MadameMarque
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ORIGINAL: MadameMarque How can you hold both views at the same time, and which is the one you think is unpopular, within BDSM? The one where everyone is everything, or the one where being dominant is masculine and being submissive is feminine? Actually, I'm beginning to think that what you're trying to say is that in archetypal language, certain traits are considered masculine and feminine. But don't you see how this biases everything else you believe about males and females? How can you find females equal in potential power to males, if the very term "Feminine" means "Submissive," to you? It seems to me that you are hung up on either dominance or submission being somehow better than the other. They are completely equal and opposite. That is where I am coming from. Submission is every bit as powerful. In fact even when dominating a situation it is often wise to choose moments of submission to others in order to gain trust and sympathy. They are both extremely powerful things to do. It is only when a person chooses to do neither that they are weak. ED: I also say that at least two women have emailed me expressing appreciation for my thoughts here in the last two hours. I wonder why they didn't want to post in the thread, hrm.... I think I've made it pretty clear that I support jujube and others doing what fulfills them, whether that's being a dominant or a submissive in a consensual situation. As for females being limited and victimized by being defined as submissive, while males are defined as dominant, yes, I'm hung up on that whole persecution and discrimination thing. That is being forced to nonconsensually submit. I hope you agree, that's bad. quote:
Submission is every bit as powerful. Well, no, you are mistaken. Look it up. From Random House Dictionary: sub·mis·sive /səbˈmɪsɪv/ Show Spelled[suhb-mis-iv] Show IPA –adjective 1.inclined or ready to submit; unresistingly or humbly obedient: submissive servants. 2.marked by or indicating submission: a submissive reply. —Synonyms 1. tractable, compliant, pliant, amenable. 2. passive, resigned, patient, docile, tame, subdued. and from Merriam-Webster's Medical Dictionary, since you may be interested in that: sub·mis·sive definition Pronunciation: /səb-ˈmis-iv/ Function: adj : characterized by tendencies to yield to the will or authority of others <bullying usually involves a stronger, more dominant personality coercing a weaker, more submissive personality —S. W. Twemlow et al > Even in a consensual BDSM relationship, words such as "dominant" and "submissive" do not lose their meaning.
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