hopelesslyInvo
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what, if any resources are there to help a male sub understand and learn about this...
kindergarten; quoted as being a place "where children learn to communicate, play, and interact with others appropriately".
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and why do you suppose they apparently get it so wrong much of the time.
2% of personal body mass is deemed more influentially important than the entirety of another person.
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in short; collarme needs a not so short big flashing disclaimer on the home page that reads...
"attention: registration to this site carries no guarantees or even slight likelihood that within mere hours or days (and most likely never); other members will be stumbling about chaotically in a blind rush to tear off their panties due to reaching uncontrollable and exemplary levels of panic inducing horny rage... brought about by your heartfelt and clever line "hello Dominate Goddess/Mistress/Princess, i wish to be serve; plz sit on my face", with the possible supplement of a cock shot so awe inspiring it causes them to overlook the fact that you're more promiscuous than a fleshlight and more self centered than the sun.
in your previous dealings with women, this is akin to confessing your love to a woman you fantasized about for years in school but never previously spoke to, with the line "oh gurl, you know i love yous" then while screaming "take me baby" you rip and tear at your shirt to showoff your 60-watt tan by exposing your sagging torso and chest riddled with enough hair to make burt reynolds throw up in his mouth.
this site and the world itself is full of people like you, the majority of which was tired of you before you ever got here, and most of the women here have dozens of freshly cut cookies just like yourself wasting their time on a daily basis already. the scenery has changed, but the women here are still women, and unfortunately for you they know that the men are still men.
for your own safety and well-being, as well as that for others: please do not pet the animals, feed the trolls, or give money to the women who would overdose on anti-depressants if they ever even had the slimmest of grasps of their actual self worth.
if unable to procure a booty call within 30 minutes of introducing yourself to your newfound soulmate and goddess, or possibly encounter an erection lasting more than 5 minutes, you may wish to seek help.
unfortunately the forums are not an ideal venue to seek help, not with either your need to vent about how these "stuck-up pretentious dommes" repeatedly refuse to go into heat despite your most "sincere..." efforts, or your erection. thus your sudden epiphany that 'starting a new thread detailing your own stupidity although you will be no less blind to it' is not a good idea, and not encouraged. using the search function instead will likely lead to people telling you to talk to the hand; they're probably right.
also... attempts to copy what was no doubt a thoughtful and articulate message to that one domme, that you were totally too good for anyway; whatever her name was, and paste it into the inbox of the next shiny new domme that you think should feel privileged to have an opportunity to do exactly what you want her to want to do to you, will likely end in a similar failure that by now you're no doubt becoming accustomed to.
if advice is sought after in how to present yourself by means of your profile, photographs, or correspondence, keep in mind that this advice is designed to help people give you the time of day, it is not simply the alternative and better method to get the 'have sex with anyone you contact in 2 days or less' results you originally were dumb enough to expect. being a site that helps people who have different sexual preferences and lifestyles find each other doesn't mean that this is a site full of people whose lifestyle revolves around sex looking to get laid by anyone that so much as says hello to them.
being honest and realistic is a tried and true method to not arbitrarily wasting the time of both yourself and others. if you have even slight sincerity in your appeal to serve and appease someone other than yourself, then the proper course of action should be self evident and a demonstration of patience and non half-assed efforts may yet yield the results you've hoped for and are worth the time you've invested in the pursuit of them.
at collarme, our users tend to love getting surprises, as most of us are no longer surprised by the bullshit and rarely expect much good to occur.
so by all means, feel free to astonish us with something actually unexpected if you're capable."
where pornography is concerned...
i simply can't understand why people see a hot girl in a red minidress with her ass hanging out, answer the door to find the pizza delivery boy, with his dick shoved into a hole at the bottom of the box only to get immediately get thrown onto the couch to begin 6 kinds of debauchery for 10 minutes until 2 more of her roommates who were upstairs heard noises and come to investigate only to be hit with uncontrollable orgasmic onslaught and join the fray for the best hour of minimum wage this guy will ever earn; and the viewer says "that's the most stupid, fake, and totally cheesy porn i've ever seen".
but change the channel, and we have a guy wearing a leash held by one or two women in a shiny black pvc minidresses, smacking him around a little, telling him he's worthless and will live in this cage for the rest of his life; that he's useless and nobody would ever want anything to do with him, even though these two can't seem to get enough of him... telling him of how he'll never be worthy to even touch the bodies of these goddesses 2 minutes before burying their crotch into his face and deciding they'll "force him" to put his penis into several places men just, generally don't mind...
and suddenly the viewer is thinking "oh shit, this is so realistic and lifelike!"...?
what happened to the astute powers of observation that should have made apparent that the unattractive guy forced to live as a sex slave for amazons in matrix costumes is just as, if not more fake than the pizza guy getting pounced by sorority girls after they find out they accidentally ordered the meat lover's special.
i don't understand how people can really be that stupid, i just know that they are.
misconceptions are one thing, but even a little common sense will make you realize reality is a troublesome enough scenario to try and make things work without mixing fantasy on top of it. realistically bdsm isn't much different than vanilla land is as far as how hard it can be to find someone that you're able to build and maintain a working and enjoyable relationship with, at least for those who are realistic. the ones that try to find 'pure' fantasy while looking in 'reality' are unfortunately exercising as much futility as we are in our hopes that they'll ever stop.
and sure, its not just a 1 sided problem, but i'd bet just about anything that the sides are imbalanced.
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as for the other topic floating around in the thread; price has always been set by what people will pay for it, not what it's worth.
if the cost is worth what you stand to gain; you're in business, but what you're buying, especially in this case is easily considered more or less "priceless".
funny thing about stuff called priceless though, people still sell it for a price.
if the money isn't enough, you don't part with the goods; if the goods aren't enough, you don't part with money. if the world had absolute price tags stamped on them by some diety, there'd be no such thing as inflation, rip-offs, deals, or differing currency.
how the hell does one appraise the worth of someone else's life anyway? this isn't even something like 'priceless art' or 'historic relics', it's life; the most important and valuable thing mankind has ever been aware of despite their lack of care for individual lives.
i often give my time freely despite it being invaluable, but i can think of numerous things and people i wouldn't spare an hour for, even for 200 dollars.
< Message edited by hopelesslyInvo -- 7/3/2010 5:00:28 PM >
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