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mstrjx -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 3:45:21 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

I hate you.... get out of the Masters forum!

HEY!!!! Can't you see the ladies are having a discussion? You too, QSM.

Don't worry, they'll go away soon.

Jeff



divi -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 4:14:17 AM)

Can't we all just get along?  Dommes/Dominants getting along living in peace and harmony ....



DarkSteven -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 4:36:23 AM)

We kinksters are a mixed bag of Dom/message, subs, and switches as well as male, female, trans. Not to mention straight, gay, bi, etc. Lots of permutations. Collarme did its best to make some sense out of it.

The topics themselves tend to fit the forum identity but the respondents frequently don't



HisEvelyn -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 7:39:53 AM)

I think the OP is more indicating that because there is a "Ask a Mistress" section, that in this particular forum, "Ask a Master" indicates speaking to the male half of the dominant community.

Sort of how you can call either gender "dude", but if you say "Dudes and dudettes"? "Dude" then is assumed to mean males. >.>



IronBear -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 7:56:27 AM)

If I have a question for which I want Dommes to respond but welcome replies from all folk, I post in "Ask A Mistress". Similarly, if I have a question for which I want Doms to respond but welcome replies from all folk, I post in "Ask A Master". Then again when I have a question I would like to have a reply from right across the board, I post in the "General" Forum. Which I do mostly. There no issues, annoyance nor animosity when I read posts in "Ask A Master" forum by those other then Masters of either gender, it is most excellent in my book.   



Zevar -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 7:57:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

"In my non-gentlemanly opinion, you're taking the subforum titles too literally."

Nahhhhhhh, I have no judgment or bias toward it, I'm just curious what the born-with-a-penis dominant gender thinks about this.  



MDA:

Could that be due to the 2 head syndrome of us penis born dominant gendered men that you seek our wisdom on this subject? OR rather that is the one brain and one head that IMO only equals the never-ending battles among gender IMO.

The overall common opinion regarding the subject of dominance is that the expression of Dominant characteristic qualities are not necessarily related solely to penis born dominant gendered men.

You might know also of the beginning of the movement toward gender equality(Feminist Movement) that began with the Suffragettes. I hear tell that the Suffragettes movement began a whole new meaning to the once penis born terminology that was collectively agreed upon and excluded women from casting a vote. Until the Suffragettes realized that they are thinking human beings and full well can cast a vote just like us penis born dominant gendered men can do. Some of the women who fought this gender battle died for what they believed to be true regarding gender equality. But I digress. I don’t know, maybe not.

I do not in all seriousness get what all of the battling around gender is about. However gender remains a divisive subject. Commonly by those who fear what they have yet to understand. Usually that is the case when it comes to most issues that divide. What we fear we project onto others which in essence produces the very thing we fear, as it is with the terminology of Dominant VS Domme.

The qualities that constitute dominance are one in the same when it comes to that which in essence equals dominance. Penis born only OR is that Clitoris born only? That which excludes oneself from hearing the WHOLE answer to any question when one or the other gender is viewed as supreme therein originates the root of divisiveness. That which is deemed exclusively related to dominance is in most instances that which usually concludes as a baseless argument. Gender wars tend to divide rather that resolve the seeming conflicts of gender differences. Is there indeed a natural order of gender roles. I do believe overall nature dictates what is natural for each and all of us human beings.

But then there are always those who deem that being born with a penis is somehow supreme. Really? Last I checked my penis has not granted me any supreme power over anyone whatsoever. Societal conditioning however is a whole other perspective. Amazing how the human mind perceives gender and how gender to most people seem to be related to genitalia when looking through the lenses of cultural gender conditioning.

In closing I will add that my penis has nothing to say even though I am a genuine born-with-a-penis dominant gendered man. At least I hope it does not begin talking. Oh my the story it could tell if it could only talk. Who knows Hollywood might pursue that for a born-with-a-penis dominant gender weekly T.V. series.

