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RE: Initial contact - 5/1/2006 9:34:38 AM   
meatcleaver


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Status: offline 		I simply don't contact anyone and my profile is such that it's not going to attract anyone to contact me, though I have had one person contact me that I most surely would have followed up if the geography made a meeting realistic. I just sent a pleasant reply and thanked her. I'm certainly not interested in an online relationship though I understand there would have to be some considerable online communication before one would meet someone.

However, I've met quite a few people I've met online, though never anything to do with considering a personal relationship, always to do with business and I'm always amazed at how different they are to how I imagined so that gives me a realistic expectation about the chances of meeting someone compatible for a relationship.

< Message edited by meatcleaver -- 5/1/2006 9:35:26 AM >

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RE: Initial contact - 5/1/2006 9:48:46 AM   
Wulfchyld


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ClassAct2006

I have virtually never approached a dominant man on line - they approach me.  It doesn't feel right for me to make an approach. It feels assertive. Just as I couldn't bring myself to approach a man in a bar. Also I've never got very far with the few I initiated contact with either, although that may just be bad luck.


Assertive is my point. I would think that most are looking for an assertive sub/slave that doesn’t have to be micro-managed 24/7.  With him/her taking the initiative and perusing the Dom/me they desire would show me assertiveness, willingness, and a desire to submit to me.

Loki

P.S. I have solved the form letter crises!


Hello _____________,

How are you this “morning” [ ] “afternoon” [ ] “evening” [ ]. I looked at our pic and it made me very “excited” [ ] “happy” [ ] “amorous” [ ] “angry” [ ] “interested” [ ]. I would have read your profile but “I didn’t bother” [ ] “I can’t read” [ ] “it is your job to conform to me” [ ] “you can read it to me over the phone” [ ]. I am considering having “sex” [ ] “bondage” [ ] “humiliation” [ ] “other” [ ] “­­­­_____­­­­­­­­­__” with you and making you” hate it”[ ] “love it” [ ] “beg for it” [ ].  You will “e-mail me” [ ] “IM me”[] “write me” [ ] “call me” [ ] “now” [ ] “this morning” [ ] “tonight” [  ] at _________ and “ask” [ ] “beg” [ ] “plead” [ ] for me to “speak” [  ] “respond” [ ] “reply” [ ] to you.


His supreme machismo god of domination

Master __________



_____________________________

Loki, forum god of Mischief

Submission is not a gift... it is plunder!
Where there is a whip, there is a way!
Dom/mes of a feather, beat the f*ck out of slaves together


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RE: Initial contact - 5/1/2006 12:11:39 PM   
Celeste43


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Joined: 2/4/2006
From: NYS
Status: offline 		I view men who won't approach women as usually too afraid of risk for me to want to know. Dom profiles that state that the subs must come approaching and begging for consideration strike me as arrogant and frequently cyber only. They have a kind of HNG quality to them,  I find.

Plus I need to know I'm wanted, always. I don't go where I'm not wanted and I don't stay if I'm not wanted. Men who appear afraid of risking emotional vulnerability are a deal breaker. Both fear and arrogance come into this category.

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RE: Initial contact - 5/1/2006 12:24:35 PM   
meatcleaver


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Celeste43

I view men who won't approach women as usually too afraid of risk for me to want to know. Dom profiles that state that the subs must come approaching and begging for consideration strike me as arrogant and frequently cyber only. They have a kind of HNG quality to them,  I find.



I wouldn't approach anyone on the internet because profiles are meaningless and one might as well throw a dart at a list of aliases.

However, I did email one woman because I enjoyed her prose that were on her personal website but that was not in relation to wanting a relationship with her though one happened, much to my regret.

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RE: Initial contact - 5/1/2006 7:38:10 PM   
feastie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld

quote:

ORIGINAL: ClassAct2006

I have virtually never approached a dominant man on line - they approach me.  It doesn't feel right for me to make an approach. It feels assertive. Just as I couldn't bring myself to approach a man in a bar. Also I've never got very far with the few I initiated contact with either, although that may just be bad luck.


Assertive is my point. I would think that most are looking for an assertive sub/slave that doesn’t have to be micro-managed 24/7.  With him/her taking the initiative and perusing the Dom/me they desire would show me assertiveness, willingness, and a desire to submit to me.

Loki

P.S. I have solved the form letter crises!


