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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 4:34:36 PM   
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How did you know?!!!!

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 4:58:33 PM   
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Every now and again I have a lucky Guess HAHAHA plus that I love the anteater, he's soooooo freakin CUTE.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 5:58:10 PM   
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I went out today and got a building/working on self-esteem book. Yes I have been in counseling, in fact in and out with many different ones. They all seem to tell me the samething and felt that it was just a waste of time. So I stopped going, then I moved. So no I have not been in counseling for a while and not really sure that I want to waste the money to go back again. So I will work through the new book that I got and see what happens.


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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 6:07:22 PM   
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I just home from a day after birthday dinner. great frozen margaritas, sea bass with ginger sauce, key lime pie and a very cute waiter who sang happy birthday.

And this thread is still going on 13 pages? At least the food talk became interesting towards the end but then something distracting happened about someone wanting to get beat by an anteater, which would be really weird and scary....

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 6:16:18 PM   
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I went out today and got a building/working on self-esteem book. Yes I have been in counseling, in fact in and out with many different ones. They all seem to tell me the samething and felt that it was just a waste of time. So I stopped going, then I moved. So no I have not been in counseling for a while and not really sure that I want to waste the money to go back again. So I will work through the new book that I got and see what happens.


I bolded the part that stands out for me.

If they are all telling you the same thing...then perhaps that is the exact thing you should be working on.



ETA...The aardvark is far cuter in person.


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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 6:25:42 PM   
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I just home from a day after birthday dinner. great frozen margaritas, sea bass with ginger sauce, key lime pie and a very cute waiter who sang happy birthday.

And this thread is still going on 13 pages? At least the food talk became interesting towards the end but then something distracting happened about someone wanting to get beat by an anteater, which would be really weird and scary....



Ohhh Key Lime Pie. We don't get that in the UK and really miss it. Anyone got a good recipe and one for biscuits.



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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 6:39:36 PM   
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Those issues are bad enough for you to deal with on your own, let alone bringing someone into your life ...


People can type this a dozen times and it won't matter. She wants a dom to fix her. Suggesting that she fix herself prior to finding a dom is defeating her purpose.


That was Dollparts syndrom too. Was it Dollparts85, the one that feels "having someone make decisions for me and plan my day out would help reduce the amount of anxiety I experience"?

(that there is a catchy ice breaker of line ain't it?)


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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 6:41:45 PM   
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I've read most of this thread, and I think I have a good option for goalie!

Find a sexy, attractive therapist that makes your heart flutter.  See him weekly, or as often as your insurance plan will allow.  Transfer all of your need for a dominant onto him.  Tell him cuddling is therapeutic for you, and insist he snuggle during all of your sessions.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 6:41:50 PM   
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Lie down with your nose to the floor and your arse up in the air: one is sure to come by your way and take advantage of you  .


Well, she pretty much said it.

I was gonna say, drop to your knees bitch, but kittin's sounds nicer.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 7:00:04 PM   
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I've read most of this thread, and I think I have a good option for goalie!

Find a sexy, attractive therapist that makes your heart flutter.  See him weekly, or as often as your insurance plan will allow.  Transfer all of your need for a dominant onto him.  Tell him cuddling is therapeutic for you, and insist he snuggle during all of your sessions.

WinD

. . . and blow him so hard, gold balls fly out your arse.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 7:04:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

I've read most of this thread, and I think I have a good option for goalie!

Find a sexy, attractive therapist that makes your heart flutter.  See him weekly, or as often as your insurance plan will allow.  Transfer all of your need for a dominant onto him.  Tell him cuddling is therapeutic for you, and insist he snuggle during all of your sessions.

WinD

. . . and blow him so hard, gold balls fly out your arse.


Yep, the "if all else fails - blow him" plan works every time.  But umm, can't say I've ever had a dominant T-off my ass.  That hole in one sounds really disturbing.(cringes!)  

PS - I'm with goalie (sort of) - Can't a girl get a good cuddle? 

WinD
Will Blow for Cuddles

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 7:31:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I just home from a day after birthday dinner. great frozen margaritas, sea bass with ginger sauce, key lime pie and a very cute waiter who sang happy birthday.


Happy Birthday! Sounds like you had a good time.

quote:

And this thread is still going on 13 pages? At least the food talk became interesting towards the end but then something distracting happened about someone wanting to get beat by an anteater, which would be really weird and scary....


The food was good, the beating by the anteater...the stuff of nightmares. LOL

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 7:54:37 PM   
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So your therapists have told you same as everyone on this thread, and youre still looking for someone to tell you something else??????????

Good luck with that.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 11:16:47 PM   
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What’s the old adage about doing the same thing over and over expecting different results?

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/6/2010 12:26:26 AM   
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What’s the old adage about doing the same thing over and over expecting different results?



yea, i keep using the same lottery number

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/7/2010 7:03:30 PM   
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I have been hospitalized three times for serve depression and each time I come out with something different. I have had depression, anxiety, boderline personality disorder, bipolar, Post tramic symdom and mild OCD.


So what you're saying is that you have serious issues and you're looking for a Dom to take responsibility for you? That's not the way it works. A Dom is just some guy. A Dom is not an acceptable subsitute for adequate therapy or mental care. A Dom (or a bf) is not the be-all end-all solution to your problems. You are placing far too much weight and responsibility on your hoped-for Dom/bf and not enough on yourself.

Get some help and guidance. If your family and/or friends are unable to provide it or be supportive - find someone who is. If your therapist or counselor isn't listening to you and trying to help you - find one that will.

A relationship is a give and take interaction. Sometimes one side may give or take more than the other but over time it needs to even out. If you're bringing a huge group of needs to the table, you need to bring along a big pile of positives (compassion, support, drop-dead sexiness, brilliance, understanding, wild-ass sexual skills ... whatever) to balance them. Look - it's one thing to acknowledge that this wonderful person you're so into has some problems that need to be accepted, understood and supported, it's a different thing entirely to find out you're entering into a relationship where everything revolves around the other person and their problems, no one wants that.

If you're still struggling with serious issues from the past, now is not the time to look for a serious relationship. Now is the time to come to grips with those issues.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/7/2010 7:05:59 PM   
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You want a unicorn, they don't exist.


You're kidding me, right? The pesky things keep following me around all the time. I can't figure out how to get rid of them. They've eaten the lawn, scared the dog, and they drink all the good beer. I went down to the animal shelter and asked about what to do and the guys there all laughed at me. At least until the unicorns showed up and went on a rampage. They seem to like me, though.I don't get it.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/7/2010 7:28:37 PM   
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All good points for her to seriously take.

I doubt she will...

Enough for me...Out..

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/7/2010 9:40:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: InvisibleBlack

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff
You want a unicorn, they don't exist.


You're kidding me, right? The pesky things keep following me around all the time. I can't figure out how to get rid of them. They've eaten the lawn, scared the dog, and they drink all the good beer. I went down to the animal shelter and asked about what to do and the guys there all laughed at me. At least until the unicorns showed up and went on a rampage. They seem to like me, though.I don't get it.





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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/8/2010 9:44:36 AM   
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How do you get a Dom?



You'll know when he "gets" you.

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