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RE: Is masturbation still sex, and other random questio... - 7/31/2011 5:28:32 AM   
kallisto


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Status: offline 		1. Is sex with your partner (or past partner, or hypothetical partner) meaningful to you? Yes ... Absolutely

2. Do you consider masturbation to be a sexual act? Yes

3. Do you masturbate in front of your partner? Yes, I have to admit though, my husband/dom had to "teach" me to masturbate in front of him. And I had to get over the notion that when he masturbated in front of me, that it wasn't because I was doing something wrong or not pleasing him. And, if so, do you consider it to be sexual? Yes Is it meaningful when you do? Yes

4. Do you masturbate over the phone with your partner? Yes Do you consider this sexual? Yes Does this have any less meaning than masturbating in person? No, sometimes it can have more meaning if there has been a substantial time apart.

5. Do you get off watching your partner have sex with others? I don't think I could handle that in reality ... I'm wired to be monogamous . It's a fantasy at times .... but I also believe that some fantasies are best left as fantasies. Would you consider that masturbation, since you are not actually being touched? No, it would be voyeurism (sp)

6. Any other thoughts on couples (or relationship groups) masturbating within the relationship? It's always been a healthy part of the relationships I've been in.


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RE: Is masturbation still sex, and other random questio... - 7/31/2011 5:48:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		1. Is sex with your partner (or past partner, or hypothetical partner) meaningful to you?
Absolutely, however, it hasnt always been in the past, before I got married. Always enjoyed it, didnt need love ...just lust. Partners now matter:)


2. Do you consider masturbation to be a sexual act?
Absolutely, If it wasnt it wouldnt be so much fun


3. Do you masturbate in front of your partner? And, if so, do you consider it to be sexual? Is it meaningful when you do?
Absolutely and in as many different ways as possible, both BDSM and vanilla, as pleasure, as desire, as control, as fun, as a reward, as a need and as playing around.



4. Do you masturbate over the phone with your partner? Do you consider this sexual? Does this have any less meaning than masturbating in person?
Yes, yes, no its mutual masturbation:) it has its own pleasures its own losses, its differences



5. Do you get off watching your partner have sex with others? Would you consider that masturbation, since you are not actually being touched?
No, not my thang



6. Any other thoughts on couples (or relationship groups) masturbating within the relationship?
whatever feels good is each couples decision
being able to discuss without feeling emnity or troubled by ones sexual proclivities is important to a ltr.. hopefully one that is full of lust and healthy masturbation and sex. Nilla or the heaviest BDSM. if it feels good, share it. who with? thats up to you and the partner:)




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RE: Is masturbation still sex, and other random questio... - 7/31/2011 11:51:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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I usually try not to be snarky, but sorry, some of these are really pretty dumb and obvious questions.

My answer to all the questions (including the supplemental) is YES


The context you are missing is that the OP and Hannah were having a difference of opinion here: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3789403/mpage_1/tm.htm

To sum it up, Hannah's position is that online-only is only masturbating, so here the OP is attempting to find meaning in masturbation, but (IMO), leaving out the critical question - what if solo masturbation is the sole form of physical sexual expression between the couple?


Please do not attempt to explain my intent with the OP.  Yes it's true that the other thread prompted some of these questions, but this thread was just a lighthearted "Hey I wonder what people think about masturbation in general" thread.  And the thread is as I presented it - not limited to solo masturbation.  I was curious how people felt in general, about masturbating within relationships.

But sure, we can toss in your question, too, since you think it's critical. 

As for "obvious" (and I think pam said "dumb") questions - OK, you can think that.  Like I said, this was just a fun and lighthearted thread for me, which is why I posted it here in Off Topics, rather than in the BDSM section.  And given some of the differences in views presented here, apparently not everyone sees masturbation the same.

Can we just have fun with this, folks?


Edited to remove an extra word floating around up there.


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RE: Is masturbation still sex, and other random questio... - 7/31/2011 11:53:22 AM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD


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ORIGINAL: kalikshama
The context you are missing is that the OP and Hannah were having a difference of opinion here: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3789403/mpage_1/tm.htm

To sum it up, Hannah's position is that online-only is only masturbating, so here the OP is attempting to find meaning in masturbation, but (IMO), leaving out the critical question - what if solo masturbation is the sole form of physical sexual expression between the couple?


It was disingenuous to leave that out.

Jerking off to someone you've never met on the internet is as meaningful as jerking off to porn. (Unless, for some reason, you happen to be the porn star's girlfriend.) In other words, it is NOT an expression of a"relationship" between two people. It is an expression of the relationship between yourself and your right hand.

pam


What happens when you're a lefty? :D


No, the REAL question here is, "If you're ambidextrous, are you polyamorously masturbating???"


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RE: Is masturbation still sex, and other random questio... - 7/31/2011 11:58:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida
Is sex with your partner (or past partner, or hypothetical partner) meaningful to you?

Surely sex with a "hypothetical" partner is masturbation?

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RE: Is masturbation still sex, and other random questio... - 7/31/2011 12:07:42 PM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: Moonhead


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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida
Is sex with your partner (or past partner, or hypothetical partner) meaningful to you?

Surely sex with a "hypothetical" partner is masturbation?

LOL yes, putting it that way, absolutely.  Haha, I hadn't considered that.  It was a clumsy attempt to include those who aren't partnered up currently - hypothetically, if you had a partner and did this....blah blah blah.

But yeah, sex with a hypothetical partner is pretty much masturbation. 


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