kuppykake
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ORIGINAL: dwmstl Seeking advice and opinions from other Doms on this one. Some quick background: I'm a DaddyDom with a sub/little girl. She's been in my home two weeks. I relocated her here from another state. I discovered that she has already lied to me several times. Most of the lies revolve around her talking to her former boyfriend (vanilla relationship there) via text and phone (while living under my roof, mind you) for the past week, after being clearly forbidden to have any further contact with him. She knew this was one of my terms upfront before either of us made any decisions. She says her reasons for talking to him were to "get over him". Basically, she left him for me, so yes it's a very recent former relationship. My initial reaction is that I will never be able to trust her and to release her and send her back where she came from. She has begged me not to do so, said she's sorry a million times and offered to do anything to earn my trust back if I would keep her. She says she still wants to be mine and never discussed getting back with the ex, only to get the closure she claims she never got. She admits she still has "feelings" for him, which I'm not happy about, but at least she was honest about that much. She says that although she cares about the guy, she was never happy in a relationship that didn't meet her needs and that I'm everything she wanted in a DaddyDom. Up until this point, I believed she was everything I was looking for as well. So, fellow Doms, am I over-reacting? Should I give her a second chance or cut her loose? If I do decide to keep her, suggestions are invited on an appropriate punishment. Well I am no Dom, but I would like to offer you some insight on this one. I can't say whether or not you should give her a chance or let her go... that is ultimately up to you. I will say, however, that it seems like you are somewhat of a rebound for her. She left her old boyfriend for you. If she was with him for a while and loved him, it's going to take time to get over him not being there. That time is crucial, and you need to give it to her. She needs to come to terms with the end of a relationship and the beginning of a much different one. I must say I really feel for her, she must be going through a lot right now. I understand why you are upset, but try to put yourself in her shoes. My advice is to let her know how you feel about her, and leave her past out of it. Assure her that you are going to be there for her, because thats what she needs. In a sense she is making a gamble... giving up something she had for something that "might" be better. That's something I would be much too afraid to do. Assure her that she has made the right decision if you decide to keep her. Do everything you can to make he comfortable with you. Punish her for lying, but let her know that you will listen when she wants to talk. Try not to seem angry, because jealousy and accusations will lead you nowhere. If you decide to keep her, you will have to pull some faith out of you from somewhere. You are taking a gamble as well....should you risk getting hurt for something that "might" be amazing? That's what you need to ask yourself. I know this was long, but I really wanted to give some thoughts on this one. Good luck to you!!
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