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RE: When did being a gentleman suddenly become "a ... - 12/14/2010 3:36:45 AM

DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: Michael75

Of course, from another perspective, telling a dom they're doing it wrong has been used by many a sub who was trying to get spanked for rudeness.

Not with me. If she tells me that and she's right, I listen. If she does that consistently to get a rise out of me, then we either have a talk or she is out, depending on my mood. She can ask for a spanking at any time, but I don't do games.

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RE: When did being a gentleman suddenly become "a ... - 12/14/2010 1:37:12 PM

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Being a gentleman in no way makes one submissive. If anything it only proves your Dominance. Any fool can pick up a paddle and spank someone. This, as most will know, does not make you a Dominant. Being Dominant is simply the self confidence in your own knowledge and your own abilities. Not being afraid of what others think, but knowing you are a good and decent person inside regardless of how our mixed up society might try to imply otherwise. Being able to show decency in the wake of indecency. Being able to show compassion and emotion without fear of what others might say or think to the contrary. Knowing that showing respect to others, especially the one you control, is a reciprocal thing and is something that should be given equally but if not that at least you are going to live up to your end. Those that do not get this are only showing their character. We should not waste our time trying to convince them otherwise. I assure you they are the ones that continue to search over and over again for the elusive fantasy and continually come up short and continually search to no avail.

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RE: When did being a gentleman suddenly become "a ... - 12/14/2010 1:59:37 PM

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It's not a submissive thing my man it's just a really bad mishap that has occured over the years.

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RE: When did being a gentleman suddenly become "a ... - 12/14/2010 7:42:06 PM

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Hello Tennessee,
Nicely said.
best,
sunshine

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RE: When did being a gentleman suddenly become "a ... - 12/15/2010 4:36:40 PM

DomForce

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ORIGINAL: MsSavra

Being a gentleman or not is not about Dom/sub, but about having class and style - or not.

I totally agree with this. I don't think you need to pigeon hole certain type of positive behaviour just because it is decent and not nasty. I find it quite irritating that most people perceive dominants as rude, arrogant and nasty people, and if you are a dominant, you then suddenly need to become an asshole, because it is expected from you. Bullsh1t.

It is a lifestyle, your way of thinking and your own manners and feelings. Please don't let others dictate what you are supposed to feel, say or do when you are "dominant". It is YOU and you feel, say and do whatever it feels natural to you.

A true dominant does not need to be told how to be dominant. So, the bottom line is: don't worry, you are a wonderful, classy man to be a gentleman with your sub in public. She should bloody thank you for that and appreciate you.

Give her 6 from me for making you feel bad about your implacable manners and teach her manners please.

Hope it will all turn out well for you. You deserve an appreciating female around you.

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RE: When did being a gentleman suddenly become "a ... - 12/15/2010 10:08:35 PM

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Holding the door is common courtesy. and gentlemanly. and "DOMLY"! It shows care for another person - a trait that any woman should want in a man. Another lost courtesy is a man holding a coat for a woman to put on. Something my Dom did at our first meeting. Which was just one more thing that endeared him to me. Once we got behind closed doors, however, all "gentlemanly" behavior ended