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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 4:55:39 PM

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I am not snarling, i am out right calling people on their BS when they are calling this man selfish and pretty much identifying him as an ass, i have no issue with other people's SUGGESTIONS, i am irritated that people are calling this man selfish and pretty much indicating he is a jerk or an ass because he isn't choosing to disregard her place in his life as a slave. It sounds to me that SHE doesn't want that either.

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This SLAVE is sick, that is how she exists in his life from what he is saying. He is following the doctor's recommendations for her and seeming like he is using common sense, and all he has done is come on a BDSM message board asking for suggestions on how to keep the atmosphere and environment in a comfort zone for his slave while she pretty much is in unfamiliar territory for a while. And yes, January, the STRESS this can cause a woman who exists as a slave in a Man's life can be JUST as harmful to her in such a situation due to the unfamiliarity of the situation, which is also not good for her.

THAT is my issue -- not the suggestions people are making no matter how wide they are, the OP is capable of determining what is best for his property, and without even KNOWING what suggestions he is taking people are calling him selfish and making him into an ass simply for ASKING for some suggestion. Unbelievable.

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Angel, We get it

We always get it your the only person in the world that has any idea what being a slave is like....

At least thats how your comming across.

This isnt a D/s issue or an M/s issue. This is a human being regardless of her life choice who has a cyst on her ovary that might be growing. Growing as in potential very dangerous situation dangerous. That if ruptured can cause her to loose that ovary, that pain is Extremely intense.......want to end your life intense...

Being a slave is a VERY powerful mindset I get and understand that most of us do.... However I never had an issue being kept in said mindset with my partner, i didnt need to do physical things for my partner to keep me in said place. If my Owner ordered me to be still, to rest, to be as he wished, I did it...

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 5:02:08 PM

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Obviously you don't get it because my issue isn't with OTHER ideas of slavery, its with people calling this man selfish and pretty much calling him a jerk and an ass because THEY are jumping to conclusions all because the man asked for suggestions in maintaining an environment the slave LIVES on a daily basis while she is bedridden and he may not do "slavery" like they think he should.

Get it right, and you may get it. You obviously aren't getting what i am objecting to on this thread.

Secondly look at your last paragraph, compare it to the fact that this guy doesn't WANT to just order her to lay there. He wants to make this easier for her. And because of this, he is selfish and being an ass to her?

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 5:08:16 PM

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Okay, so because He doesnt want to......He doesnt want to order her to lay there, and do things that the other people have suggested.....

Anything that involves I dont wanna... comes across is MAJORLY selfish... and jerkish in my opinion....

eta It isnt about her... Its about him and what he wants and doesnt want to do.... the life of a slave isnt easy, I know that you know that, however I followed my orders when I was told to rest and not touch a thing....It sucked sure, it made me feel useless sure, however it was my orders and i followed them....the fact that it was his wishes was the only thing that made it easier....

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 5:08:54 PM

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My G*D... did barely an angel and I actually disagree?

Be warned: hell just froze over.

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 5:24:37 PM

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Oy vay.

A slave with a cyst on bedrest who wants to not put her dynamic on halt. That's not really surprising.
She asks her owner to look into ways they can continue their dynamic. Makes sense so far.
He posts and gets chewed out about how he is being a selfish prick for seeing what ways they can continue the dynamic they both enjoy.

Yeah... that's about where I get lost. I'm starting to really feel for dominant men. If they ignore what we want, they're assholes. If they try to give us what we want, they're assholes.

So, to the OP, my suggestion is to your own good judgment. If there has been needlework or knitting or something that she has been meaning to learn or complete for you, now is the time to have her do it. Have her provide pleasure in the ways the doctor said was ok. Trust me on this one, a patient doesn't have to be an s-type and have a desire to please to stubbornly hide their pain. ERs see it all time.

There is a lot you can do. This seems like a great chance to focus on the non-sexy stuff. Write letters to each other. If there is a subject she's always wanted to learn about, grab her some books. Have her write essays to you about what she is finding interesting.

My only real caution is to repeat that patients frequently hide their pain, for a great number of reasons. So just stick to what the doctor said when it comes to the physical.

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 5:37:20 PM

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ask he doctor what she is allowed to do and then use that information to ask her what she wants.

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 5:38:17 PM

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She could probably fold the laundry you bring to her in bed. Folding laundry isn';t that hard, and is easily done from bed, if it's not super large items like bedsheets. And she could journal for you and write erotic stories and come up with things to do once she's not bedridden any more.

You could order her to read. REading if you like to do it is fun, staves of fboredom andkeeps a mind occupied.

