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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 8/14/2011 6:59:34 PM   
LadyPact


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I agree Steven. How ever years ago web based social networking sights were a marginally bona fide ways of meeting other kinksters.

True story.

We moved here about four months ago.  A  month or so before our actual move date, I contacted three people in the (semi) local area to our new location to ask them about the BDSM community here.  I got the info that I needed and went to the first munch that coincided with our arrival.  From that munch, I got information about the upcoming multiple day event that was in another city.  Attended that as well. 

Long story short, we've been to over half a dozen munches and two multiple day events in the four months we've been here.  In doing so, I've met at least two dozen folks who have accounts on Fet, a bit under a dozen who have profiles on CM, and even found a couple who are good regular play partner material. 

Now, go look at My location.  If I can manage to do that here, I'm going to tell you that you can do it damn near anywhere.


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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 8/15/2011 8:14:35 AM   
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This thread has opened my eyes a bit. I've sent one liners too, but not usually all ME ME ME, something like, if someone's thing is I'm looking for people that like duct tape or something. And i'll do a one liner along the lines of OMG i love duct tape too!. And then expecting a response lol. Makes sense now why no response. I'm sincere in my messages, but now it makes sense why they're ignored. Will keep that in mind for future messages (of the tiny amount that I send anyhow)

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RE: What dominant women endure online - a halfway cluel... - 8/15/2011 9:16:43 AM   
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big thank you to the OP for posting this ^^

I sometimes feel that i can see this issue from both sides. the men feel isolated at the lack of response or feedback, and increasingly resort to more desperate tactics. From their point of view it seems justified.

however since creating Nanako, my views on the matter hanged a lot. I don't get quite th volume that a cis female does (maybe abuot a quarter of it) but i get exactly the same sort of content. Lame come-ons for people millions of miles away, the occasional dom with an empty profile that demands obedience in the first message, etc.

The big problem ultimately is a lack of information. I think something can and should be done about it.

First of all i would say we need one of these experiments made public, with appropriate commentary from the author pointing out the hundreds of flaws in them.
Then everyone can create a custom quick response that says something like "this is why i'm not replying to you " with a link to the above experiment

Maybe some people will be too silly to understand or get the message, but i know there are a lot of people who are sincere but just shy or clueless, and would be greatly helped by seeing a taste of what women have to cope with.

Heal the world's stupidity, one man at a time ^.^

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