stellauk
Posts: 1360
Status: offline
|
I'm sorry if I'm the odd one here, but personally I find the topic to be rather moot. I mean, male slave by who's definition? Female domme by who's definition? And what for? For play? For a relationship? In a tribute for kink sort of arrangement? I think that anyone, irrespective of who they are, what gender, what side of the kneel they find themselves on, or whatever, if they have at least an ounce of common sense, they are looking for a person - someone they can relate to, communicate with, understand and above all trust. There seems to be yet another group of people nobody has even bothered to mention. These are people from what we would regard as wider society, the so-called 'vanillas', the vanilla women who are calling themselves domme but who are anything but, and the guys who are coming into this seeing it as some sort of alternative to the vanilla dating sites. It doesn't matter whoever which way you look at it, it all boils down to the same - men and women, i.e. people. It doesn't matter how long the profile is, what is written, all the journal entries, kinks, fetishes, and Lord knows whatever else you have online at your disposal. Nor do the demographics. Thing is, however which way you are looking at it, when you are seeking or looking, you are in essence only looking for one person. It's in your best interests to get to know that person and do the distance, and I honestly believe that two people who really want to be together will find a way of being together, of finding the right wavelength, way of communicating, understanding, and ironing out all the dynamics, kinks, limits and whatever else goes to make a successful relationship. The numbers and demographics don't matter because in reality generally speaking you are only looking for one person - hopefully the right person for you at that time, in those circumstances, for whatever it is you want to share with someone. It's hard enough as it is in vanilla dating to find someone, and I honestly believe that when you throw in a D/s dynamic or kink into the mix it doesn't make it any easier. If anything it makes it harder and that bit more challenging. Some people find it frustrating, and this is what you see among certain people on any site, you see it in profiles, it comes across even in individual postings. Human nature I guess. Not everybody is reconciled with loneliness, or with not getting what they want and need. Each has merits to their arguments, it must be soul destroying to be writing off message after message and not getting much response. It must be equally soul destroying to follow up message after message and not get anywhere. And yes, it does make you wonder. But I still feel at the end of the day it's a moot point, because no matter who you are, no matter what you are into, no matter what side of the kneel you are on, where you live, what you are involved in, you are generally not much different to many others, and you are just looking for that one person who is going to make all the difference.
_____________________________
Usually when you have all the answers for something nobody is interested in listening.
|