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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 12:27:15 PM   
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Thanks so much for the links, boijen!!

As for me, I'd MUCH rather be called Master, than Mistress.

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 12:33:07 PM   
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No Problem!

Please do consider going to MAsT sometime, if you haven't already. The group down here is amazing. actually...I'll post this month's topic here just to give you an idea of some of the things we might talk about....

MAsT South Florida, Thursday July 22.

Part 1: Expectations and Rules:
As a Master or slave we have expectations. Throughout your dynamic have your rules ever changed or your expectations ever changed? If so why?

Part 2: Training Outside the Home:
Many Masters seek a mentor and some slaves have also found a mentor but is that acceptable in an already established relationship and if so, who chooses the mentor? As a Master in a short or longer term relationship would you send your slave to another for outside training? Why or why not?

boi

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 12:44:17 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

Thanks so much for the links, boijen!!

As for me, I'd MUCH rather be called Master, than Mistress.


When you have "the nerve" to post in the "Ask A Master" forum you shall be called whatever we deem fits.

Now get me a pizza, you twat!!!

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 12:46:09 PM   
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*swoons*

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 12:50:23 PM   
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Female masters or male masters, either way they are masters. I enjoy and have high respect for female masters. One of my closest friends is a female dominant and we get along great and have a deep respect for each other.

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 12:52:22 PM   
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Nice blue flower....You are no longer allowed to post here as well. Get out!!!

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 12:58:28 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BoiJen

*swoons*


I am Miss Kitty....Are you two still knocking tongues?


Boi, come to Domiguy. I will bone the lez right out of you.

It's my gift!!!!

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 1:01:15 PM   
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Sorry Mr. Domi,

My gay-ness is non-negotiable.

So says the Ma'am.

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 3:14:24 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Yourscum

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Yourscum, what exactly is your point here?
A woman can't be a master? It's been proven she can.
Women shouldn't post here? The mods say it's perfectly fine.
What exactly are you trying to prove?


I never said they can't post here, clearly they can. I certainly never said a woman can't be in charge or a dominant. I'm just saying by traditional definition, a man in a master, a woman a mistress, just as for example a female who serves food in a restaurant is a waitress, a man a waiter, although now 'Server' seems to be taking over as the common expression, a genderless alternative to the gendered words.


You are correct of course. Master has been gender specific traditionally for a good while both in and out of the lifestyle.

People want to fight against all manner of things..Mostly the idea of being put in a box but sadly they can't escape it more often than not.

Anyone can of course call themselves whatever they wish but I think the majority know the truth of how things are and most likely traditionally of how they came to be and what it implies.

When labels "suit" them they have no problem using them...Things change over time but it doesn't mean you have to agree with them nor does it mean you have to take them to heart for yourself. People will attempt to twist life till it fits their idea so they can be the snowflake..I gotta be different..I wanna be a special little butterfly with solely original markings.


I personally don't agree with the term used for females but what do I care if a female uses it.....?(I don't)



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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 8:00:42 PM   
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Sorry, my friends, but I have to disagree that taking on that title is a good thing to do.  I can understand why you do not want the honorific of "Mistress" since it so very laden with Pro-Domme implications.  Likewise for Goddess, having odd, cross-cultural meanings which are rarely understood.

So, Lance, what do you suggest?

I suggest you do NOT entitle yourselves with anything.  NEVER have I EVER referred to myself as Master Lance.  I always correct the writers of e-mail that address me as "Master," that I am not their Master.

Taking such a position upon oneself, as in "Call me Master Mary," is putting the other person in the position of being Mary's slave.

To make my point perfectly clear, I'll repeat that with a different name and gender (mine.)

If I were to come on these boards and say "Call me Master Lance," doesn't that put all of you in the position of being my slaves?


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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 8:12:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

Sorry, my friends, but I have to disagree that taking on that title is a good thing to do.  I can understand why you do not want the honorific of "Mistress" since it so very laden with Pro-Domme implications.  Likewise for Goddess, having odd, cross-cultural meanings which are rarely understood.

So, Lance, what do you suggest?

I suggest you do NOT entitle yourselves with anything.  NEVER have I EVER referred to myself as Master Lance.  I always correct the writers of e-mail that address me as "Master," that I am not their Master.

Taking such a position upon oneself, as in "Call me Master Mary," is putting the other person in the position of being Mary's slave.

To make my point perfectly clear, I'll repeat that with a different name and gender (mine.)

If I were to come on these boards and say "Call me Master Lance," doesn't that put all of you in the position of being my slaves?


I've been called Master by females but I usually leave that up to the persons discretion.

I don't believe that's what everyone is talking about Lance(That's not what I'm picking up anyway) but in many in instances I'd agree with you.




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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 8:15:32 PM   
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No, it does not.  Quite frankly, the way you termed it (Master Lance to be specific) shows that it is not to infer to a personal dynamic because you included the qualifier.  It is when the name is dropped, using Master alone, that implies the dynamic with that person.

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 8:28:12 PM   
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It's kinda cute when "that leather girl" adds in her two pennies.

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/13/2010 8:29:34 PM   
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Also very much against protocol.  LOL.

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/14/2010 6:33:07 AM   
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Howz about we just call him Lance Romance?

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/14/2010 6:38:44 AM   
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He knows a lot about baking too.

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/14/2010 9:57:03 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

quote:

ORIGINAL: Yourscum

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Yourscum, what exactly is your point here?
A woman can't be a master? It's been proven she can.
Women shouldn't post here? The mods say it's perfectly fine.
What exactly are you trying to prove?


I never said they can't post here, clearly they can. I certainly never said a woman can't be in charge or a dominant. I'm just saying by traditional definition, a man in a master, a woman a mistress, just as for example a female who serves food in a restaurant is a waitress, a man a waiter, although now 'Server' seems to be taking over as the common expression, a genderless alternative to the gendered words.


You are correct of course. Master has been gender specific traditionally for a good while both in and out of the lifestyle.

People want to fight against all manner of things..Mostly the idea of being put in a box but sadly they can't escape it more often than not.

Anyone can of course call themselves whatever they wish but I think the majority know the truth of how things are and most likely traditionally of how they came to be and what it implies.

When labels "suit" them they have no problem using them...Things change over time but it doesn't mean you have to agree with them nor does it mean you have to take them to heart for yourself. People will attempt to twist life till it fits their idea so they can be the snowflake..I gotta be different..I wanna be a special little butterfly with solely original markings.


I personally don't agree with the term used for females but what do I care if a female uses it.....?(I don't)




Well said.

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/14/2010 10:12:15 AM   
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Please trim your quotes.  In general, quoted material should not be longer than your reply.  If anyone needs a lesson on trimming quotes, there is an instructional sticky thread down in the Testing forum.

Thank you.

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/14/2010 10:27:42 AM   
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Which MAsT meeting are you going to?

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RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" - 7/14/2010 1:25:57 PM   
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I get tagged often enough with "Master" but more often not within the BDSM context. usually as the Master of my home and as Master of my Lodge both of course is simply stating my position. Again I am introduced or refereed to as Master Iron Bear as a BDSM/Kink function as someone chooses to indicate I am a Dominant. These are simple either personal preferences by those doing so or they are following protocol. I'm often addressed as (not in the BDSM/Kink scene) as Reverent or Colonel both of which are absolutely correct. If however some sub or slave asks if they should address me as Master, I tell them "Aye I am a Master but not your Master. There is no need unless you choose to do so".  I have no comment if someone chooses to add Master to their name, unless that person proves to be complete ass.. People do as people do. Those Masters of any gender who are recognised by their peers as a Master I respect for their attainment.  

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