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LaTigresse -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 1:35:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goalie1801 I am not hard core christian at all but that is my feeling on a relationship. Is that so bad? Besides for most in this lifestyle is not the Man head of the house. No!

domiguy -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 1:39:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: goalie1801 I am not hard core christian at all but that is my feeling on a relationship. Is that so bad? Besides for most in this lifestyle is not the Man head of the house. No! Goalie, pay her no mind....They didn't mention anything about lezbos in the bible. And quite frankly all of this lezzing out and domme shit is an abomination in the eyes of God. Her opinions should be immediately dismissed. I saw your profile and liked this lil' bit.... "I am looking for a long term relationship. I am more on the traditional side of things as far as partners go. I don’t believe that it is right that the women boss around the man. The man was created first and therefore is ruler over his domain. I feel that the women should submit to her bf/husband as it states. I feel that this gets rid of a lot of fighting, arguing and the like that comes with living with someone or just having a relationship. " You are a wise and noble creature. Pay these sodomites and sinners no mind.

LaTigresse -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 1:48:48 PM)
Now DG, last I read ( many years ago) that book also said something about sex only being for making babies. Nothing about any practicing in there. That Domidong is going to get awful lonely...

Lucienne -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 1:54:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goalie1801 I just want someone to cuddle up at night with. If that's what you want more than anything, I'd suggest expanding your search beyond bdsm.

lally2 -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 2:12:03 PM)
i want someone to cuddle up with at night too [:)] goalie, youre profile is all about what you want and what you dont want. i want this, i wont do that. youre profile isnt helping you. youre looking for a Dominant partner to be submissive to, but youre not letting that show. even youre picture is all about self-protection, arms infront of you, slightly leaning away. youre the girl next door, cool, thats great, so chill, relax, be that girl. express youre submissive feelings, describe the way submission feels to you, give away the fact that you want to be cuddled and cared for, let people in and see you.

goalie1801 -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 2:13:24 PM)
I want and need the bdsm in my relationship. That is part of who I am and will not hide from it at all.

FukinTroll -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 2:14:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goalie1801 How do you get a Dom? Well... if you're not particular you should have one by 6 at the latest. Edited cuz i'm goofy like that.

ServeYourMaster1 -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 2:37:57 PM)
You want BDSM. What are your fetishes and interests? Give a Dom some idea who you are.

goalie1801 -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 2:51:22 PM)
They are on my profile. However, being the nice and kind person that I am here are some of them... Being tied up spread eagle and just letting the guy have some fun. When the relationship gets to that point of wearing a butt plug out in public. Also at a point of letting the guy take me when and where he wants to, making sure that I am not going to get hurt. Also if I were to go to the store by myself that I would have to wear underwear with a dildo attached. I have done a golden shower and licked ass. I like getting spankings when I have done wrong or just as a reminder for who's I am. There are some general ideas about my BDSM side

LaTigresse -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 2:55:02 PM)
That says nothing about what you have to offer that dozens others offer. What makes YOU special? What are your talents that have nothing to do with kink? What gives you joy in life, makes you laugh? Why would a guy want to be around you? What do you enjoy doing on a lazy Sunday afternoon? Are you getting the idea???

ServeYourMaster1 -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 3:05:37 PM)
Your BDSM interests should be enough to interest some Doms. If you are willing to relocate you should find some suitable matches. Even in large cities it can be difficult to find a local match. If you feel too sorry for yourself all the time you are never going to find a true Dom. You will only find users.

goalie1801 -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 3:09:42 PM)
I cant relocate as I have just moved. And you would think so with the interest but nothing.

RedMagic1 -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 3:13:30 PM)
quote: That says nothing about what you have to offer that dozens others offer. What makes YOU special? What are your talents that have nothing to do with kink? What gives you joy in life, makes you laugh? Why would a guy want to be around you? What do you enjoy doing on a lazy Sunday afternoon? Until you can answer these questions with the same level of detail that you answered the questions about your kinks, you will remain in a pattern of attracting skanky men whose primary interest in you is physical. Are you even listening to us? The only fleshed-out answer you've given anyone was to the guy who asked about sex.

HisSub1213 -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 3:16:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goalie1801 They are on my profile. However, being the nice and kind person that I am here are some of them... Being tied up spread eagle and just letting the guy have some fun. When the relationship gets to that point of wearing a butt plug out in public. Also at a point of letting the guy take me when and where he wants to, making sure that I am not going to get hurt. Also if I were to go to the store by myself that I would have to wear underwear with a dildo attached. I have done a golden shower and licked ass. I like getting spankings when I have done wrong or just as a reminder for who's I am. There are some general ideas about my BDSM side I hope this doesn't come across wrong, but I see you getting all this wonderful advice and yet your posts come across as defensive when someone gives you a suggestion. There are lots of folks here willing to help out if you'll let them. [:)]

Jeffff -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 3:21:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse What do you enjoy doing on a lazy Sunday afternoon? I like to watch my woman, groom the horses, muck out the stalls and make me a pot roast. Jeff

goalie1801 -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 3:22:20 PM)
I am being this way because I have never had anyone help me before it is just hard. If you ask me specific questions I will do my best to answer them.

RedMagic1 -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 3:24:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goalie1801 If you ask me specific questions I will do my best to answer them. Great. Here's four specific questions. 1. What are your talents that have nothing to do with kink? 2. What gives you joy in life, makes you laugh? 3. Why would a guy want to be around you? 4. What do you enjoy doing on a lazy Sunday afternoon? I made them up myself, just now.

lally2 -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 3:27:43 PM)
hugs goalie [:)] - youre doing fine. go make youreself a nice cup of tea then sit down and think about all that youve told us down here on the boards and how you can transfer that to youre profile.

goalie1801 -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 3:30:37 PM)
I will be off the rest of the night more than likly but will anwser all the questions tomorrow. Thanks guys for all the imput.

Elisabella -> RE: How to get a Dom? (2/4/2010 3:35:07 PM)
Hey Goalie, I'm wondering, is this question more along the lines of "how do I find my soulmate" or "how do I stop being taken advantage of by guys?" Because if it's the first, how to find a soulmate, that takes time. Lots of time, lots of tears. I have gone on a lot of dates with a lot of men. Only a handful of those ever progressed to "boyfriend" status. Only a handful of the boyfriends ever progressed to "sleeping together" status. Only one of those ever progressed to "husband" status, but my goodness it was worth the wait! If it's how to stop being taken advantage of...I can give a few pointers. Don't rush into physical activity just because it's a BDSM site. Most of the men I've known aren't going to commit to someone who sleeps with them within the first few dates - I know someone's going to jump on this and say "BUT I SLEPT WITH MY NOW-HUSBAND ON THE FIRST DATE" and yeah it does work out sometimes, but those sometimeses aren't the majority of times. A dominant man is still a man first, a dominant second. And since you're looking for a traditional, Christian man, he probably won't see you as long-term relationship material if you jump into the physical right away. And that's not just sex, it's play too. The biggest mistake I see is people jumping head first into play, or sex, without really getting to know the person or establishing parameters for a relationship. Women will go out with a guy, hook up on the second date, have amazing sex and play for a month...then he leaves her to be someone else's boyfriend. But in that situation, there wasn't a talk of commitment, or where things were going, or relationship goals, so even though the woman feels "taken advantage of" she was just as much an active participant. To put it another way, a guy who's only interested in sex isn't going to stick around for 2 or 3 months to wait to get it. If you want to find someone who's interested in a LTR with you, give it time. Give the relationship time to develop, and give the search process time. You know that saying "you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince" - it's pretty true. Anyway, good luck :)

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