Hello _____________,

How are you this “morning” [ ] “afternoon” [ ] “evening” [ ]. I looked at our pic and it made me very “excited” [ ] “happy” [ ] “amorous” [ ] “angry” [ ] “interested” [ ]. I would have read your profile but “I didn’t bother” [ ] “I can’t read” [ ] “it is your job to conform to me” [ ] “you can read it to me over the phone” [ ]. I am considering having “sex” [ ] “bondage” [ ] “humiliation” [ ] “other” [ ] “­­­­_____­­­­­­­­­__” with you and making you” hate it”[ ] “love it” [ ] “beg for it” [ ].  You will “e-mail me” [ ] “IM me”[] “write me” [ ] “call me” [ ] “now” [ ] “this morning” [ ] “tonight” [  ] at _________ and “ask” [ ] “beg” [ ] “plead” [ ] for me to “speak” [  ] “respond” [ ] “reply” [ ] to you.


His supreme machismo god of domination

Master __________




While I may not assert myself with men, it does not mean that I need to be micromanaged.  In fact, I'd prefer otherwise, as I am a perfectly capable individual.

_____________________________

Snarky and loving it.

Disclaimer: Any views expressed in any post are my opinions only. They may or may not be yours.

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RE: Initial contact - 5/1/2006 8:05:32 PM   
spankmepink11


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Joined: 9/28/2005
Status: offline 		I tend to be shy and have to make genuine effort to overcome that in order to  initiate contact .( took several months for me to  work up the nerve to post  in the forums)  However, if  something i read  touches me deeply enough....i will  send a quick little note complimenting that person, and if i'm interested, i'll usually  invite them to read my profile with the possibility of getting to know one another.

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RE: Initial contact - 5/1/2006 8:12:51 PM   
slaveladyj


Posts: 161
Joined: 2/7/2006
Status: offline 		I think that the doms on this site do far more contacting than the subs. At least from the amount of strange emails I receive here. I have contacted one or two if I see something we have in common. And I have made quite a few friends with the doms here. 
But I think from an email I received early today, that those that send the rude emails definitely don't visit the boards.

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RE: Initial contact - 5/1/2006 8:36:33 PM   
mechbot972007


Posts: 29
Joined: 4/28/2006
Status: offline 		most of my contacts are about a nice pic...or some wording that pushed one of my many buttons...i guess its a guy thing, but i worry that i may be intruding on someone....so i try to be funny....or smart....then in a blue moon you read a profile...the ideas are honest and filled with ideas that the person knows exactly what they want....well the odds of me making a real fool of myself have just increased ten fold....i wonder if its the fact that i don't reach out more to the persons on this web site (or others)...its not like i am really losing anything if i fail....but the first initial impression is a snap shot of how you will be received for the rest of the time those persons know each other....its like luck...its a true rairty....a tone will be set...in it being set courage, honesty and originality will be used....any time that happens its a special thing...\
Respectfully
chris

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RE: Initial contact - 5/1/2006 9:16:19 PM   
dreamscape


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Joined: 4/24/2006
Status: offline 		It personally does not matter to me who contacts first. As several have previously stated, I am a bit shy, so being the first to reach out is hard. It does make me want to scream though, especially when I get mails that state, "On your knees bitch and worship me, or submit to me slut, you're nothing"   If I see something that intrigues me, I will make the effort. After all, nothing good is ever won without effort.




I find myself drowning in your gaze, and longing for the time when I can respond with no artistry, but mere craving.

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RE: Initial contact - 5/1/2006 9:28:37 PM   
nimbus2004


Posts: 12
Joined: 12/6/2004
Status: offline 		I have played with people who have contacted me and with people I have contacted, ditto for houseboys. I was the one who contacted my sub initially. I have been told by guys that they would have been slapped if they said what I said to find out whether someone wants to play when I used to play with others in public.heh

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RE: Initial contact - 5/1/2006 9:29:03 PM   
mechbot972007


Posts: 29
Joined: 4/28/2006
Status: offline 		if its someone that i would love to chat with in depth.....i have to fight the erg to give my phone number....like its lighting a bag of dog crap on someones stoup...people are really offended...i just get more out of the phone...i can tell if someone is telling the truth...flirting...the tempo is faster....but its an intrushion....and i have to restrain my self
Respectfully
chris

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