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CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Man Up !!!Are kids being taught NOT to do that nowadays? (2/2/2011 10:31:36 AM)
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ORIGINAL: SlevinKelevra
Last week, my best friend´s son got into a fight at school. The little guy, who´s just turned 11 and is as nerdy and scrawny as Screech, from the Saved By The Bell series (yep, I´m old enough to have watched that show) outfought 3 bigger, meaner, older boys about 13 and 14, 3 grades higher, and sent them home with black eyes, broken noses, some serious hurting on their ribs and belly not to mention a bit of damage to their limbs. It wasn´t unfair, he got his own blows too and sucked up those punches and defended himself....I did invite him to ice-creams, arcades and a movie just because of it.
That´s an idea that works, and this shrink, after asking me what movies he saw, actually had the nerve to say "Maybe the problem IS the masculine role model concept he´s being exposed to, you should try to get him to see other movies and not expose him to such movies or tv series until he´s at least 4 or 5 years older so he can judge" .
What do you think ?
Let me get this straight. One scrawny little kid had to defend himself against three huge bullies who had the intent to beat the cr*p out of him...and HE is in trouble?
The school has no problem with a three against one fight? This is fair to them? What does this counselor expect the boy to do next time, beg to be left alone while the other boys kick his teeth in?
The school counselor...does the guy actually have a degree big enough to handle this, or did he walk in off the street into the position of counselor with very little training? Somehow I don't see a school affording a qualified shrink on it's payroll.
My son is autistic and I had lots of run ins with the school and their asinine poilicies. One time another kid...IN THE CLASSROOM WHILE I WAS THERE..was pulling a girl's hair hard enough to make her fall to the ground and kept biting my son. Yes, drawing blood. One teacher and two aids were in the special ed kindergarten class...did any intervene? No. The girl's parent and I kept having to step in and rescue our kids. Did they have one of those aids watch that violent kid better? Nope. They merely told him in a sweet voice not to do that, "...because that's ugly."
My kid had to go to the doctor after school and get a shot, and it took about twenty minutes to have dried blood gently swabbed away. Thank God he didn't need stitches for the three bites to his head, face, and ear.
Now comes the school's solution at my son's IEP meeting. Yeah, I brought a tape recorder to hear this. I was told several times that they will change my son's trainings to handle this, and refused to address the real issue. In the end, when they thought they had railroaded me, I told them what they were going to do. They were going to get someone one on one for that boy to ensure he doesn't bite or rip out any more hair. If they don't and this happens one more time, I am going to sue the living cr*p out of them and even go so far as to take away all of their houses and cars.
The next day...the boy had someone provided for him who held his hand or hands most of the time, and this lasted for the entire school year. Violence ended.
Schools are stupid and will try to get away with blaming the victim.
If this happened on the way home from school, isn't the school responsible? If they are not, then this was an after school activity that is none of their business. If this happened at a time when the school was responsible for the health and safety of the kids...how come they let three much older and larger kids engage in a rumble with one scrawny little kid?
I wonder if the parent could go to the police and swear out a juvenile complaint over the bullying. One on one fights can be fair, but three against one...nope. I'm glad the little guy cleaned their clocks.
My neighbor would be evil enough to call the local newspaper and see if an article will be done over bullying, and about the new and improved steps the school takes to address this issue...and that the answer seems to be to take away all those Rambo movies.
I would have taken him out for icecream too.
...and if for any reason that counselor ever ends up in prison for even a short while, I wonder how good that "don't fight back" policy will protect the virginity of his bottom...
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