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RE: "Expecting" a long term D/s relationship? - 3/10/2010 2:42:18 AM

VaguelyCurious

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I just adore it when people tell me how to think.

Well, to be fair, you do come across as kinda grumpy (this is not an insult or attack-I have no problem with grumpy people, and anyway it might well be misrepresentative).

When happy chirpy people are confronted with seemingly grumpy people they are going to want to cheer them up. It's a natural reaction...

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RE: "Expecting" a long term D/s relationship? - 3/10/2010 4:07:46 AM

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I just had to wonder at this mindset. And how many issues THEY must have to be so absolute.

Knowing what works for you does not mean you have issues. The opposite in fact.

I know that casual play and sex does not work for me. I want to never see the person again, I feel hollow inside. If however, knowing how this made me feel I continued doing it, that would indicate issues.

Stating what works for me and that I am unavailable for things that don't work for me is a good thing. It may not make me a perfect match for those who want casual, nsa but so what? I'm also not a good match for those who are shorter than me, for red haired men, for those who live over a thousand miles away. And not being willing to enter into a relationship where I'll be lucky to see him once in two years doesn't mean I have issues either.

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RE: "Expecting" a long term D/s relationship? - 3/11/2010 6:08:11 AM

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I just adore it when people tell me how to think.

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I think I'm going to toss my cookies the next time I see that same old tired Anais Nin quote they all rip off from each other. It has all the origionality and thought that one commonly puts into taking a crap.

Just remember: the more judgmental you get, the more cynical you'll feel. I have a friend who thought New York was too negative, so she moved to Hawaii. Then she decided the Hawaiians were negative too, so she moved back to her home state of Colorado, where the people were apparently super negative. The only thing these places had in common was her.

How does it have anything to do with you if people are having Disney-like fantasy lives? And lots of people look at the Anais Nin quote and think, "oh, that's really lovely, and I relate to it," which is why they use it. They're not using it to piss you off. Readjust the lens through which you view CM and you'll find there are as many great, original, interesting people as you allow there to be.

Oh ffs! Ok, so you want to be able to dictate to the s types how they should word their profile, but others are not allowed to comment on how you present yourself? That's odd.

Oh, and when I was looking, I expected to be treated with respect. I expected to meet with quality individuals. I expected to eventually find a ltr. I find that people treat you the way you expect them to, regardless of orientation.

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RE: "Expecting" a long term D/s relationship? - 3/11/2010 7:24:10 AM

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Just remember: the more judgmental you get, the more cynical you'll feel. I have a friend who thought New York was too negative, so she moved to Hawaii. Then she decided the Hawaiians were negative too, so she moved back to her home state of Colorado, where the people were apparently super negative. The only thing these places had in common was her.

I have a couple quotes

Where ever you go, there you are.""
— Buckaroo Banzai

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change ~ Wayne Dyer

I especially love the first one... because it is sooooooo true, you are where ever you go

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RE: "Expecting" a long term D/s relationship? - 3/11/2010 7:50:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

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ORIGINAL: Smutmonger

I just adore it when people tell me how to think.

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ORIGINAL: jujubeeMB

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ORIGINAL: Smutmonger

I think I'm going to toss my cookies the next time I see that same old tired Anais Nin quote they all rip off from each other. It has all the origionality and thought that one commonly puts into taking a crap.

Just remember: the more judgmental you get, the more cynical you'll feel. I have a friend who thought New York was too negative, so she moved to Hawaii. Then she decided the Hawaiians were negative too, so she moved back to her home state of Colorado, where the people were apparently super negative. The only thing these places had in common was her.

How does it have anything to do with you if people are having Disney-like fantasy lives? And lots of people look at the Anais Nin quote and think, "oh, that's really lovely, and I relate to it," which is why they use it. They're not using it to piss you off. Readjust the lens through which you view CM and you'll find there are as many great, original, interesting people as you allow there to be.

Oh ffs! Ok, so you want to be able to dictate to the s types how they should word their profile, but others are not allowed to comment on how you present yourself? That's odd.

Oh, and when I was looking, I expected to be treated with respect. I expected to meet with quality individuals. I expected to eventually find a ltr. I find that people treat you the way you expect them to, regardless of orientation.