LafayetteLady
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Joined: 5/2/2007 From: Northern New Jersey Status: offline
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FR- Well VP didn't give us a reason, so everyone has all given their "take" on the issue. My thing is if it is a thing against wearing collars in general, wouldn't this be part of those initial discussions about the relationship? You know the whole, what he prefers she wear, what expected "duties" are, etc. If there is a health issue, then certainly it should be brought up early on, simply because it is easier to get that out there in the beginning. Now in Osidegirl's case, remembering that just because it is "offered" doesnt' mean is has to be accepted, and as her story is, there were issues that needed to be resolved before making such a commitment. Personally, I'm not into the whole physical symbols of commitment, but I am not the type that would be working to "earn" such things in a relationship. Is that one way I am probably much different than many others? Yes, but I feel in a relationship, regardless of who has the bulk of the "power," each must continue to "earn" the right to be with the other, that part is very equal to me.
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