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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 10:45:23 AM

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I understand, but I just think that anyone who would benefit from any of these threads about how to communicate effectively to a Domme, Dom, sub, slave or switch, is probably not reading the forums, so the experiments are a failure.

And again, I try to maintain the illusion that adults should know how to approach other adults without being schooled in specific techniques.

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 11:22:48 AM

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I was an innocent once.... And now I've hidden my profile.

Even being polite over there, I got tired of the endless barrage of "stuff" on the other side. *sigh*

With so many male subs and so few Dommes, I wonder why more care isn't taken on the part of many of these subs to be less offensive? Or is this the sort of behaviour that some men think will impress women?

How many men, I wonder, actually care about who women actually are, and what is really important to us? Do a lot of men think that their "lore" concerning women is the truth? I've heard quite a bit of it, and nothing could be further from the truth. Yet so many still apparently believe it anyway, act accordingly. Then they don't understand why we either laugh, or become angry and disgusted with what they're saying or doing.

I had one guy send me three video messages. This was after his Cmail, which I replied to telling him no thanks, I wasn't looking, and wishing him all the best in his search. Out of horrible curiosity, I watched all three, because I'd never gotten anything like this before. I was pretty surprised. First off, I viewed his profile. Of course, it read "Single". But the video, shot in his home, showed the distinct presence of a wife, right down to the framed family pictures in the background with the Mrs and kids (as well as their wedding picture) and the fluffy, frilly feminine decor. Strike 1.

But it got better. He was, of course, telling me all the wonderful ways he could serve me, by explaining what his fantasies were and how he wanted me to participate in them all, which, according to him, was what I wanted, obviously. Strike 2. And then, in the final one, he got all mystical on me, telling me that he could feel our "connection", couldn't explain it, but he felt it sooooo strongly, and knew it was "destined to be" , bla, bla. All of this from some guy, somewhere out there, whom I'd never met, seen, or even knew existed before all of these Cmails. That sure was some awesome connection there, oh yeah. Strike 3. Man out. And after each correspondence, I sent a reply telling him in no uncertain terms that I wasn't interested.

He was relentless. I know I should have block/deleted him immediately, but I was curious as to just how long it would take for the guy to realise that no means no. And he never got it! He'd have sent me those things all day if I hadn't blocked him. And that was mild in comparison to some of the other things I was getting.

It boggles the mind how much there is to learn about human nature.

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 12:57:48 PM

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I did find one way to quickly discourage the repeat assholes on sites where I was participating socially and unable to permanently block someone. I simply "confessed" that I was a 420 lb transvestite looking for a sugar daddy to pay for my bariatric and sex change surgery so I could finally become the pretty girl I had always dreamed of being, the one whose picture I'd stolen for my profile.

Near 100% success rate at having the assholes disappear and never, ever bother me again. And if I was feeling really sadistic, I could chase them for awhile with some of the same crap they'd sent to me, complete with the most unattractive pictures of "the real me" engaged in gross activities that I could possibly find online. I found some that were calculated to make heterosexual males lose their hardons for a week, and they were great fun to send while reminding them how interested they said they were and what explicit things they had offered to do for me. *wicked, evil grin* This ensured that they would actually block me, thus preventing them from starting the thing all over again down the road when they forgot who they'd already been harassing.

I always figured that I participate so actively in real time BDSM events that any rumors they could possibly start would be received with much giggling from roughly a zillion people who have met me in person. Thing is, the assholes who bug women in this particular manner on the Internet basically never, ever connect with anyone real and local as far as I can tell. So years of telling jerks on the Internet that I was "really" a male cross dresser never even got back me as a rumor, even from someone who thought it was hilarious. Go figure.

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 1:21:25 PM

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I just got a lovely cmail from a local guy. He had obviously read not only my profile and journal, but a number of my posts on this side.

We may get together for coffee at some point (depends on how my schedule works, and when I can move back to GA).

So simple...

(sorry.. semi-doped up on cold meds..so may not be making sense..0

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 1:26:49 PM

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I guess that I can somewhat understand the ignoring of what is plainly written. Note that I didn't say that I liked it, but I can somewhat understand it. Unmet desire is just so damned powerful.

The cock pictures, or, better yet, the butt plugged ones, those I don't understand. I can't fathom why men think that is a good introductory image. They might have a very nice cock or ass, but it is not the first glimpse of them that I want. Ever.

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 1:40:07 PM

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I agree, DR.. I feel that if a guy uses his dick or ass as a main pic, then he is representing what he feels is his best asset..

and if that is the case.. how sad.

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 4:04:37 PM

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Since he quit long before reaching 100 emails . . . .

I know, I didn't have much staying power, did I?

But I'd learned what I needed to learn. This was that a femdom's CM inbox feels like a pretty cold place. I knew that if I'd really been the person receiving those messages, I'd have felt it that way. And, hand on heart, if I'd received messages like that, as a male, from females . . . it would have felt just as cold. It's not horny, it's not fun . . . it's just lots of empty nothing, really. A string of people being weird, pointless and a bit inhuman.

