MizSuz
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ORIGINAL: Real0ne
What is it that makes you the lifestyle domme that so many subs drool to be with.
You answered your question - "lifestyle domme" is all that's needed to have people drool to be with you.
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ORIGINAL: Real0ne
What do you offer a sub that makes you worth their time.
I don't claim to offer anything. I can, however, be a pretty fierce friend. I can create a safe place for a myriad assortment of experiences. I draw upon years of experience, study and practice in a pretty wide selection of disciplines. I hear things like "I learned so much" and "I never knew that about myself" and "OMG how did you do that and can you do it again?!?" a lot. If in an intimate relationship I always give honesty, I never consider or offer monogamy (although I might expect it). I am ferociously independent and don't like to smother or be smothered. I'm intuitive and compassionate but usually deliver it with an iron glove.
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ORIGINAL: Real0ne
...especially those who want slaves, tell us how you take care of them. what do they get out of it if things go bad 5? 10? 20? years up the road? financial? emotional? physical? retirement? personal? daily life?
They'll have whatever they made out of it, the same as if they'd never met me. Got a goal? Then tell me about it, let me watch you achieve it, share it with me, ask me for opinions and advice. I'll be your greatest fan, but you'll still have to meet your destiny for yourself, just like me.
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ORIGINAL: Real0ne
what are your responsibilities toward your sub/slave? switch if applicable?
That depends on the relationship and what we've worked out. I don't do BDSM by cookie cutter, so I can't answer this generally.
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ORIGINAL: Real0ne
Every domme will tell us that they will "take care of all our needs" what do you feel those needs are. (generically speaking)
I'm a mother of a grown child and I can guarantee you that I have never told anyone that I would take care of all their needs. It's not even on my radar.
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ORIGINAL: Real0ne
So now you found the perfect sub as described in the other thread so tell us how you intend to make a perfect life together and what does the sub get out of it.
I make my own perfect life, people who float into it figure out the way they fit and then decide whether it's for them or not. Maybe it's not for them, or maybe it is for them but only for a time. It's all good. The sub will get out of it whatever he chooses to walk away with, just like me. What does the sub want to get out of it? Have they talked to me about it and worked out a plan of action? What are they going to do to achieve their goals?
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ORIGINAL: Real0ne
From my experience they typically offer me a nice mortgage bill(my name is not on the deed), car payments (her name her car), insurance bills(both), utility bills(both), all the housework, child care(theirs), finally a little kink with here a spank there a spank once in a while or the other extreme of bdsm obsession that is so caustraphobic, limiting and depressing that i could puke.
Sounds to me like your picker is broken.
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ORIGINAL: Real0ne
Is that really what being a sub or slave to someone is all about? Is that really all that there is out here?
No, that's not all there is out there - but there is a lot of it out there. I always wonder about the kind of person who finds themself with someone like that and then bemoans it. How did (generic) you get there? What can you do to assure that going forward you make a better match? In situations like those mentioned the only power you have is over yourself so it would seem that owning your own responsibility in the situation would be the first step in figuring out how to assure you don't end up there again. Pissing and moaning about how ill you've been treated is probably only effective as catharsis but isn't likely to further an exploration in personal responsibility, so it could be considered counter productive to the effort of learning how to not let it happen again.
As to the original question:
"Are you the PERFECT domme?"
Well, yes, I am - to some.
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“The more you love, the more you can love—and the more intensely you love. Nor is there any limit on how many you can love. If a person had time enough, he could love all of that majority who are decent and just.”
- Robert Heinlein
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Well some might say yes.Some might say yes years later though when they reap the harvest of good teaching.It is as they say a two way street and one 's view can and does change from time to time..I feel if you are not finding a good Dom you need to be pro-active.Good Doms do not have to recruit they are sought out..Subs read the bio's and understand good Doms do not have to chase if they do they might not be good..Remember supply and demand it seems there are more Subs looking for good Doms than there are. 
), but everybody is giving thoughtful answers!
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