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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 9:47:34 AM

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Yep, something like 1/3 of all women have a tipped uterus. I wish mine still tilted as much as it did before I had kids. I never got cramps. Now I do.

I only like pain when I'm inflicting it on others.

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 10:07:59 AM

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Mine is not tippy, but I am shallow, and ther is the fibroid/endo thing..which is under con trol, but yanno...

Need any more information, Focus? I can run down the list of from-behind iterations, tell you which works best. Peopn--you're taking careful notes, right?

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 10:34:00 AM

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I'm not a Domme, nor do I do it with men, but the principals are probably the same. I don't think there is anything dominant or submissive in any particular position. It doesn't matter to me really if I'm bent over the couch arm or sprawled out on the bed, its happening in that position because she wants it to. That's what makes it a submissive position. I have my favourite and least favourite positions, but those preferences are based on how the sex itself feels, not on how submissive it makes me feel. Hanners likes getting done as well, and believe me there is nothing submissive about it when she tells me to take her doggie style.

As far as any position giving me the biggest submissive thrill, cowgirl anal. To be clinging to her and staring into her eyes as I do it to myself to amuse her just puts me into my space right away. Being in complete control of the physical actions and yet actively doing something I find uncomfortable and unpleasant to please her, well to me that's sort of the essence of submission.

I had more rambling thoughts, but they weren't really related, so I'll think about them a little more and maybe start a separate thread.

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 10:37:48 AM

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Authority does not change with position.

Oh, very well said!

I am also a Domme that enjoys being entered from behind (although calling it "doggy style" sounds kind of tacky to me). I like the way it feels overall, and the amount of depth my partner can achieve. And I don't think a man's being "on top" physically has any bearing on the power dynamic between the two people. If a woman is dominant, her dominance will go much deeper than a sexual position.

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 12:11:59 PM

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As said a few posts above, it's not the position, its the mindset and the intent.

I understand what Focus is saying because being behind, taking a boy with a strap-on (doggy style) can feel very dominant and powerful. Likewise, I can lie on my back in the missionary position, or receive doggy style, completely controlling the action, and feel feminine, dominant and powerful.

I can 'catch' or 'pitch' and be in complete control. I can get enjoyable sensations either way with a skilled partner.
I get my emotional, Dominant goodies, when I'm controlling the action and that is what knocks it out of the park for Me.

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 12:26:10 PM

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Tipped vaginas are very common

Yep, tribute dommes are common at CM, so I hear.

I thought I'd better just get that joke out of the way, else it'd linger like a bluebottle.

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 1:29:07 PM

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I receive any service from my hot owned studboys that I think will feel good, whether it's back massaging, toe sucking, doing my dishes, washing my car, or giving me stud service doggy style. Having a human doggy on a leash and whistling, "Here, Fido, good boy" as he obediently services me would just be the extra kinky icing on the cake.

Yeah, that's kinda what I figured - what I called the setting of headspace. I didn't figure on the barracking but - supoib...!

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 1:40:33 PM

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Doggy style/animal fucking is perfect because it's a guaranteed orgasm for me...g-spot position and all that jazz. It also allows for me to grip the bejesus out of his cock internally even more and therefore control what he does with it.
Even better when done in front of a mirror...you still have the eye contact which is a huge aspect of control for me.

*fans herself*...goodness, it's warm in here.

Lol, some things really are done with mirrors.... And yeah, the "internal grip" is most informative as I tend to instinctively tell her to "spread 'em", with the help of a little kick of her insteps.

Thankyou.

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 1:48:40 PM

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So, to sum up: Focus is focused (ding!) on the semantics of whose legs go where and who's holding onto what and what that means in terms of dominance in that position.

Our sample of dommes, on the other hand, seem to focus on the intensity of the woman's pleasure and control of her own hip movement in that position.

Fair assessment?

Semantics? There are still two genders out there and I concede I only have the wiring of the male variety.

And since Dom physiology is (still?) different to that of Domme, I would've said "technique".... <shrugs>

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 1:52:56 PM

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If I want it from behind, that's how I get it. It's a good position, gwnerally. I don't like the "cowgirl" positons, my insides settle funny, and most mean are just not endowed enough to make that aworthwhile ride.

Ummmm....., ouch! lol

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 2:06:03 PM

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Ok, there's possibly going to be some female TMI here, but you asked for it so suck it up.

My uterus has a tendency to tilt backwards. It's closer to midline now that I've had children, but it still tips a bit. This makes it more likely that the guy will bump against my cervix during doggie-style sex, which can be painful. I can, and do, enjoy it doggie-style from time to time, but I have to prop myself up with pillows and contort myself into an odd position to get comfortable. He also has to be more careful and adjust his strokes to be shallower. When engaged in doggie-style sex, I'm constantly giving directions and feedback to make sure he isn't hurting me.

I have to be more in control during doggie-style sex than I do during sex in the missionary position. He may be in a position that could be physically dominant, but I'm the one in control. Always.

Consider it "sucked up", though I don't get why it had to be adversarial....

I gather the "directions and feedback" is twofold - general control, anyway?

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 2:15:59 PM

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Mine is not tippy, but I am shallow, and ther is the fibroid/endo thing..which is under con trol, but yanno...

Need any more information, Focus? I can run down the list of from-behind iterations, tell you which works best. Peopn--you're taking careful notes, right?

Nah; along with individual physiology, I think probably everyone over 40 has something they need to manage in the health department, too, and that information is best left for those who need to know....

