BLoved
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub quote:
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub I didn't ask if they can have sex. I said "are they capable of consenting to vanilla sex?". My point being that if we are willing to regard them as capable of consenting to the "basic" sex acts, then I don't think we can pick and choose what else they are able to consent to. So how 'crazy' does someone have to be before you say "No, I won't share vanilla sex with you"? Me personally or in general? For me, as in "I, Aqua, choose not to have sex with you because I think you are too crazy", I don't have a measuring stick. If I feel that they are dangerously unstable, I will not become romantically or sexually involved with them for my own safety and it really doesn't matter how many assurences I get otherwise. I have to feel comfortable. If they don't have a firm grasp on reality, I won't have sex with them because I don't want to be involved in that. Now if they are capable of consenting to sex is an entirely different matter than if I choose to have sex with them. I am not trained to determine a person's capability to consent and have to use my own best judgement combined with what I am and am not willing to get involved with. Thank you, Aqua. I agree with what you've said here and understand what you were saying earlier.
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When your bdsm paradigm makes love essential, expect some flack from those for whom love is anathema.
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