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lizi -> RE: Why have pro and lifestyle mixed together? (1/31/2011 6:20:01 AM)
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ORIGINAL: manonaleash
Firstly, I never said there was anything wrong with being pro. Secondly, pro to me (and most others) means that there is some form or transaction required that involves payment. Thirdly, it would be quite simple, once someone makes it known that they are a pro, then their profile can be flagged by the targeted customer and those reviewing profiles can see the flag and pass it by if they are not interested. Pro vs nonpro is a very significant definition in the eyes of most, in some eyes it is considered prostitution (notice that I have not commented that I think anything is wrong with prostitution). As for being a crybaby - is that how you label anyone and everyone who takes the time to voice a potential improvement to the web site?
Really? You don't see anything wrong with your "method"?
I'm avoiding doing my studying this morning and in a chatty mood so ok, let's say that users of this site can flag other users in the manner that you described above for being a pro. Let's pretend my own profile is changed to say that I'm looking for a partner and you contact me with that in mind...and I turn you down. Subsequently you are ticked and flag me for being a pro, because after all I must be if I'm turning away a perfectly good chance at a lifestyle relationship. You honestly don't see the problem in having people pronounce judgement in any way on others?
There aren't many lifestyle Dommes here or on any site. They get innundated with requests, any one of those potential suitors could be exasperated by not getting anywhere and decide to check off the pro flag just out of spite or frustration. I could have a beef with you and check off the pro box on you. Are you getting the fact that it really really wouldn't work?
You are right OP, this is a problem that some people are deliberately trying to mislead others, but there isnt' an effective way to clear things up or it would've been done by now. It's nice that you aren't slamming the pros, I do commend you for that, and you are right that it IS a very powerful designation to toss about so why would you want a perfect stranger whose motives are not your own be able to pronounce anything at all upon yourself or anyone else on here?
Labeling someone as a crybaby may not be the most helpful thing in the world but quite frankly neither is your solution. If you did come up with something that would improve things here I'm sure people would pay attention to it, but as it is this subject has been mentioned a bazillion times and no one has ever come up with an effective way to deal with it. You don't seem to be trolling, but you are being incredibly obtuse if this flag method is the best thing you have to offer. Do some research on past threads to become acquainted with eye-opening discussions on how men react in general to being rejected and how nasty they are to the women who politely say, no thanks. Then tell me how effective the flagging method is going to be.
It is frustrating to be misled. There are people out there deliberately misleading others in the hopes of getting some cash. It's going to be very tricky instituting anything as a fix because these people will look for ways to keep getting their $. It must work somehow for them. Sadly enough this happens in any walk of life, CM isn't special and the nice people aren't the only ones who come here but you also can't be the judge and jury of who is nice and who isn't - it's much too complicated for that. As it is I'm glad that we all get to use this site free from the worry that Joe Blow in NV will start calling other people names because he didn't get an instant Domme upon joining the site.
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