LaTigresse
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I think the biggest disconnect is that so many get caught up in the porn/media image, get so turned on by that and begin accepting it as some sort of reality that they cannot begin to imagine what reality actually is. They get wound so tight, so focused on the pretty pictures, so to speak, that they almost ruin themselves for the real thing. "Oh look at the beautiful, cold, evil dominatrix! Look at her treating that lucky man like a worm. I want to BE that worm!!!!!!!" and tighter and tighter they get wound. They don't think about reality, that no matter how exciting that image is, they wouldn't really be happy in a 24/7 relationship like that. But, because it is so very different than 'vanilla' they almost lose the ability to meld the two into a realistic sustaining relationship. They end up looking for something that doesn't really exist and wouldn't make them happy, even if it did.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one! Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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