage open discussion.
Often, your questions can be answered by doing a search of the archives. Instead of bumping (commenting on) an old thread; start a new one and link the old thread in your post. Threads telling people the “right” or “true” way to do things usually end in flame wars. Remember, everyone does what works for them and there is no one-size-fits-all rule. If you are very knowledgeable about a certain topic, we welcome you to share your experiences, just do so in a manner that doesn’t imply your method is the only correct method. Be open to other possibilities.
Below are a few links of general ‘netiquette’ (internet etiquette). We do expect you to have some semblance of good manners while posting here.
http://www.albion.com/netiquette/corerules.html
http://forum-services-review.toptenreviews.com/25-forum-posting-etiquette-tips.html
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-forum-etiquette.htm
http://internet.suite101.com/article.cfm/tips_for_good_web_forum_etiquette
CMail Etiquette
It is important to keep in mind that women on this site typically receive several times more mail than men. Often the women are very busy in their daily lives and may not have time to respond immediately after reading. Be patient! If you haven’t received a reply within a few days, feel free to send a follow-up if you’d like, but if you still do not receive a reply, she probably isn’t interested.
Generally speaking, we prefer not to receive “cock shots” in an initial email, nor do we wish to receive requests for play. If we are interested in receiving those things from you, we’ll let you know – really. We are dominant women after all. Until then, use the messaging system as a way to politely introduce yourself and share with us the ways you believe you could fit into our lives. If you behave like you would in any other public setting, you’re more likely to receive a reply. If you behave like a crude animal just because this is an “adult” site, you will probably be ignored or worse. Remember, that while we are kinky women, we are WOMEN first and foremost.
Some key information to remember:
1. Take the time to thoroughly read the profile of the person you intend to mail. It is obvious to us when you haven’t.
2. Do not address the recipient as “Mistress” or “Goddess” or any other term of endearment; many women feel this implies a relationship has been established. Address her by her screen name or by the name she signs in her reply. If her screen name is MistressBadAss, shortening her name to just Mistress is not courteous. In an initial message, use her full screen name and ask her if she has another way she prefers to be addressed.
3. Do not send one-liners or autobiographies. Keep the message concise, show that you’ve taken the time to read her profile, and relay some relevant information about yourself. Most women do not like to receive mails that simply say “Hi”. Nor do we want a complete life history (put that in your profile) in an introduction. General rule of thumb: keep it to one or two paragraphs.
4. Grammar, punctuation, and spelling DO count! Keep usage of ‘netspeak’ to a minimum particularly in your first communication.
5. Nobody owes you a response, no matter how polite you think your message seems.
6. Being rude or obnoxious is not warranted. If you do not like a person’s profile – don’t send them a message; move on to those profiles that mesh with your personality. Would you walk up to a stranger and say “You are ugly!”? If you would, perhaps you should work on your manners in general.
7. Just because you think you would be the perfect sub/slave for her, do not presume to think that she will agree with your assessment. There may be something in your profile, or message that indicates to her you are not a good fit. Don’t take it personally; you are likely a good fit for another person. Be glad that you didn’t get overly involved with someone where things wouldn’t work out anyway.
8. Those who are seeking real life encounters are often unwilling to reply to messages from those who live far away. Unless you can reasonably relocate to the person’s area, or their profile indicates they are willing to relocate, try to stick to those who are closer to you. Some may indicate they are interested in online relationships, if they do, by all means, contact them if that interests you.
9. Approach a woman on this site the same way you would approach a woman in a vanilla setting.
10. Do not send cock shots or other ‘kink shots’ until she requests them.
11. Do not expect to instantly move to Yahoo or to the phone. Some may be interested in doing such and if so she will lead the way, but expecting it is just presumptuous and in poor taste.
12. If you are seeking a dominant woman, remember she will lead the way. There is nothing wrong with being eager, but overly eager just screams “horny net geek”.
13. Most women want to get to know a person before they delve into their kinky side. If you do not have the time or patience to develop a relationship with the person you are going to mail you may find yourself overlooked. Sure some women are here for cyber – but if she doesn’t have cyber listed as an interest in her profile, do not expect her to respond favorably to your attempts.
ETA This section was written by Slyvere, D8UD, and others who contributed links.
< Message edited by Domin8tingUrDrmz -- 1/26/2010 5:32:00 AM >
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