Just imagine amidst the hustle and bustle of Hollywood goes out a call….Casting shoots today in Hollywood. Calling all that are naturally inclined as dominant...Qualifications: born-with-a-penis dominant gender.



Missokyst -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 8:39:41 AM)

Gosh... it would sure limit my posting if I had to stay away from ask a master because I would only choose a dominant partner. And I occasionally see stuff over in ask a mistress but I know I have no desire for a mistress, nor do I intend to become one. I am not a switch so I would have to stay out of there too. Already poly and gorean are places I rarely view unless something on the top of the page looks amusing. I am unusually healthy so health might also be out.. phhht. That leaves general, casual, and the ask a submissive section. What's a girl to do? Well.. other than post and read where ever they want regardless of gender or stats, like it has been done for a long time.



mnottertail -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 8:52:29 AM)

Females can be masters too.  And slaves can be masters too.




AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 8:57:04 AM)


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Females can be masters too.  And slaves can be masters too.




And Girls can be Boys, and Boys can be Girls, and Preists can be cruel, and Fisnets can be festive.........

QSM



leadership527 -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 10:21:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: IronBear
If I have a question for which I want Dommes to respond but welcome replies from all folk, I post in "Ask A Mistress". Similarly, if I have a question for which I want Doms to respond but welcome replies from all folk, I post in "Ask A Master". Then again when I have a question I would like to have a reply from right across the board, I post in the "General" Forum. Which I do mostly. There no issues, annoyance nor animosity when I read posts in "Ask A Master" forum by those other then Masters of either gender, it is most excellent in my book.   

this.

Also, on the flip side, as a male dom (real and true by the way since I have a photo up in the men in panties thread -- actually given that I was the first... the realest and twuest?), I respond in the "Ask a Mistress" forum from time to time. Granted, most of the time I feel that the question being asked is not one I can answer as it's too specific to the femdom world. But some of them are not so specific and I'll answer if I think I can help. I've never been rebuked there.

Honestly, I've only ever seen a few people whine about who responds to their threads and it's usually newbies.



BoiJen -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 10:33:09 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

Gentlemen-
Seeing frequent posts from Dommes in this category has me wondering...how do you feel about female dominants inserting their opinions in your Ask A Master forum? 

Best,
MDA



I don't know about you but in the social circles I hang out with, females can and do identify as "Masters".

So the whole "your forum" thing...yeah.

Anyways...

boi



mnottertail -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 10:36:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan


quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Females can be masters too.  And slaves can be masters too.




And Girls can be Boys, and Boys can be Girls, and Preists can be cruel, and Fisnets can be festive.........

QSM

Girls will be boys and boys will be girls
It's a mixed up muddled up, shook up world
Except for Lola, L-L-Lola






LadyHibiscus -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 10:37:19 AM)


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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

Gentlemen-
Seeing frequent posts from Dommes in this category has me wondering...how do you feel about female dominants inserting their opinions in your Ask A Master forum? 

Best,
MDA



I don't know about you but in the social circles I hang out with, females can and do identify as "Masters".

So the whole "your forum" thing...yeah.

Anyways...

boi



I think her question was very reasonable. I started a thread in here (remember one of the Episodes we had locally, Jen?) and WHOOOOOA I learned that this is not the friendliest place for femdoms! Not by a long shot.

I do find that the bulk of the topics here are femsub/maledom related, so I don't have much to speak about anyway.



BoiJen -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 10:46:23 AM)

Oh the Detroit drama...



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 10:48:02 AM)


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ORIGINAL: MarcEsadrian

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt
Gentlemen-
Seeing frequent posts from Dommes in this category has me wondering...how do you feel about female dominants inserting their opinions in your Ask A Master forum? 


As long as they genuflect to the Golden Phallus when entering the temple, we will savor the meats of our kill, enjoy our beer and tolerate their silly talk.




