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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:16:15 AM

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Here's what I'm seeing. I see the OP (that's short for "original poster," which would be goalie1801) not wanting to take total and complete responsibility for her life, for whatever reason.

How do I do this? What is this?

To take total and complete responsibility for your life means to quit blaming others for how things turn out. Realize your role in how these things turn out.

Your role in your bad situations, as I see it from what you've posted, is multidimensional.

First, you lack social awareness. You are unable to tell when someone is joking or when someone is giving you sincere advice.

Second, due to your lack of social awareness, you portray a 'pity me' attitude.

Third, by portraying a 'pity me' attitude, you invite people who want to use you into your life. People who won't use you, do not want to associate with the 'pity me' types.

Now, if you really want to make improvements, and open yourself up to an eventual healthy relationship, you need to fix yourself first. Do NOT focus on finding a Dom nor a boyfriend until you are able to pick up on social cues, until you can stop portraying yourself as a victim. This will take a LOT of work on your part. You first need to SEE what your faults are, then find a way to change them.

Only after you have done this self improvement will you be ready to find someone who meets your needs.

Quit blaming doms for misusing you, understand and accept that you had a part in that. Focus on fixing the part you had in that mistreatment. Speak with a professional. Seek advice from friends with whom you have no romantic interest.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:17:46 AM

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If you are going to call me stupid then just leave... I dont need that as I got that in school and from my family. I doesnt help me out one bit. I am being honest on here.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:21:13 AM

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Bad?.. .no it is enlightening. If you aren't a troll, you are certainly not submissive.

You want a unicorn, they don't exist. If they did exist you couldn't catch one without working for it. You have shown NO desire to do anything except complain. You also seem particularly dense.

It is not attractive.

No, i will not explain further. If you are really interested, go back to the start of this thread and read it again. Read it till you get what people have been telling you.

Or get your self a nice nilla guy and a dry cleaner.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:21:18 AM

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If you are going to call me stupid then just leave... I dont need that as I got that in school

Sorry, we don't leave, YOU need to leave and get therapy. Earlier on in this thread I tried to give you some good advice. Lally thought I was mean, so I was a bit gentler in my next post.

Now I get home and many other people tried and failed to get through to you.

Do you have a learning disability of some type? If you do, that is cool, lots of people do but you need help for that.

If you have NO learning disability, then you need to get off the computer, read Why Smart Women Make Stupid Choices, go to a woman's self esteem workshop and stop dating for awhile.

Otherwise, we will be reading about your debacles for years to come.

Oh, and I am sure there are HNG's in your mailbox now waiting to pounce. But as they say in online advertising, it is not the Clicks you want, it is the Customers.

Hope you can see the relevance of that.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:21:28 AM

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If you are going to call me stupid then just leave...

Gonna be awfully lonely in here for 'ya.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:21:29 AM

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If you are going to call me stupid then just leave... I dont need that as I got that in school and from my family. I doesnt help me out one bit. I am being honest on here.

Serious question, and not intended as an insult...

Do you have Asperger's Syndrome?

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:23:54 AM

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If you are going to call me stupid then just leave... I dont need that as I got that in school and from my family. I doesnt help me out one bit. I am being honest on here.

Serious question, and not intended as an insult...

Do you have Asperger's Syndrome?

I was wondering this as well.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:27:23 AM

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OMG - ROFLCOPTER

She is doing a better job than ArabianKnight at appearing serious.

This is either very, very funny hoax or very sad reality. At this point, she has blatantly ignored the rewrite advice several times and refuses to acknowledge the point. My vote is that it’s a hoax… a very good one. Grats and ty for the entertainment.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:29:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

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If you are going to call me stupid then just leave... I dont need that as I got that in school and from my family. I doesnt help me out one bit. I am being honest on here.

Serious question, and not intended as an insult...

Do you have Asperger's Syndrome?

If not a charade, then that was my thought.... but I did not want to be thought to be bashing or making online diagnosis

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:30:32 AM

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I certainly hope you are right. But if this is serious, I am truly worried for this poster.

If she is seriously this way, in real life, I hope she gets help. Otherwise we will likely read about her in the news. Sad.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:34:21 AM

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Yeah, I didn't want to make a diagnosis either, that's why I asked

. I have a very dear person in my life afflicted with Asperger's Syndrome, and it is hell for them trying to pick up on social cues, amongst other things.

OP, you haven't answered yet, but if you do have this problem, there is help available.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:37:12 AM

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This poster is Me... my name is goalie1801. I am for real this is who I am.

Asperger's Syndrome?

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:39:23 AM

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Click here to read about Asperger's Syndrome.

This information is provided by the Mayo Clinic.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:40:36 AM

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Maybe she has it but is not aware; just knows there's something "different" about herself that she can't put a finger on. ? I have a nephew who is a high-functioning autistic because they caught it early. He knows he's different from the rest of the kids but I'm not sure he knows what his exact Dx is .

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:41:35 AM

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I have never been tested for it nor has any of my counselors or doctors said anything about it

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:43:58 AM

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Goalie,
It's possible that it never crossed their minds TO test for it. Not all in the guidance and medical fields are always up to date on the various behavioral aberrations that exist.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:44:28 AM

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goalie,

If you feel you exhibit several of those symptoms, speak to a doctor. Preferably a neurologist who specializes in Asperger's and Autism.

I wish you well.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:48:29 AM

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I have been hospitalized three times for serve depression and each time I come out with something different. I have had depression, anxiety, boderline personality disorder, bipolar, Post tramic symdom and mild OCD.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:49:09 AM

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If, however it turns out you actually ARE a dumbass. my previous post stands.

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RE: How to get a Dom? - 2/5/2010 9:50:42 AM

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And you are a jerk for telling someone that, that is trying to figure themselves out.

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