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What if you required a hand written letter instead of e... - 2/8/2010 9:59:38 AM

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I was wondering what the impact would be for a woman (who is swamped with emails) to request a hand written letter in response to her collarme profile, nothing electronic. This would eliminate the men who are cutting and pasting and those that haven't put any time or thought into it, and really promote those that are careful about their responses and willing to devote *time* (and the cost of a postage stamp). It also requires a degree of patience, since the men have to wait for a response thanks to the US Postal service having to deliver the letter. So that eliminates any man who is just momentarily horny and had the great idea of spamming kinky women online.

Unfortunately, there's the issue of privacy and safety, and giving out a postal address; not everyone has a PO Box.

I was thinking an alternative would be to have a man hand write a letter and then scan it and send it as a PDF. It sounds ridiculously clunky, but the point is the same - the time it takes to hand write a letter shows a real degree of sincerity. I think it's a nice touch.

Anyone considered something like this, or am I just too old school?

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 10:12:19 AM

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Really a very good idea: a hand written letter, to scan and send to the lady.

The ladies should require a minimum size. And the sub should alternate between blue and red for each next character, so that it takes him several hours to write the letter.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 10:14:14 AM

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Post office boxes are pretty cheap. But I have this mental image of some creepy guy lurking about the Post Office, waiting for you to pick up your mail, and follow you home. Email can be a hassle, but it sure does help weed out the weirdo, and keep them moderately at bay.

The scanned letter thing is pretty cool. Some may fuss about having to go out and buy the equipment to scan things with, but you can always tell them that at least when they spend tribute on YOU, they get to keep the gift.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 10:15:41 AM

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I would love hand written letter's and hadn't thought of that actually. It would be worthwhile to me for a number of reasons, but the big one would be that I could analyze the hand writing. That is a big factor with me and I love to see a man's handwriting so that I can see/read many things about them. It has never failed me and thanks to your thoughts and thread here, I may have to consider doing something like this. When in person rather than online, I always find a way to see their handwriting!

Many cannot write well and it is difficult to read their writing and a scan if they have the means to do that could be even more difficult. The PO Box wouldn't be a bad thing if one used this with a lot of people and would be worth considering. I think expecting a hand written something would say a lot of those who actually did it.

As one who is about ready to say no more to the online connections... this would be an avenue I might seriously consider! Thanks for the idea! lol

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 10:17:04 AM

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. . . I have this mental image of some creepy guy lurking about the Post Office, waiting for you to pick up your mail, and follow you home.

Wishful thinking?

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 10:20:34 AM

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I would think that if someone were to actually read a profile that contained such a request then that would probably set them apart from so many others who do the "see pic - send form email" knee jerk reaction. Then the question becomes, does this in any way make them what I am really looking for?
Problem, I do not have the patience to wait for the mail (and my mailman is a lazy idiot who routinely loses my mail). If I do wait for the mail, then there is still the issue of pretty much having to read something from someone who is still not even close to what I am looking for. A little effort does not equal compatatility, just an implied agreement that they will get attention and feel a connection in having made the effort.
Sounds like a reason for a sub to be persistant through a medium where I cannot block them.
In my opinion, not a good idea.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 10:22:02 AM

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i wonder if this would be more appropriate for a Female Domme/male sub relationship vs. Male Dom/female sub.

i think more submissive men might enjoy the idea of hand-writing a letter to a Mistress they'd like to "court."

For me as a submissive woman, i never minded the sorting and deleting of emails from Doms, espcially the one-liners and the form letters. i had a standard reply for such messages (a nice thanks but no thanks) that i would paste, reply, and then delete the message - simple and quick.

i don't know if it would make that much difference to me if he put thought into handwriting a letter to me vs. typing a thoughtful email. And just because a Dom would take the time to hand-write a thoughtful message to me doesn't mean to me that i would automatically enter into a dialogue with him - we could still not be a good fit, in which case he's taken a bunch of both of our time for well, a 30 second rejection.

Add to that the fact that i enjoy some anonymity with my location (i'm not actually in Austin, but reasonably close by), and the hassle of maintaining a PO box, etc., for me it would be more headache than it would be worth.

Oh, and for what it's worth, i wouldn't write a hand-written letter to a Dom i was interested in as a potential Owner either, if i were still searching. That smacks to me of the whole "application" process which some Doms demand, and doesn't work for me.

So not for me and my dynamic. But as i mention above i could see this being more useful in the Domme/sub dynamic. Interesting idea, either way.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 10:33:18 AM

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Hmmmm. You dommes and your tinkerings.

Anywhoooo, For the old Domiguy, I can tell immediately if someone has not written an "original" when responding to me. Lastly, I would like to think that in this day and age that a woman that I would show interest in has better things to do with her time than to hand write out a letter.

To each their own. Can only imagine what these handwritten letters will look like without the aid of a spellcheck to help along these poor silly guys with all of this time on their hands.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 10:36:58 AM

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. . . I have this mental image of some creepy guy lurking about the Post Office, waiting for you to pick up your mail, and follow you home.

Wishful thinking?

shhhh, people will think I'm kinky or something

OP, I love going to the mailbox and receiving personal mail!

