CynthiaWVirginia
Posts: 1915
Joined: 2/28/2010 From: West Virginia, USA Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: MistressK2011 I know, I *am* one. I heard (on good authority from several sources) that male subs and slaves are very often treated poorly in online places such as this - even with appropriate profiles, respectful communication, and decent photos. If you want, share the rudest things they have said in response to simple first messages. - K I will have to admit to being rude sometimes, and not always just in response to first messages. Actually, I am more likely to be polite in response to first messages. (At least four men this past year have been royally pissed off by something I've said.) One of my faults is that I have strange hard limits...I will not date lawyers, guys with too much money or a job that gives them too much power if they decided to abuse it. I am something of a social snob as well when it comes to dating, and if someone is too high above me I tell them nicely to go take a walk. I don't like to be outside of my comfort zone. Years ago when I was 18 I was dating someone from work and I was a bit overwhelmed when he got serious about our relationship...and then our boss took me to one side and told me who I was dating. It was the nephew of the owner. Back then the place wasn't that big but there was a chain of them across the USA. I am ashamed to say that I hurt him and I regret doing so, but I was horrified and bolted...and left him holding the phone, leaving calls to me that I would never answer, and I even left my job and moved. I have grown up since then, but reasonable or not this is still a hard limit. I try to screen them out early on and am honest with them about why I am not intereted. Don't want men to think that they are unattractive or have a rotten personality, the blame falls on me, not on them. With another guy who lives about 15 minutes away from where I live...yeah, I was a bit rude there too. We exchanged a few letters and then when I fired one off...my letter sat here unopened for five days. (He came here several times during those five days, so he hadn't had some unfortunate accident and neither had his computer.) I wasn't mean, but on the other hand he did consider it rude and unfair, because I told him I cannot develop an interest in someone who would just let my mail sit there growing cobwebs for five days. I was not being snarky, if he were into me he would want more frequent contact; being a low priority told me all I needed to know.
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