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 2:35:10 PM

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I'm not a Domme, nor do I do it with men, but the principals are probably the same. I don't think there is anything dominant or submissive in any particular position. It doesn't matter to me really if I'm bent over the couch arm or sprawled out on the bed, its happening in that position because she wants it to. That's what makes it a submissive position. I have my favourite and least favourite positions, but those preferences are based on how the sex itself feels, not on how submissive it makes me feel. Hanners likes getting done as well, and believe me there is nothing submissive about it when she tells me to take her doggie style.

As far as any position giving me the biggest submissive thrill, cowgirl anal. To be clinging to her and staring into her eyes as I do it to myself to amuse her just puts me into my space right away. Being in complete control of the physical actions and yet actively doing something I find uncomfortable and unpleasant to please her, well to me that's sort of the essence of submission.

I had more rambling thoughts, but they weren't really related, so I'll think about them a little more and maybe start a separate thread.

We'll hafta disagree there; that many things within D/s are symbolic - for example, giving a throat fucking....

But yeah, most things D/s come down to the setting of headspace.

Thankyou.

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 2:50:00 PM

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Authority does not change with position.

Oh, very well said!

I am also a Domme that enjoys being entered from behind (although calling it "doggy style" sounds kind of tacky to me). I like the way it feels overall, and the amount of depth my partner can achieve. And I don't think a man's being "on top" physically has any bearing on the power dynamic between the two people. If a woman is dominant, her dominance will go much deeper than a sexual position.

Yeahhhh..... but.....

I mean, I don't need female wiring to rationalise what you're saying here (in a generic sense). If a Domme didn't enjoy doggy-style...., errrrm..., end of story?

I'm wondering if you get from a male perspective that being above and behind; of gripping the female etc is powerful and (non-lifestyle) dominant in its own right...? It's primal and animal etc. Which is why I'm asking the mechanics and intricacies of how Dommes overcome that....

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 3:11:32 PM

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That's the thing, Focus. I don't need your wiring, either. I don't need brute strength during fucking.

Believe it or not, I don't spend a moment caring about how male Dominants fuck. Never occurs to Me.

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 3:29:17 PM

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Believe it or not, I don't spend a moment caring about how male Dominants fuck. Never occurs to Me.

I gave it very brief consideration and came to the conclusion that they're also playing the old "in and out" game...

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 3:41:46 PM

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As a straight sub female, I enjoy it because of the sexual objectification. He wants me, he bends me over and takes me, and I get to feel his physical strength in the process. What's not to like in that? However there's a huge added enjoyment because it's g spot time which means great physical orgasms as well. Add in the fact he can pull my hair or spank my ass, and it's hard to imagine much better. I also enjoyed it with my vanilla ex simply because of the g spot stimulation.

But I don't like my head pushed into the pillows, my allergies are such that I prefer my nose being free.

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 3:47:56 PM

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So, to sum up: Focus is focused (ding!) on the semantics of whose legs go where and who's holding onto what and what that means in terms of dominance in that position.

Our sample of dommes, on the other hand, seem to focus on the intensity of the woman's pleasure and control of her own hip movement in that position.

Fair assessment?

Semantics? There are still two genders out there and I concede I only have the wiring of the male variety.

And since Dom physiology is (still?) different to that of Domme, I would've said "technique".... <shrugs>

Focus.

I have literally no idea what you're talking about, Focus. That is not an exaggeration. I do not know how any of the above sentences are supposed to relate to anything I said.

Since you're questioning the word semantics, I meant that you're considering the symbolism of how body parts are arranged, and whether that symbolism implies dominance or submission, while none of the women answering you care about that symbolism. Nothing to do with how many genders there are 'out there', or what variety of 'wiring' you have, or any differences in physiology. Or technique, for that matter.

Seriously, I've no idea what you meant in this answer. If you hadn't started it with the word semantics I would have assumed you'd just quoted the wrong person and were talking to someone else.

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 3:47:56 PM

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As a straight sub female, I enjoy it because of the sexual objectification. He wants me, he bends me over and takes me, and I get to feel his physical strength in the process. What's not to like in that? However there's a huge added enjoyment because it's g spot time which means great physical orgasms as well. Add in the fact he can pull my hair or spank my ass, and it's hard to imagine much better. I also enjoyed it with my vanilla ex simply because of the g spot stimulation.

But I don't like my head pushed into the pillows, my allergies are such that I prefer my nose being free.

We can agree on the g spot stimulation but I just don't feel objectified at all, that would be the instant turn off, if he wants an object, he can go and fuck an inflatable doll, it's actually comfy, we both have freedom of movement, I can push back as light or as hard as I want, I can keep my legs together or apart (also makes a difference with the depth) and depending where I am in my cycle deep penetration might be painful (don't like my cervix being banged), it's a lot more comfy than being on top or being below and yeah, he has his hands free and can play with my nipples and my clit... He better not gets any ideas of spanking my ass if he wants to keep his hands...

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RE: Dommes and Doggy-style. - 5/28/2011 3:51:28 PM

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I know that, but I understand that Focus feels he is objectifying his partner during this, and that I can feel objectified as well.You're telling your partner how fast and to move his hands if he's hurting you, you're still in charge. I was just saying that as a sub, I can feel objectified in this position and I find it hot.

I get the hotness factor plus the g spot factor so it makes it a win position for me in every way. I don't get that in woman on top, it doesn't do anything for me mentally or physically.

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