LOL! [:D]



Lockit -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 10:56:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Girls will be boys and boys will be girls
It's a mixed up muddled up, shook up world
Except for Lola, L-L-Lola



Oh dear god... first the nude body shot and now to find he sings! That's enough to make a hardened dominant woman think hard! All is well until I get to the part he wants to tie me up and shove a cock down my throat and hit me with other things. Damn it Ron! Such a tease!



AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 10:57:34 AM)


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

quote:

ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan


quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Females can be masters too.  And slaves can be masters too.




And Girls can be Boys, and Boys can be Girls, and Preists can be cruel, and Fisnets can be festive.........

QSM

Girls will be boys and boys will be girls
It's a mixed up muddled up, shook up world
Except for Lola, L-L-Lola



L-O-L-A Lola.

What a Fantastic Song.



aldompdx -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 11:27:01 AM)

It reflects each of their tendancies to disrespect, dishonor, and violate limits. It only reflects very poorly upon themself. They may be quick to impose protocol on others, but cannot follow any themself. In short, it reflects the untruth of hypocrisy. "You are taking a boundary too literally," is a cry of the unfulfilled narcissist (or a masochist sufficiently oppressed by one). Any perceptive Sub can see that.

Here, "master" IS a differentiated term, since there IS another forum entitled "ask a mistress." If all mistresses are masters, and all masters are mistresses, then why have two forums? E.g., if "MistressDarkArt" identifies as a master, then why would they include the title "mistress" in their screen name?

I had a similar experience in the "ask a submissive/slave" forum, where primarily it was controllers who narcissistically imposed their viewpoints, even after I asked them to troll silently. That was the last time I ask a question and expect any civility and respect of boundaries on CM -- as evidenced by the response immediately below by a mistress/domme who supposedly values clear communication, and imparts her BLESSING upon me. LOL!

Some trolls just can't help themselves -- i.e., they have not mastered themself, let alone have the capacity and self discipline to heathfully master another.

For original posts to which responses from all members are sought, the appropriate forum is "general BDSM discussion" where one stop fits all without tedium. One cannot simply post anything anyplace, since moderators routinely reclassify threads and delete responses.





LaTigresse -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 11:33:58 AM)

Bless your heart........I am sorry that your mommy hurt you so.



AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Dommes Posting in "Ask A Master" (7/9/2010 11:38:46 AM)


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ORIGINAL: aldompdx

It reflects each of their tendancies to disrespect, dishonor, and violate limits. It only reflects very poorly upon themself. They may be quick to impose protocol on others, but cannot follow any themself. In short, it reflects the untruth of hypocrisy. "You are taking a boundary too literally," is a cry of the unfulfilled narcissist (or a masochist sufficiently oppressed by one). Any perceptive Sub can see that.

Here, "master" IS a differentiated term, since there IS another forum entitled "ask a mistress." If all mistresses are masters, and all masters are mistresses, then why have two forums? E.g., if "MistressDarkArt" identifies as a master, then why would they include the title "mistress" in their screen name?

I had a similar experience in the "ask a submissive/slave" forum, where primarily it was controllers who narcissistically imposed their viewpoints, even after I asked them to troll silently. That was the last time I ask a question and expect any civility and respect of boundaries on CM.

Some trolls just can't help themselves -- i.e., they have not mastered themself, let alone have the capacity and self discipline to heathfully master another.

For original posts to which responses from all members are sought, the appropriate forum is "general BDSM discussion" where one stop fits all without tedium. One cannot simply post anything anyplace, since moderators routinely reclassify threads and delete responses.


Is this always going on in your brain?

I mean was this made up on the spot or have you given this serious thought?

I ask because if this is just what goes on in your head, it must be exausting.

At the end of the day... this is a Conversation Forum.... If we don't require someone to prove that they are in fact a Master, or a Submissive, or a General then why would we limit anyone's ability to post to a question that interests them.. Seriously what is the point in getting upset about it.

QSM



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