Contrast that with my CM inbox. No doubt that far fewer women initiate contact with me than men ordinarily initiate contact with femdoms. But those who have - minus the few who are obviously spammers or con-artists of various types - have always wanted to connect, and they've nearly always made me want to connect with them. My CM inbox feels like a warm and cosy place. No way on earth would I swap places.

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 4:15:06 PM

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One handed typists. Wankers. Idiots.

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 5:07:34 PM

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You are beginning to become my ultimate hero, Kal. You get exactly what you want, but you make sure that the woman gets exactly what she wants, too. You have The Formula.

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 5:26:37 PM

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I appreciate that. Honestly, it's hard...but it's not that doggone hard to find a Mistress. Ms. Mlicious has assigned me to wade through all her messages. In the first place, she isn't even supposed to get any messages from prospective slaves. Her profile clearly states that they shoulld contact me. Over and over they ignore her instructions.

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 5:27:05 PM

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I love having my profile hidden! Only my friends write to me!

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 5:38:03 PM

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I love having my profile hidden! Only my friends write to me!

Not fair. Thats cheating! :)

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 7:48:39 PM

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I understand, but I just think that anyone who would benefit from any of these threads about how to communicate effectively to a Domme, Dom, sub, slave or switch, is probably not reading the forums, so the experiments are a failure.

And again, I try to maintain the illusion that adults should know how to approach other adults without being schooled in specific techniques.

On a slight technicality, I'm going to disagree.

I know you've been reading the forums lately. Have you caught some of the bone-headed things that have been posted by new users in the last month? I know you have.

That means they are on the forums. These same twatwaffles are typing up stuff, so there's also a possibility that they are reading stuff. You never know. We might reach some of them.

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 8:16:38 PM

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Normally, I am on CM as a man, who loves Dominant Women ...

And I know a few!

Which in my mind is a good thing!

That said ... what I just endured, with this fake profile ... is totally incredible!

I was being hit on, via chat and email, before I even entered a word!!!!!

And I have heard from other Women, they HATE this about CM.

So, all I can say is: I am thankful I am a man, and HAVE Dominant Women, as Friends!

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 8:18:21 PM

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I see your point, LadyPact. I think you are more generous and patient than I am in thinking that someone reading some replies in a forum will actually get it.

It could be that I am in the market and experiencing first hand some of the twatwaffles you so eloquently mention, so I am more cynical about the ability to learn to behave in an adult manner.

I bemoan our entire society's lack of finesse, most of all in the dating arena.

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 8:36:19 PM

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 8:55:31 PM

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anyone who would benefit from any of these threads about how to communicate effectively to a Domme, Dom, sub, slave or switch

FYI, I was originally schooled, in how to communicate with Dommes, via the forums.

But I will add, by two in particular;

the first, pointing me here;

the second, You could possibly say, was Domming me the entire time ... yet i love'd her dearly .. so ... (correction meaning Past Tense)

No Harm, No Foul ....

I learned a LOT!

PS: You could add a third, who is a REALLY GOOD friend ...

... in Real Life, too!

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 11:48:02 PM

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I see your point, LadyPact. I think you are more generous and patient than I am in thinking that someone reading some replies in a forum will actually get it.

It could be that I am in the market and experiencing first hand some of the twatwaffles you so eloquently mention, so I am more cynical about the ability to learn to behave in an adult manner.

I bemoan our entire society's lack of finesse, most of all in the dating arena.

Patient and generous?

Bahahahahaha.

I'm with you, believe it or not. I sincerely believe that if people thought about it rationally, and approached people here as they do in the real world, they'd be so much better off. With maturity, people learn how to talk to each other as they gain experience in relationships and how to form them. Unfortunately, they come to the net. It's a new world for them and they start figuring that all that stuff they learned with non kinky people doesn't apply anymore. It's exactly the finesse that they feel they can skip, which is only detrimental to their goals.

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 11:50:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I see your point, LadyPact. I think you are more generous and patient than I am in thinking that someone reading some replies in a forum will actually get it.

It could be that I am in the market and experiencing first hand some of the twatwaffles you so eloquently mention, so I am more cynical about the ability to learn to behave in an adult manner.

I bemoan our entire society's lack of finesse, most of all in the dating arena.

Indeed, this is regretable ... I often look back on American society .., just 20 years ago ...

it seemed far more polite ...

A lack of class, now seems to cover our society entirely.

I am beginning to think it reflects itself in an increase in all kinds of petty crimes and indignities!

And honestly, I was speaking on the phone, with a friend who lives in another culture, on New Years.

We compared Business experience between the two ... and IMO ... hers wins, hands down!

We are just stupid here in the US ... and it is the real cause of the lack of finesse!

But to discuss this further, we need to start a thread in Politics and Religion. Cause I can go way off topic on this!

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 1/6/2011 11:59:17 PM

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Idon't care much for sub males...But I do enjoy how they never fail to fail.

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Ms. Mlicious has assigned me to wade through all her messages. In the first place, she isn't even supposed to get any messages from prospective slaves. Her profile clearly states that they shoulld contact me. Over and over they ignore her instructions.

Wow...Talk about someone who doesn't get it.

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