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RE: why so little switchery? - 4/16/2010 3:19:11 PM

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Because switches can post in either the sub forum, the dom forum, or the general forum, unless the question pertains directly to switching. Besides if you look at the other forums you'll see an overflow of "I never get laid wtf" in the dom forums and "omg how does i has relationship internets plz help" in the sub forum.

In other words I don't think this forum is missing much :P

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RE: why so little switchery? - 4/21/2010 9:10:25 AM

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Why is there so little switchery going on in the message boards? Well....could be a couple things. I have no doubt that there are a lot of switches out there who are in hiding because of the people who scream at the top of their lungs "switches don't exist", or all the negative things I've heard or been told myself that I won't take the time to repeat here. Besides I think most of us have encountered something along those lines at some point. If someone is going to have a problem with any of the things our lifestyle affords us, the right to choose to be both is the major thing I've ever heard complaints about. It seems we are the most understood "species" in the BDSM world. Really sad since, I've noticed here, we are all so eloquent about expression ourselves (okay, so not everybody. Think broad stroke generalizations here for the sake of saving space. I'm aware that there are those who fully accept us as we are as well).

Something else to ponder about as well, as already stated, some of us go off on the other boards to post when the question that we are asking, or the comment we are making, leans toward one side or the other. It could just as easily be posted here as well, but most wouldn't want to post a question twice and probably figures that they'll get more responses out of the targeted audience. That and there's not much action on the Ask a switch boards (it's a horrific circle, I know).

Last but not least, Elisabella so beautifully stated ^.^ a lot of the other boards are posts of complaining, whining, or relationship problems. If not a mix of the three. Unless we are going to the other boards to post such things, and I'm sure some are, I find it rather complimentary that those threads aren't the dominating topic of conversation here. I don't have a problem reading about people who are sincerely wanting help in their relationship, but those posts tend to get repetitive very quickly. Seems like with vanilla relationships, there are only so many things that can actually go wrong (without the addition of possibly life threatening recourse from our favorite hobbies).

I'm really glad you asked the question though, may be it will push some people who don't normally post here to come back to our little group and contribute here as well as the other boards.

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RE: why so little switchery? - 4/25/2010 5:06:51 PM

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i have a strong objection and am often outright offended when viewing a profile that is so outwardly dominant as to refer to the reader as a bitch or slave in the first sentence or so on. that's the biggest turn off for a dominant for me- for largely that reason i will only date switches. switches don't often enter into something with much expectation, just a sense of hope or an actual air of wanting to have genuine fun.

switches are by far the most refreshing of any groups of people i've had the pleasure of meeting. i mean no disrespect to doms or subs, but sometimes i'm genuinely offended by what's been written or said.

granted, the most obvious argument is "it's not really intended for you mister switch", and i understand that. the 2nd argument is "that person just knows what they want and isnt willing to settle for anything else" to which one might respond, what a bitch or a dick. to which in turn someone may respond "that is the point"

i fully intend to keep writing in circles. :)

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RE: why so little switchery? - 4/25/2010 8:28:11 PM

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i have a strong objection and am often outright offended when viewing a profile that is so outwardly dominant as to refer to the reader as a bitch or slave in the first sentence or so on. that's the biggest turn off for a dominant for me- for largely that reason i will only date switches. switches don't often enter into something with much expectation, just a sense of hope or an actual air of wanting to have genuine fun.

switches are by far the most refreshing of any groups of people i've had the pleasure of meeting. i mean no disrespect to doms or subs, but sometimes i'm genuinely offended by what's been written or said.

granted, the most obvious argument is "it's not really intended for you mister switch", and i understand that. the 2nd argument is "that person just knows what they want and isnt willing to settle for anything else" to which one might respond, what a bitch or a dick. to which in turn someone may respond "that is the point"

i fully intend to keep writing in circles. :)

I love this, absolutely, and I have to admit it was one of three things that made me smile today. I star t working again tomorrow (one), my bf (two), and this post (three). Subversed, I'll be looking for threads you post in. ^.^

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RE: why so little switchery? - 4/25/2010 8:35:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: Elisabella

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Because switches can post in either the sub forum, the dom forum, or the general forum, unless the question pertains directly to switching. Besides if you look at the other forums you'll see an overflow of "I never get laid wtf" in the dom forums and "omg how does i has relationship internets plz help" in the sub forum.

