bignipples2share
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Got this email today. Someone just flat out saying that who I am and what I'm saying isn't right and that I'm just confused. How would you respond (other than f you)? Is there a point in continuing a conversation with someone who is convinced you are wrong about yourself? Me: I consider myself a slave who is also a dominant. (edited because I only posted the quote ) Them: An oxymoron - I'm sorry; this is a crime against ontology! You are, instead, merely undecided, unclear about your role - which is fine. Most subs entertain topping from below; and this is an interesting area of debate. But an authentic slave and an authentic Dom are mutually-exclusive, ontollogically, ritualistically, and practically. To attempt to ratify these two position by merely insisting upon the power of one's own subjectivity is like calling black white. It's just bad science. Me: I've been active in the real world scene for nearly 8 years now. I've been owned and lived as a slave in relationships until last summer. I've been actively topping for a few years now and have developed into relationships as a dominant. Them: All indications are that you are in transition. I get this type of comment constantly. It got old, hearing that what I like is wrong, years ago. It still continues. I think that after all these years, I pretty much know what I am and what is going to change or not. If I don't like apples with salt on them. I'm sure not gonna allow someone else to tell me I'm wrong, just because they do it and know that that is what does it for them. Now I'm might add some caramel, but I'm never gonna be an apple and salt person and that's just how it is, there is no more decision that needs to be made on it, I am not confused. (can anyone else see that I'm trying to loose a coupla pounds? All my metaphors seem to be based on food LOL) Just tell him, maybe he should just stick to orgainzing his spices and keep those in nice tidy alphabetical stacks and rows and not to be so uptight about life. Life is allowed to have variations. Within his own Dom status (if he is a dom), I'm sure that he doesn't like every single act that other doms like. Why is he allowed to be so different, why are any of them? Why does he think he gets to call all the shots on how another person should feel and react? Where is he getting his information from that everyone should be either/or? If from other doms, do they all get together and say everyone's bathroom needs to be painted and decorated like this and everyone should eat only these things for their meals from now on and all their subs have to have this color hair and at 3:00pm everyone should be doing this.....ooo I rant on huh LOL Okay, I'm done. >>laughing << ahhhhh I hear sounds
< Message edited by bignipples2share -- 4/10/2006 9:53:50 AM >
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