LaTigresse
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Using fast reply.... Hannah Lynn types much the same way I do, very similarly to the way I think. Within my own personal life, my communication style has upset, and even alienated, more than a few people. I suspect she has experienced similar reactions a time or two. Speaking for myself, I will not change who I am, or how I think, to become more palatable to a broader audience. I am who I am. If you cannot see beyond the sometimes abrasive nature of my words, then you do not need or deserve to see the sweet squishy creme filling inside. Those that are in my life, that have braved the briar patch to get to the inner sanctum, appreciate the honesty and knowledge that I will always speak my mind with them. They appreciate that, I don't pussy foot around the truth, as I see it. They appreciate that, as harsh as I can be, when it is what they do not want to hear, it is all the sweeter when it is words of love and encouragement because it is ALL from the heart, with no hidden agenda. As for the OP and ensuing sparring match. Some people create an entire identity out of victimhood. Our culture seems to do an excellent job of encouraging that. I haven't any tolerance for that mindset and I get the feeling that Hannah Lynn doesn't either. The question remains, which fosters growth and recovery.......overly coddling or pushing the chick out of the nest, so to speak? Perhaps a bit of both. Perhaps there is something good in the balance to be found in the middle. Coddle too long and they absolutely will have to be shoved out into that big scary world. The danger in the coddling lies in the fact that it often times, does not give the chick the necessary tools needed to survive leaving that secure nest of coddling. Then you become a life time victim. Still blaming something/one from the past, when the truth is, you are your own victim. Caught fast in the identity of that. Using the actions of a few, to create your own cage of fear, of being a victim, is to me, as much an abusive act as the initial act/s. The only difference is that we do it to ourselves. It doesn't have to be that way. Those of us that have fought it, and come out the other side, often times get angry and frustrated at seeing the prisons others are creating for themselves, the identity of VICTIM.
< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 5/16/2011 10:08:28 AM >
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one! Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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