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A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 3:14:10 PM

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I do a lot of flirting with the Dominas here, and my general impression is that they seem very receptive to it, more so than sub women. And aside from my own experience, I've watched the flirtation between Jeff and LaT, aka June and Ward.

Is it that the pressure is off when a Dom flirts with them? Is it that they are so tired of mail from sub men that a flirtatious one from a Dom is a welcome relief? Or is there no difference except in my perception?

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 3:26:59 PM

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No, it's because it's nice to have a man flirt with us. Very few submissive men are adept in the art of flirting. I mean we have a few... Peon, Elan, Pyro, PS53 come to mind, but not many.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 3:31:29 PM

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It's because you're irresistible.

I'd think that there is a refreshing element involved though. Some sub guys can definitely come across as needy or have a certain expectation when a Domina flirts or converses with them. Perhaps when its coming from a Dom, the Domina knows its in good fun and no one is going to get mislead or misunderstand.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 3:50:10 PM

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No, it's because it's nice to have a man flirt with us. Very few submissive men are adept in the art of flirting. I mean we have a few... Peon, Elan, Pyro, PS53 come to mind, but not many.

- LA

WHOA WHOA WHOA...

I flirt? I was not aware of this. Then again I am not aware of many things. Still this is a surprise to me.

I was originally going to say that yes, I love when a Domme takes initiative and begins the flirtatious courting for I do not know how. At least, I do not know how to do it consciously.

.......

If you really want something you must let someone know. How would they no otherwise? The difference between a taken sub(sandwich) and a lonesome one?

Confidence. The ability to confide in your own actions and not regret them.

Besides... the wink emoticon helps.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 3:51:15 PM

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There's a key factor to it, Steven.

I think females of both roles are more prone to flirt/accept flirting from someone they are comfortable to some extent knowing their personality. I think part of it has to do with the fact that many people can tell your general disposition and that makes all of the difference.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 3:52:25 PM

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WHOA WHOA WHOA...

I flirt? I was not aware of this. Then again I am not aware of many things. Still this is a surprise to me.

Pull the other one, dear.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 4:02:13 PM

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WHOA WHOA WHOA...

I flirt? I was not aware of this. Then again I am not aware of many things. Still this is a surprise to me.

I was originally going to say that yes, I love when a Domme takes initiative and begins the flirtatious courting for I do not know how. At least, I do not know how to do it consciously.

This is one of the places where lack of inhibitions helps a bit. You are not rude or insulting but you say honestly what is on your mind. And you have a talent with words that makes how you say things refreshing.

And Stephen, the ladies are right. It is the personality of the individual man that makes one receptive, not his role/orientation.

Ms. Betty

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 4:30:37 PM

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WHOA WHOA WHOA...

I flirt? I was not aware of this. Then again I am not aware of many things. Still this is a surprise to me.

Pull the other one, dear.

Huh? What other one? I am confused.

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This is one of the places where lack of inhibitions helps a bit. You are not rude or insulting but you say honestly what is on your mind. And you have a talent with words that makes how you say things refreshing.

And Stephen, the ladies are right. It is the personality of the individual man that makes one receptive, not his role/orientation.

Ms. Betty

Ah, but there is much more that I do not say because I am not sure if it is offensive or not offensive.

The Ladies have Spoken. So mote it be!
ungajunga ungajunga hoy!!!!

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 4:32:49 PM

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I do a lot of flirting with the Dominas here, and my general impression is that they seem very receptive to it, more so than sub women. And aside from my own experience, I've watched the flirtation between Jeff and LaT, aka June and Ward.

Is it that the pressure is off when a Dom flirts with them? Is it that they are so tired of mail from sub men that a flirtatious one from a Dom is a welcome relief? Or is there no difference except in my perception?

No, silly! Its because you're yummy.

*bats eyelashes demurely*

I am not available, so I'm more likely to flirt with someone who I think really gets that about me. Its just harmless flirting, not meant to be taken as the kind of flirting that is going to lead to anything more. So I don't want to do it with anyone who might misunderstand.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 5:26:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

No, it's because it's nice to have a man flirt with us. Very few submissive men are adept in the art of flirting. I mean we have a few... Peon, Elan, Pyro, PS53 come to mind, but not many.

- LA

Thank you for that 'adept' LA - but I was fully and roundly informed earlier this week by a long-standing Domme friend that I'm actually rubbish at flirting.

It has to be said: if I was that slick with the old tongue, I'd probably not be posting here at 1.25 am on a Saturday night . . .

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 5:26:31 PM

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I do a lot of flirting with the Dominas here, and my general impression is that they seem very receptive to it, more so than sub women.

Wha? Say wha? You think the subly chicas don't flirt with you?

That is a load of hog hooey.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 5:38:58 PM

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 5:40:27 PM

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That may be, Level, but I can't tell you how many real life convos I've had with subly women saying "do we flirt too much with the guys? Are we too obvious?" Seriously. I mean I was floored when I read that.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 5:44:59 PM

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Agreed, I see more flirting by the submissive women here than the dommes, but I'm not in this section that often, so my viewpoint might be skewed.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 5:47:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

No, it's because it's nice to have a man flirt with us. Very few submissive men are adept in the art of flirting. I mean we have a few... Peon, Elan, Pyro, PS53 come to mind, but not many.

- LA

Moi ? A flirt ? Sacre Blue !

( smirks a tad )

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 5:49:40 PM

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It has to be said: if I was that slick with the old tongue, I'd probably not be posting here at 1.25 am on a Saturday night . . .

Practice makes perfect matey.....lol

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 5:56:53 PM

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For me it's not because they are Dom, sub or whatever, the ones I play around with are the ones that I know, or at least know of.

When you see someone that post all the time you kind of get a handle on their sense of humor and you know they are not serious and they know you are not serious so we can relax and have fun,.

Well that's the way it is for me any way cookie monster....lol

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 6:01:26 PM

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Ha, so now if I tell someone they are gorgeous, they will think Im not serious.

BTW.....you are gorgeous.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 6:04:43 PM

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I'll echo what a few other the other women have said. Unfortunately not many sub men flirt, or feel it is appropriate to flirt, or they falsely believe that flirtation = dominance.

I'll also add that I think many of the dominant men here have more attractive personalities than many of the submissive men on here. With the exception of a small handful (I think they know who they are), the impression I get from many of the submissive regular (posters) here are that they are very bitter, resentful men that use the boards to seek attention.

I think some of the dom men are kind of hot. :)

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 6:07:40 PM

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I like flirting. Nothing wrong with it.

Now let me blush some more...LOL!

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