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Hi there.
My slave is currently under doctor's orders to rest and stay in bed as much as possible for the next few weeks. She can't perform many (if any) of her normal duties - housework etc. She is also not allowed any vaginal penetration and only gentle anal penetration.

Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions for training and tasks I can do with her over the next few weeks which will keep her mind appropriately focussed and also alleviate the inevitable boredom and frustration of being unable to perform her normal tasks and duties?

Many thanks.

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 5:40:42 PM

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I'm starting to really feel for dominant men. If they ignore what we want, they're assholes. If they try to give us what we want, they're assholes.

So, basically, we're assholes?

<thinks>

Actually, I think you may be onto something there ... :)

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 5:54:49 PM

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but you are a SPECIAL kind of asshole,. RF *grins*

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 5:55:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
I'm starting to really feel for dominant men. If they ignore what we want, they're assholes. If they try to give us what we want, they're assholes.

So, basically, we're assholes?

<thinks>

Actually, I think you may be onto something there ... :)

Evidently.

Fortunately, I like assholes. There is a required level of assholeness for me to be attracted to a man. I could get into why but it's complicated and really best reserved for another thread.

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 5:57:48 PM

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but you are a SPECIAL kind of asshole,. RF *grins*

"Special needs" maybe :)

Special? Pffft.

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 5:58:48 PM

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Fortunately, I like assholes. There is a required level of assholeness for me to be attracted to a man. I could get into why but it's complicated and really best reserved for another thread.

"All the best girls love a bastard" ;)

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 5:58:57 PM

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special in that your assholeness isnt offensive (in my world, anyway..LOL)

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 6:00:30 PM

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special in that your assholeness isnt offensive (in my world, anyway..LOL)

Yours is clearly a very sick and twisted world :)

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 6:03:13 PM

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Fortunately, I like assholes. There is a required level of assholeness for me to be attracted to a man. I could get into why but it's complicated and really best reserved for another thread.

"All the best girls love a bastard" ;)

That we do. Happily Val is both literally and figuratively a bastard. I got a double dose!

Now if I could find a poly dom like him, I'd have four servings of bastard. Mmmm....

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ORIGINAL: special in that your assholeness isnt offensive (in my world, anyway..LOL)

Then do yourself a favor and cover your ears when Valyraen talks.

Just kidding - although he wouldn't have any problem with anyone telling him he is a selfish prick or a bastard for finding ways to give his Kitten what he wants if he thinks I should have it.

Actually I think his response would be to laugh so hard his gut would burst.

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 6:11:13 PM

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Forgive me if this has been resolved somewhere down the post page, I haven't read that far but jeezus Spirited SHE WANTS HIM TO FIND HER TASKS. SHE not him, wants to continue things as normal as possible given her condition. He's not out there like oh I am so horny an I can't ever let my slave have a moments of peace, and I wanna play with her despite bedrest, got any idea's. Your reaction is way over blown given that SHE NOT him, wants tasks to do. He's asking on her behalf, and sure that could of been better explained in the original post, he's not in the wrong in my opinion. Unless perhaps your ire at him is because he's allowing her to want tasks that can be done bed ridden instead of saying tough shit you rest and I do n't care if you want tasks you're not getting them.

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I do respect that - hence why I am trying to find alternative things to do. FYI it is she who has requested not to be treated as if she's a human being. She wants to keep as much as possible in the slave mindset.

Its men like you who make me happy Im single.

If she has a cyst.... Think of it like this... take an ice pick shove it through your testicals... and continue to do it every time you move....

Now... What are you thinking of while going through this pain?

Now insert your slave here... this is what shes feeling if cysts in women are similar.... Would you want something shoved up your ass or tasks to do? Keep her in the mindset by making sure she knows YOUR in charge and YOUR doing whats best for her... which is letting her rest and not doing anything... thats YOUR order...

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 6:23:22 PM

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Forgive me if this has been resolved somewhere down the post page, I haven't read that far but jeezus Spirited SHE WANTS HIM TO FIND HER TASKS. SHE not him, wants to continue things as normal as possible given her condition. He's not out there like oh I am so horny an I can't ever let my slave have a moments of peace, and I wanna play with her despite bedrest, got any idea's. Your reaction is way over blown given that SHE NOT him, wants tasks to do. He's asking on her behalf, and sure that could of been better explained in the original post, he's not in the wrong in my opinion. Unless perhaps your ire at him is because he's allowing her to want tasks that can be done bed ridden instead of saying tough shit you rest and I do n't care if you want tasks you're not getting them.

