LafayetteLady
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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 Edited: becuase i see you are comparing Adhd and ADD. But the difference is not mental vs. physical. The difference is one with ADD but no Hyperactivity and one has hyperactivity as a component. Thats the difference. Depending on the age of the source and the source itself, many have reached the conclusion that ADD and ADHD are indeed interchangeable. Regardless, you son has a diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome, so any diagnostic criteria to Attention Deficit is irrelevant. With almost all developmental/learning disabilities, REPETITION is the key to success. If you can get him an electronic calendar type of device with alarms, it will help to move him along. Yes, he can become fixated on one particular thing, which can make it a challenge, but if he should become fixated on something, then a heard of elephants going by wouldn't snap him out it. We all kind of "learn" as adults that nagging is a bad thing, and we also hate having to repeatedly tell someone to do something. But you aren't nagging by constantly telling your son to do things. You are lucky that he is at an age where it he is primed for learning that independence. You have to remember that no matter how rushed you might be to get to school in the morning or out somewhere, "helping" him along the way does more harm than good. As I said earlier, having him repeat tasks back to you will help. He already has them in his memory, but it's like the asperger's puts up a wall that prevents them from coming forward. His verbal repeating it will help make little holes in the wall that let's the information through. You can even make a game out of the whole thing. Apparently he loves school and does well with his assignments and homework. Present all these other tasks the same way his school assignments are presented. You might even speak with his teachers and they can work those things into a school assignment. Since he likes school, those tasks will take on a different meaning and it could help. Then again it might not. There is no tried and true method to these things, because no two children are alike. As parents it can be incredibly frustrating and takes a tremendous amount of patience. If I remember correctly, your husband is very close by, so you have the benefit of not having to do it all by yourself. But that is another important factor. You and him have to be consistent. There can't be any doing it this way with dad, and another way with mom. It will totally mess with the poor kid's head. The other REALLY important thing that you need to remember? Make sure you take some time for yourself every week. Even if it is only 2-3 hours. As much as we love our special needs children, we need time to breath and "destress."
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