In other words I don't think this forum is missing much :P

I have to agree here and another issue to consider is that many switches I know and including myself, often we have an affinity more to one end or the other most times. It's not very often that I do switch from the sub role to a dominant role, yet I do often enough that identifying strictly as a sub doesn't feel right and I certainly know that identifying a s a dominant is too far fetched! The majority of the times, what I need to find out or say will apply to the sub aspect or the dom aspect.

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RE: why so little switchery? - 4/29/2010 6:25:37 PM

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thank you very much :)

i'm glad i contributed to a good day. i'm terribly inconsistent however, and for that i apologize. but boom- this is the easiest forum here to keep on top of. another reason i like switches hehe

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RE: why so little switchery? - 4/30/2010 7:17:36 AM

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You are not the only one who is inconsistant. ~wink~ No matter, even if I don't happen to like all your posts (and I can honestly say I don't know anyone who I have liked all their posts) I'll remember that there was one I like. ^.^

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RE: why so little switchery? - 5/2/2010 3:21:20 PM

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ok was not aware that some might not want to admit to being a switch on the site ???? wow strange- im a switch and proud of it my subs keep coming back and as a domme i kick ass so ... don t get it the best of both worlds i think !!!!!

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RE: why so little switchery? - 5/2/2010 4:50:56 PM

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and i'll remember someone liked one of my posts. :)

talking in circles again.

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You are not the only one who is inconsistant. ~wink~ No matter, even if I don't happen to like all your posts (and I can honestly say I don't know anyone who I have liked all their posts) I'll remember that there was one I like. ^.^

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RE: why so little switchery? - 5/2/2010 5:39:59 PM

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Talking in circles is fun, but talking in squares can be funner. ^.^

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RE: why so little switchery? - 5/2/2010 6:54:48 PM

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RE: why so little switchery? - 5/3/2010 6:49:27 AM

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ROFLMMFAO! How'd you do that?!?!?!

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RE: why so little switchery? - 5/3/2010 4:41:02 PM

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mspaint and the text box tool with some 90 degree rotations. i'm far less interesting once you know my inner workings are nerdiness. :X

hehe

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RE: why so little switchery? - 5/3/2010 8:16:08 PM

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I'm currently involved with an anime loving, wow fanatic. Nerdiness does not detract. ~wink~

And thanks for the info. ^.^

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RE: why so little switchery? - 5/3/2010 8:19:51 PM

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jesus, you've got to have a sister.

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RE: why so little switchery? - 5/4/2010 11:06:02 AM

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Actually I do. She's five years older than me, got three munchkins of her own, and a serious attitude problem. I love her to pieces. :)

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RE: why so little switchery? - 5/4/2010 11:47:43 AM

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OK get a room (just teasing)

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RE: why so little switchery? - 5/4/2010 12:30:15 PM

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*offers TomCypress some popcorn*

Shhhhhhhhhh........

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RE: why so little switchery? - 5/4/2010 12:42:31 PM

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Gladly accepts the offer and joins CarrieO watching the latest installment of as the "Collar turns" offers a cold coke for popcorn

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RE: why so little switchery? - 5/4/2010 12:51:42 PM

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"that person just knows what they want and isnt willing to settle for anything else" to which one might respond, what a bitch or a dick. to which in turn someone may respond "that is the point"

Now this confuses me. I do know what I want. If I refused you on the grounds that I have a kid your age and that's way too young for me, would you automatically assume I was a bitch?

But if I explain that I couldn't top you and I wouldn't be happy with you playing with others and that as I know what I want and my wants and yours aren't compatible, then suddenly I'm a bitch?

Why is it terrible for me to want to be in a relationship that fulfills me and to know what the parameters of that relationship need to be and therefore refuse anyone I'm not compatible with? Or don't I have the right to be happy also? Is it all about you in your opinion, because that is how that line reads.

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