And Thats super, I perfer a master that understands the intense pain and the severity of the situation and acts accordingly....

My suggestion is UNDERSTAND what the person is going through..... And act accordingly... thats what an ovarian cyst FEELS like.... IT FELLS THAT bad, even worse when the cyst is growing or if it ruptures....

To me being a jerk is going through the situation with what he wants... and doesnt. Sure she might want tasks, but thats most likely not in her best interest.... I wanted a lot of things in my life that werent in my best interest... my partner or parents being responsible made sure that those things I didnt get...Because they wernt in my best interest... They would have made the situation worse Not better....

They are currently looking for the rate of growth and the risk of rupture from the cyst as well as how safe is it to remove and what method of removal should they use....As well as possibly figuring out if its just a cyst....

And while being in bed being ordered to do nothing but say read or common sense things might make her miserable for a week...its one week....

loosing the use of her ovary for the rest of her life, risking her ability to have children.... and possibly worse side effects... because the she did too much while on bed rest is most likely going to be worse.... Espically if those tasks cause the cyst to rupture.... thats a forever kinda deal....

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 6:24:29 PM

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Forgive me if this has been resolved somewhere down the post page, I haven't read that far but jeezus Spirited SHE WANTS HIM TO FIND HER TASKS. SHE not him, wants to continue things as normal as possible given her condition. He's not out there like oh I am so horny an I can't ever let my slave have a moments of peace, and I wanna play with her despite bedrest, got any idea's. Your reaction is way over blown given that SHE NOT him, wants tasks to do. He's asking on her behalf, and sure that could of been better explained in the original post, he's not in the wrong in my opinion. Unless perhaps your ire at him is because he's allowing her to want tasks that can be done bed ridden instead of saying tough shit you rest and I do n't care if you want tasks you're not getting them.

Agreed. If she has a slave mentality, and it seems she does, then not being able to serve would be distressing to her.

OP, my suggestion is to have her research ways to vary the service she gives you. I think it'd be helpful to her to "keep in touch" mentally with her service tasks even if she's physically unable to do them.

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 6:27:06 PM

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Forgive me if this has been resolved somewhere down the post page, I haven't read that far but jeezus Spirited SHE WANTS HIM TO FIND HER TASKS. SHE not him, wants to continue things as normal as possible given her condition. He's not out there like oh I am so horny an I can't ever let my slave have a moments of peace, and I wanna play with her despite bedrest, got any idea's. Your reaction is way over blown given that SHE NOT him, wants tasks to do. He's asking on her behalf, and sure that could of been better explained in the original post, he's not in the wrong in my opinion. Unless perhaps your ire at him is because he's allowing her to want tasks that can be done bed ridden instead of saying tough shit you rest and I do n't care if you want tasks you're not getting them.

Evidently that is what he is supposed to do.

Such an asshole. Wanting suggestions as to how she can feel useful and spare her feeling useless. even though she is on bedrest. I really don't know how she can put up on with him. I mean... Jeez, it's like he cares about how she feels. Ew.

Like I said, I'm seriously feeling for d-type males. They can't do anything right. I hope the OP sticks around because there is a lot of good stuff among the insults.

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RE: Ideas for bedridden slave - 1/6/2011 6:31:03 PM

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Apparently not to her. After all he's said a few times it was HER, not him who asked for tasks.

If she wants tasks and wants to remained ofcoused on being a slave, who are you to bash her partner, for trying to provide that for her, in ways that are bedridden and cycst on overy safe? Or to try and say that people need to get the idea that certain things over ride the function of chosen roles. It's obviously what I can gather for her not nonsense, and it's not unreasonable, in my eyes at least to want to still feel like a slave to your man, when you're bed ridden an can't do much. I think you and others on this he's abusive or stop being selfish blah blah blah, band wagon must invision him making her do jumping jacks, or highly strenous tasks or something, or imagain that when one has this problem all but doing nothing but laying in bed is going to make the situation worse. She can still do small tasks if she so wanted to, and he's willing to allow it, , and it's not going to hurt her or blow up the situation, or make it overly worse. You guys are all just jumping on the drama band wagon, with the notion he;s selfish or a jack ass or he's going to hurt her or make her worse, or what ever else all you guys are spouting.

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[This. Pain from things like this overrides any chosen role nonsense. Jeez, I wish some people would spend a day in the shoes of a woman when she experiences excruciating pain related to anything reproductive, believe me, been there, done that and the freaking LAST thing on my mind or anyone I was with, was my "chosen" role.

My role was a woman trying to recover from a painful condition and nothing else on the planet matters.

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