FLsubmalecd -> RE: Mistresses giving up the search??? (4/21/2006 9:06:49 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LoneGoddess Yikes!!!!!!!!!!! What a nightmare. Ladies, I am just wondering why we didn't hand it back to the whiner. Dommes Guide to Surfing for Submissive Males: If his profile says, "I need...(add any kink activity)" or "I like...(add any kink activity)" or "I want... (add any kink activity)" It's a good bet he's a wanker. If his profile says, "service sub", he's expecting it to be mainly "sexual service". They never really define it do they? If his profile says, "discreet or discretion", he's married or otherwise emotionally unavailable. If his profile says, "looking for experiences, or looking to experiment" or anything like it, he's a player. And the number one skip his profile factor for me? His handle. If it's anything that describes his favorite kink activity it's a guarantee that activity will be the first thing he wants to talk about with you. Please keep in mind that all of the above issues with profiles are mine, they may not be yours. I don't know who or what you seek. And I won't begin to guess at it. But then again, we know how to sift through these ones already. Don't we? This topic has been ground down into pulp on this forum as well as others, the main conclusion? If the males in question could be less motivated by the hard-on they have while looking for a Domme and more motivated by the brains in their heads, and maybe throw in a dose of heart too, we wouldn't consider giving up on them for the greener vanilla pastures, where the expectations aren't in the way of making real connections with another person. And gentlemen, pay attention, this is important. The truth is that it really is far simpler to take a vanilla man and bend him to our kinky ways, than it is to have to sift through the wankers on these sites. ~LG Hello LoneGoddess, I think You did a great job of listing all the things to look out for in Your search for a sub. I as a sub male agree with You and many other loving sincere Dommes that it is hard to weed through the wood pile of wankers, players and married males looking for a fling on the side. It sure does not speak highly of the gender i am one of. It infact makes me wish i could somehow disassociate myself from them so the fine Ladies that want what i am searching for too could find each other. I won' t lie and say i don't want or need certain things from Domme. Let's face it, we all want and need something from this lifestyle or we would not be a part of it. But the difference is, that someof us are very sincere and very real about understanding who we are and what the other expects from it. I surely understand and agree, it is not about me and my wants and kinky desires. it is all about what the Lady iseek to serve wants, needs, desires, and demands. To be perfectly honest, it is all that she wants and expects that turn me on, makes me happy, and why i chose this lifestyle to begin with.. My own needs and wants come second to hers. I also know that if i give her 100% of myself, i will get back without asking, what it is i need and want. So to sum it up. Here is what I want and need: I want a Lady to dominate me 24/7 and expect me to serve her without question. I expect her to make me into the perfect sub/slave for her. Iexpect her to punish me for my failures and reward me with her love and shared playfulkinks should i deserve it by being allshe wants and expects. No, it is not a game. But allthis starts with mutual respect and love. Without it, i could not give her what she needs and wants. It comes down to love. That's what some of you want. That is also what iam lookng for. The rest is dependant on how well we match up in our beliefs and lifestyle choices. Maybe with a little give and take thrown in to make us a better match. I hope ii expressed this in a way that makes sense and does not in anyway make me look like the kind of player that you described in Your post Ma'am. Good luck in Your search.
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