I think your idea has defeinite potential. Plus, you'd know the ones who actually read your profile, because they made the effort to comply. Not to mention you'd get MAIL! Mail is good. I like mail.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 10:39:10 AM

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I hadn't considered it but it is certainly something to ponder for the future. It's not really much effort as long as one has a scanner but it would show interest.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 11:26:15 AM

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As an older being I used to use snail mail all the time. I am a philatelic fan and love to see what is new in the stamp world. I dont collect them but I buy philatelic. Why not they are so pretty. If one was bugs, let's say I would use those to pay bills.

I think men writing is so cute. I love to see hand writing. The way people construct each letter is fascinating. How is the 'y' formed? Is it legible? Hand writing is cute!

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 11:30:35 AM

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i've had a PO Box for art card trading and other art projects, sometimes it's worked out really well. The biggest drawback to it was receiving inappropriate mail. Once the question arose "What's in this package and why is it leaking?", i rethought the expense of the POB.

i would say PO Boxes would reduce but not eliminate unwanted communications.
PDF would be less of an expense and have less potential for questionable mailings, but then it might also weed out acceptable matches in other areas because of computer illiteracy or the unavailability of a scanner. By no means, bad criteria. . . just noting.

(P.S. In answer to the question, it was a paint and ham sandwich some joker sent. As a piece of art, i didn't much care for it.)

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P.P.S no, i didn't care for the idea as a sammich either. Paint is not part of the food pyramid.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 12:11:10 PM

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 1:01:09 PM

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Call me shallow, but I'm a guy. Is there a way we can simply cut to the chase without all the long winded bull crap. Because us guys end up devoting endless hours of time trying to chase down pussy with; emails, letters, flowers and you name it. Only too often to discover the pussy ain't so great. We end up making up bullshit excuses for things turning into one night stands. Sincerely we hate the heartbreak and dispointments caused by this needless long winded process. The bullshit excuses/lies we tell is our way of trying to be sensitive, because the real truth would be devasting to hear. There a reason why we become so damn quiet when you guys pry at us for the truth.

OMG.. Where the Hell did this all come from? Frack, I'm wondering if DomiGuy Spiked my Drink or someting now. (puzzled look).

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 1:09:56 PM

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ROFL Whip!

Way back in the late seventies I used to say I would rather a man walk up and ask me to fuck than to play the part of someone I might want to fuck. I can respect that to some degree because it is honest. But... I got old or jaded around here. lol Now, every day even if they are trying to smooth talk, they are asking... what will you do to me? Can't even get a guy who just wants to give a good fuck! lol At least in the seventies, some wanted to give you a good one! Now they want a fuck, but for you to do all the work!

But having said that... there are some who will either play the game well or really mean it.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 1:32:53 PM

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From a female submissive's point of view, I think this if I demanded this sort of thing that a very nice pleasant dom would probably pass me by, why bother with such demands? We are all strangers to each other after all...

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 1:58:33 PM

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Honestly for an initial introductory type of situation I think it is a bit egotistical. A way of saying "I'm all that and a bag of chips, too, and you are going to jump through hoops just to say hello to me, I'm so great." If a dominant male at that on his profile I would laugh and move on.

As others have said, it doesn't increase compatibility possibilities at all, and honestly if someone goes through all the trouble of handwriting a letter to you, you damn well ought to send them a response if you aren't interested or again, you are screaming "I'm all that." This, of course, does not apply to anyone who would handwrite insults or stupid stuff, which, to be honest, it is only going to lessen, not eliminate.

However, do I think that it would be a great thing to do after you have exchanged an email or two with someone and there IS compatibility? Definately. Prior to that, I'm sorry, but it isn't a matter of being "old school," to me. To me it sounds conceited. Now I understand that there are plenty of D types, both male and female that have the attitude that all s types should feel honored that the D deigns to speak with them, but I'm not in that camp.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 2:17:44 PM

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Call me shallow, but I'm a guy. Is there a way we can simply cut to the chase without all the long winded bull crap.

OMG.. Where the Hell did this all come from? Frack, I'm wondering if DomiGuy Spiked my Drink or someting now. (puzzled look).

Get it off your chest, my brothah!!! Dontcha feel better?

It's true. Why do we try and cram so much bullshit into something that could be a rather simple process.

What the majority of us seek is that certain someone that catches our wave and can ride it out with us. But no, let's create as many hurdles and obstacles as possible so we can try and reduce our chance of success.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 2:35:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

Call me shallow, but I'm a guy. Is there a way we can simply cut to the chase without all the long winded bull crap. Because us guys end up devoting endless hours of time trying to chase down pussy with; emails, letters, flowers and you name it. Only too often to discover the pussy ain't so great. We end up making up bullshit excuses for things turning into one night stands. Sincerely we hate the heartbreak and dispointments caused by this needless long winded process. The bullshit excuses/lies we tell is our way of trying to be sensitive, because the real truth would be devasting to hear. There a reason why we become so damn quiet when you guys pry at us for the truth.

OMG.. Where the Hell did this all come from? Frack, I'm wondering if DomiGuy Spiked my Drink or someting now. (puzzled look).

Oh bloody well please do cut to the chase! What's IN an email, note, missive, letter matters ... I don't give a crap HOW it got to me. I can't imagine that writing and scanning proves anything much other than someone'll leap through a hoop or two for me.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 3:05:52 PM

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Not a chance - my handwriting is pretty much unreadable to anyone but me and I am not spending several hours trying to write legible. Not to mention that after typing just about everything for the last couple of years my hand starts to cramp if I write anything longer then a couple of lines by hand.

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