kyraofMists
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I am not a sadist, but I am a slave to one and very much in love with him. Consensual sadism is not about abuse or hating women. One thing that may help you is to get a good understanding of what you think is abuse. I am not talking what specific actions, but how do you think someone feels when they have been abused. Then compare that to how someone feels that is in a relationship with a sadist. I think that most often you will find some glaring differences. Some of my favorite moments with my Lord are times when he is being his most sadistic. It is a joy to watch him with others or to have him focus it on me. He is in his element, doing what he does best and having a hell of a lot of fun. If you have the courage and trust to just let go, he can take you on one wild ride. Our last play had me bloody and just craving more. For my Lord it is about having fun. One thing that he enjoys most is taking something that we find pleasure from and then pushing us to our limit in that area. For me, I really enjoy abrasion play. He took that type of play and pushed me till my body was just absolutely raw and the lightest touch had me crying out in pain. alandra love canes and he will push her very hard with them. Watching us together, it is hard to think it is abusive when she and I have great big smiles on our faces and are quite content. As for whether it is a constant thing or not really depends on the individual and what you mean by constant. My Lord is always a sadist, but he isn’t always causing pain. There are times that pain is not a part of a particular experience. In our dynamic, our Lord is a very loving and affectionate person. There is always a lot of cuddling, hand holding, caressing, hugs and kisses. Just because someone is a sadist doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t enjoy the gentler things as well. I will admit that watching my Lord play with any of his bottoms can be a daunting experience for someone new and even for some who have been around awhile. My Lord has given his bottoms one rule, we have no rules. Whatever enters our minds during play becomes an action. We do not think we just react. If he doesn’t like the reaction, then he will control it. It is not uncommon for me to kick, bite, punch, slap, snatch at toys, curse or mock him. It creates some incredibly primal plays for us that can sometimes disturb others. But at the end of the day, we are all having fun. Hope this helps… please ask questions if you need more information about something I said. Knight’s kyra
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"Passion... it lies in all of us. Sleeping, waiting, and though unbidden, it will stir, open its jaws, and howl. It speaks to us, guides us... passion rules us all. And we obey..." ~Angelus
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